Buyekeza Indawo Yengane Nokuzimela Kuqala
Ukubuyisa emuva, ukuphawula kwe-sassy nokuziphatheka kabi kwezingane kuyisikhalazo esijwayelekile phakathi kwabazali, futhi kungabangela ezinye izinkinga emndenini uma ukuziphatha kungavunyelwe. Yini abahlinzeki nabahlinzeki bokunakekela izingane abangayenza ukuze bayeke lokhu kuziphatha okungamukeleki? Nazi ezinye izicebiso:
Yazi ukuthi yiluphi ulimi olusetshenziswa KuMntanakho
Uhlobo luni lwenkulumo oluqhubekayo oluzungeze ingane yakho?
Ngabe usho ukuthini ukuhlambalaza, ukulwa nokukhuluma okungalungile? Izingane zifanekisela abazali bazo futhi uma zibonisa ukuziphatha okungathandeki, ingane yakho isiqiniseke ukuthi iyayiphinde. Uma wazi ukuthi ikhaya lakho akuyona indawo ingane yakho eqoqa lezi zimo zokuziphatha, unake ezinye izindawo zakhe, njengokuthi abahlinzeki bezinsuku baxoxa kanjani, nokuthi izihlobo zikhulumisana kanjani. Uma ubona enye yengane yengane yakho lapho ukuziphatha okubi kuvela khona, kungadingeka ushintshe imvelo .
Qaphela imizwa yengane yakho
Ngokuvamile lapho ingane ikhuluma, ubonisa ngempela intukuthelo, ukukhungatheka, ukwesaba noma ukulimala. Ukukhuluma emuva kuqinisekisa ukuthi uzolalela, futhi ukunakwa okungalungile kungcono kunokunye. Ukukhuluma emuva kanye nezinye izinkinga zokuziphatha kuvame kakhulu ngezikhathi zokuguquka, njengengane entsha endlini, ukushintsha esimisweni somsebenzi womzali noma into eqhubekayo esikoleni.
Ingane yakho ingase izwe inganakiwe noma ishiywe futhi iphendukele enkulumweni elandelayo ukuze nje ulalele.
Qaphela Ukuzihlonipha Kwengane Yakho, Izwe Lokungenamandla Nezinga Lenduduzo
Ingabe lo mfana uzizwa engenamandla noma engalaleli? Ingabe ubonakala engenakho ukulawula? Kungenzeka yini ukuthi inkulumo-ngemuva iyenzeka ngoba ingane ithole ukuthi iyindlela ephumelela kakhulu yokuthola umuntu omdala ukuba amlalele futhi athole lokho akufunayo?
Futhi, uma kunjalo, ukubhekana nalezi zinkinga kuqala kungase kuxazululwe inkinga.
Yakha ukuziphatha okulindelekile futhi unikele ngezinye izindlela
Fundisa izingane ukuthi ukukhuluma ngakho akuvunyelwe futhi zinikeze ezinye izindlela zalokho okuvunyelwe. Mane nje uthi: "Ukukhuluma ngaleyo ndlela akuvumelekile" futhi unikeze isibonelo ngendlela efanele yokusho isitatimende. Hlala uqinile futhi uqondise futhi uqondise lokhu okulindeleke kubo bonke abanakekeli. Ukuvumelana kubalulekile ekuguqukeni kokuziphatha. Nika ingane indlela ehlukile, inhlonipho yokusebenzisa ulimi.
Fundisa Imiphumela
Lesi sifundo esibalulekile kufanele siqondwe yingane ekhuluma emuva. Abantu abadala bangasho nje ukuthi: "Ngeke ngikhulume nawe noma ngilalele ngenkathi unalo ithoni nami. Uma ushintsha indlela okhuluma ngayo nami, ngizokujabulela ukulalela." Abazali nabanakekeli kufanele bahlale belalela ngokulalela nokulalela ngenkathi ingane ishintsha ithoni yakhe.
Fundisa Izindlela Zokuxhumana Ezifanele
Ngezinye izikhathi, ingane ayikwazi ngempela ukucela izinto noma ukuxhumana. Esilungiselelweni esifanele nesikhathi (futhi hhayi lapho ingane ivele inselele umuntu omdala nge-back-talk), tshela ngokuzithoba umfana indlela yokuxhumana kahle . Mvulela ikhono lomntanakho emphakathini ofanele ngokuqiniswa okuhle.
Noma kunjalo, qiniseka ukuthi bayaqonda ukuthi ukucela ngokuhlonipha okwamanje akusho ukuthi bayothola umphumela abawucela. Dumisani ukuziphatha okuhle kwengane yakho. Ungase uthi "Ngiyathanda ngempela indlela owathi ucele amanye amaminithi amabili ePad kodwa sekuyisikhathi sokudla."
Fundisa Ingane Yakho Indlela Yokusingatha Ukudumazeka Nokuhluleka
Izikhathi eziningi ukukhuluma emuva kuvela emntwaneni ozwa udangele noma othukuthele. Fundisa izindlela zakho ezinganeni zokubhekana noma ukudumazeka ngezwi noma ukungajabuli ngaphandle kokukhuluma nomuntu omdala. Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuba ikhulume ukukhungatheka kanye nemizwa yokudabuka futhi ungabhodli le mizwa kuze kube yilapho iqhuma ngesimo sengqondo.
I-Role Play Scenarios
Qinisekisa ukuthi ukuphendula okungalungile / ukuziphatha kufanele kulandelwe njalo ukuxolisa kanye nomzamo wokuphinda ulayishe ukukhulumisana ngethoni engeyona "ye-sassy". Dlalani nezingane zakho izindlela ezihlukile zokukhuluma ezimweni ezithile futhi nizijabulise futhi zibe mnandi. Izingane zithandwa kakhulu ukuba zihlanganyele emidlalweni engcolile futhi zizokhumbula imidlalo uma sekuyisikhathi sokuxhumana kahle.