Imibuzo Yokuzibuza
Wake wake wazibuza ukuthi ukuzinakekela kuyinkinga enganeni yakho? Ukukhohlwa kuye kwaba ezindabeni kancane kancane, nezinhlelo zangempela zibonisa abantu abadala abanjwe ngemuva kwezintaba ze-junk. Mhlawumbe ubuke egumbini lomntanakho, enezinqwaba zezinto ezingavamile ezikhuphukela emaphoyiseni okufakelwa, izikhwama zepulasitiki, udoti olususwe phansi, amaphepha omoto wamahhala esitolo, izimoto zezitokisi azizange zidlalwe kodwa ziqashwe ngonya - futhi zibuza, "Ingabe ingane yami i-hoarder? Ingabe kufanele ngenze okuthile ukuze ngiyeke lokhu?"
Ukugxeka akuyona ukuxilongwa kwangempela kwengqondo ngalesi sikhathi, nakuba kungaba uphawu lokuthola izifo ezifana ne-obsessive-compulsive disorder noma disorder attachment disorder. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, akuyona into engavamile yezingane ezinokukhubazeka kwentuthuko ukuqoqa ngokweqile izinto ezingase zibuke kwabanye abafana ne-junk e-hoarded - futhi akuyona neze eyingozi, noma.
Imibuzo engezansi ingakusiza ukunquma ukuthi ukukhishwa kwengane yakho kungaba uphawu lwezinkinga zengqondo, noma ngabe ukuziphatha okuqhubekayo ongase ukwazi ukusebenzisana nayo. Uma uphendula "yebo" kumbuzo owodwa kuya kwesine ngezansi, uzofuna ukubonisana nodokotela wengane yakho noma uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo ukuze uthole usizo. Uma uphendula "cha" kulabo kodwa "yebo" kokunye okunye, landela iziphakamiso zokusebenzisa lezo zithakazelo ezikhungethe ukuthuthukisa ukukhulumisana kwengane yakho nokuxhumana.
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Ingabe Ingane Yami Ingozini Engokwemvelo kusuka e-Hoarding?Kuthatha izinto eziningi ezimbi ukuze zibe yingozi ngempela. Igumbi eliyinkimbinkimbi, negumbi eligcwele izinto ingane yakho eliyigugu ngaphezu kwakho, akusikho ngokwayo kubonisa isizathu sokukhathazeka. Uma ingane yakho ingakwazi ukuphuma ekamelweni noma awukwazi ukungena, yinkinga. Uma ingane yakho igxila izinto ezingase zibe yingozi - udoti ongcolile, uthi, noma izinto ezinemiphetho ebukhali - leyo inkinga. Uma i-hoard yengane yakho yamaphepha ihlezi ngokumelene ne-heater noma ingabe ibangela ingozi, yinkinga, kodwa enye ingase ixazululwe namanye amabheji okugcina isitoreji seplastiki. Bheka umqeqeshi wezempilo yengqondo uma ukugcoba kubeka ingane yakho noma umndeni engozini engokomzimba, futhi ingane yakho imelana nemizamo yokuxazulula lokho.
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Ingabe Ingane Yami Ikhohlwa Ukudla?Amahlaya mayelana nabafana abasha abane pizza kanye sandwich ezindala ngaphansi kwemibhede yabo eceleni, ukudla ukudlala kungaba isibonakaliso inkinga enkulu kwengane noma kwentsha. Izingane ezingase zifihle futhi zigcwale ukudla zibandakanya labo abanezinkinga zokudla, i-Prader-Willi Syndrome, kanye nesifo sokuzibandakanya esisebenzayo. Akuyona into engavamile ukuba ingane ingene isitoreji esiyintandokazi noma abanye bakuthole kalula i-candy egumbini elibheke ekamelweni lokugqoka noma esikhwameni, kepha uma ubona ingane yakho igxila ukudla okuningi, ibhadla ngokudla okugcotshiwe, ukweba ukudla ukugada, noma ukubonisa okunye Ukulungiswa okungekho emthethweni ekudleni, sekuyisikhathi sokukutshela ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo noma udokotela wengane yakho.
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Ingabe Ingane Yami Intshontsha Izinto Futhi Iyabakhohlwa?Izingane ezinesithakazelo esibucayi ezintweni ezingavamile zivame ukuthola izinto, kodwa ukuthatha izinto ezisebanye futhi ziwaqede ngokuhlala njalo kuyindaba yokukhathazeka. Kodwa kubalulekile ukucabangela intando: Ingane engaziqondi ukuthi lezi zitshalo ezigumbini ezigumbini zihlala egumbini lokuphumula futhi zingekho esikhwameni seplastiki ekamelweni lakhe zihlukile kumntwana ozithatha ngamabomu izinto ezithandekayo ezivela ezininaweni nasezintweni nabo e-stash eboshiwe ekhoneni elifihliwe ekamelweni lakhe. Ukubeka izinto ezikhangayo ngaphandle kokubona kuzosiza inkinga yokuqala kodwa hhayi okwesibili, okungase kudinge ukubandakanyeka kochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo ukuthola ukuthi kungani ukweba kwenzeka.
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Ingabe Ukuzizwa Kuxhumane Nokubambe iqhaza Kwengane Yami Emisebenzini Engavamile?Umthetho owodwa wesithupha wokunquma lapho ukuziphatha kuba yinkinga kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ugcina umuntu ekuphishekeleni imisebenzi ejwayelekile yansuku zonke. Ingabe ingane yakho ikwazi ukushiya iqoqo elihlelekile ukuya esikoleni? Dlala nabangani? Bamba iqhaza ekudleni komndeni nasemisebenzini? Izingane eziningi ezinesidingo esikhethekile zingathatha induduzo enkulu phambi kwezintambo zabo, kodwa ungahlanganyeli nabo njalo noma uzisebenzise njengendlela yokuvimba umhlaba wangempela. Uma uthola ukugodla kwengane yakho kuphazamisa imisebenzi ebalulekile yokuphila (hhayi nje ngezinto ezinjengokuthi "ukugcina igumbi lakho lihle"), lokho kuyisignali enhle ukuthi yisikhathi sokukhuluma nodokotela wengane yakho noma uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo mayelana nokuqokwa.
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Ngingakwazi Yini Ukuhlela Izinto Ezingavunyelwe Ingane Yami?Izingane ezizungezile ngezinto zentshisekelo ekhululekile zingase ziqaphe ngokumangalisayo noma yikuphi ushintsho ekuqoqweni kwabo, ngisho noma leyo qoqo libukeka kuwe njengamanqina amaphepha agcwele phansi. Lokhu kungenza kube nzima ukukwenza ngokuzenzekelayo ukuhlanza okuhlanzekile. Kodwa ungase ukwazi ukusiza ingane yakho ukuletha umyalelo ku-chaos uma nje ungaqedi noma yiziphi izinto. Khuluma nengane yakho mayelana nezinketho ezifana namabhodlela ahlanzekile epulasitiki ukuze ugcine izinto zibe zihle kodwa zisekhona; amashalofu okumele abekwe kuwo; amakhetheni wefayili noma ama-drawer amayunithi wokuhlunga nokwehlisa; amayunithi esitoreji angaphansi kombhede; kanye nezinye izindlela zokuhlonipha izidingo zomntanakho zokugada kanye nesidingo sakho sokuwela phansi ngesikhathi sokulala. Uma ingane yakho imelana nayo yonke imizamo yokuthinta izinto, ngisho nemizamo ehlonipha isidingo sayo, lokho kubonisa ukuthi kungase kudingeke uthintane nodokotela wezempilo yengqondo.
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Ngingakwazi Ukusebenzisana Nezinto Ezithintekayo Zengane Yami?Umntanakho angase akhonze uma uthinta izinto ezigcotshiwe ukuze uzilahle, kodwa kukhona ithuba lokudlala nengane yakho usebenzisa lezo zinto? Landela ukuhola kwengane yakho futhi ubonise intshisekelo kulezi zinto ezivusa ukufutheka okunjalo, noma ngabe awukwazi ukubona ukuthi yini enkulu. Buza ingane yakho ukuthi ikubonise izinto ezizithandayo noma ikutshele ngabo. Buza imibuzo. Zama ukudlala ngezinto ngendlela ingane yakho eyenza ngayo. Lokhu kungaba umnyango ongangena kuwo umhlaba wangasese wengane yakho, futhi akuwona umnyango ofuna ukuwuvala.
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Ingabe Izinto Ezikhonjiwe Zingasetshenziswa Njengomvuzo?Ukuthola okuthile okugqugquzela kakhulu ingane enezidingo ezikhethekile kungaba inselelo enkulu kubazali, ngakho-ke uma ingane yakho inezinto aziqoqa ngokweqile, ungase ukwazi ukuyisebenzisa. Ukucabanga ukuthi izinto azilimazi futhi zilawulwa ngokwenhlangano, zinika ingane yakho imoto noma isihluthulelo noma umagazini noma isitifiketi sephepha esikhwameni sakho ngokubuyisela umsebenzi onentshisekelo kuwe kungase kube ukuhweba kokubili ngawe ungahlala naye. Ungase futhi ucabange ukusetha uhlelo lokutshengisa umvuzo wokuphela kube yinto "yeqoqo" lomntanakho.
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Izinto Ezingavunyelwe Kungasetshenziselwa Ukukhuthaza Ukukhulumisana?Ukukhuluma nengane yakho mayelana "neqoqo" lakhe kunokumemeza ngenye indlela yokusebenzisa lezi zinto ngenhloso yokuxhumana. Enye ukuvumela ingane yakho ikubuze imibuzo mayelana nezinto ezithakazelisayo. Ingane ebona isidingo esincane sokuxoxa ingahle iphefumulelwe ukubuza mayelana nerisiti noma imoto noma ukhiye. Thola izinto ingane yakho ingase ibe nesithakazelo ekubambeni futhi uqale ingxoxo ngabo. Sebenzisana ndawonye ukuthola izinto ongeza ngazo. Ingane yakho izohlale izimisele kakhulu ukuxhumana ngezinto ezithakazelisa kakhulu kunezinto azibonayo ukuthi azizuzi noma zikhanga.
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Ingabe Ukugcoba Kuhlale Kufana Noma Kuhanjiswe Isiqondiso Esihle?Njengoba izingane zikhula futhi zithuthuke, ubuhlobo babo kulezo zinto ezigciniwe zingashintsha. Bangase balahlekelwe nesithakazelo, futhi vumela ukuba i-stash eyodwa yezinto ilandelwe ukuze ikhiphe enye indawo. Ikakhulukazi uma usukwazi ukukhuthaza ezinye zokuxhumana eziboniswe ngenhla, ingane yakho ingase ibe neyinkimbinkimbi yokuthatha izinto, eduze neqoqo kune-hoard. Ngenhlanhla, ukuhlaselwa kuyohlala kungathathi hlangothi noma kungcono. Kodwa-ke, uma izimpendulo zakho eminye yemibuzo engenhla ziqala ukushintsha, futhi ukugodla kwengane yakho kuqala ukubonakala kungenampilo, ungahlala ubiza ngosizo.
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Ngabe ngiyakhohlisa izinto, futhi?'Ukuphelelwa yisikhathi - unayo yini izinto okudingayo ukuze uzibeke kwabanye ukuthi bathole inani elincane? Amabhokisi agcwele amaphepha esikoleni endala? Ama-Receipts avela emuva ngendlela engaphezulu kunayo i-IRS eyoke ifune ukubukeka? Amathoyizi aphukile nemishini? Izingubo ngeke uphinde ugqoke? Abaningi bethu banezinhlelo zethu zokuzibamba, ukulawulwa okungeziwe futhi okungenangqondo kakhulu kunalokho okubonayo kulabo abonakalisayo, kodwa okwanele ukusinika ukuzwelana ngenxa yezimpendulo zezingane zethu. Ngokuvamile, umehluko phakathi kwezinto eziyigugu kanye nodoti usesweni lombukeli. Yandisa ukuqonda okufanayo kwengane yakho.