Lezi zimpendulo ezilula zinganciphisa impumelelo yengane yakho. Unecala?
Akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuba umzali osekela ingane yezemidlalo. Iyiphi indlela engcono kakhulu yokusiza umdlali wakho osemncane akhule futhi athuthukise? Ungakanani okufanele uyenze, futhi uhamba yini kumqeqeshi? Okokuqala, ungakwazi ukugwema lezi zitatimende zonke-ezivamile eziba yingozi ngaphezu kokusizayo.
Ungasho ukuthi: "UJobe omuhle"
Abantu abadala abakusho kahle bathi lokhu kubantwana sonke isikhathi, kunjalo?
Yingakho kungenalutho futhi kungaba nemiphumela emibi. Akusikho okwakucatshangelwe nhlobo! "Umsebenzi omuhle" uzwakala ungafihli, ngisho nezingane. Bangatshela ukuthi usho nje ngoba ufuna ukunikeza udumo oluthile. Futhi akusizi kahle ukuthola indumiso ongayitholanga. Ngakho gcina indumiso ngezimo ezifanele, bese uchaza ukuthi usho ukuthini: "Ngiqaphele ukuthi usebenze kanzima phakathi naleso sitshalo" noma "Nice catch! Umkhuba wakho ukhokhelwe ngempela."
Ungasho ukuthi: "Kungani ungazange ..."
Ngalesi nkulumo, uqaphela ukuthi ingane yakho yenzani, kodwa hhayi ngendlela enhle. Ukhetha ukungapheleli kunamathuba okuthuthukisa. Ake sithi umdlali wakho we-basketball udinga ukusebenza kuwo. "Esikhundleni sokuthi 'amakhono akho okudubula ayibuthakathaka' noma 'akufanele uzame ukuphuma lapho,' zama ukuthi 'Uyazi, ngomzamo omncane ozinikele kumakhono akho okudonsa uzoba nomdlalo jikelele ogcwele kahle, '"kusho uJordan Fliegel, umsunguli weCoachUp (inkampani yangasese yokuqeqesha ezemidlalo).
"Umlayezo ufana," uFliegel uyaqhubeka, "kodwa ukulethwa kwehluke kakhulu."
Ungasho ukuthi: "Leyo Ref kufanele ibe ..."
Isixwayiso esibomvu! Kukhona iziphathimandla zokusiza wonke umuntu ukuba aphephe futhi adlale ngemithetho, ngakho-ke imidlalo iyamnandi futhi ihlelekile. Futhi isikhathi esiningi, ziyizisebenzi zokuvolontiya- noma ukukhokha kancane kakhulu kungenzeka.
Ngakho-ke akusiyo imidlalo emihle yokuzihlupha emasimini (amaphesenti angama-95 eqeqeshi wezemidlalo yentsha ehlolwe yi CoachUp athi baye bakuzwa lokhu!). Ukuzikhukhumeza kamuva ngasese akuyona into engcono. Ubeka ingane yakho isibonelo esimpofu, futhi imvumela ukuba agweme ukuthatha umthwalo wemaphutha yena noma iqembu lakhe okwenziwe ngempela.
Ungasho ukuthi: "Woza kanjani umqeqeshi wakho akakwazi ..."
Njengama-refs, abaqeqeshi bahlanganyela emidlalweni yentsha ngoba bayayithanda umdlalo. Akusikho neze ama-bucks amakhulu. Kodwa yibo abaholi lapha, ngakho-ke yimani futhi niyeke. Umntanakho udinga ukuba ungamsekeli ngokunganaki . Lokhu ngeke kwenzeke uma ezwa ukuthi ubanjwe empini phakathi kweseluleko somqeqeshi wakhe nomzali wakhe.
Ungasho ukuthi: "Angikwazi Ukukholelwa I-Teammate Yakho ..."
U-Fliegel unalesi seluleko kubaqeqeshi, futhi kusebenza kubazali futhi: "Ungalokothi usho lutho olungalungile ngomunye wabadlali bakho komunye umdlali. Akukona kuphela ukuthi akukhiqizi, kodwa kubangela amandla wezenhlalakahle zeqembu ." Akukuhle kumdlalo wezemidlalo wezingane zakho noma abalingani bakhe.
Okushiwo Kunalokho
UDkt. Amy Baltzell uyiprofesa yezemidlalo yezemidlalo yaseBoston University, owayengumqeqeshi we-olimpiki wangaphambili, umqeqeshi osemusha kanye nombhali ohlangene wencwadi yezemidlalo yokubeletha, ubani ongeyena umdlalo, noma kunjalo?
Uphakamisa ukususa eminye imibuzo emihle nezitatimende ezifana nalezi:
- Ingabe ujabulele ukwenza? Iyiphi ingxenye yayo?
- Ingabe ufunde lutho? Ufundeni?
- Ngakuqaphela ukuthi usebenza kanzima, uzama ngamandla.
- Ngiyaziqhenya ngokuthi uzama kanzima kangakanani.
- Ngikubone ukhuthaza umuntu osebenza naye, okwangenza ngiziqhenye ngawe.
- Ngiqaphele ukuthi emva kwethimba elilodwa lihola, ube nesibindi sokuqhubeka uzama.