Izinyathelo Ezithuthukayo Nezingane Zakho Ezingu-8

Abadala abaneminyaka engu-8 bawandisa umhlaba wabo

Abaneminyaka eyisishiyagalombili ubudala bayaziqhenya ngokwengeziwe ngokwabo nokuthi bangobani. Lapho uneminyaka engu-8 ubudala, ingane yakho cishe izokwazi ukuthuthukisa izithakazelo nokuzilibazisa futhi izokwazi ukuthi uyithandani noma ayithandi.

Ngesikhathi esifanayo, izingane zalesikhathi zifunda kabanzi mayelana nezwe jikelele futhi zikwazi kangcono ukuzulazula ubudlelwane bomphakathi nabanye ngokuzimela, ngeziqondiso ezingaphansi kwabazali. Ekhaya, izingane ezineminyaka engu-8 zikwazi ukubhekana nezinyathelo eziyinkimbinkimbi zemisebenzi yasendlini futhi zithwale umthwalo wemfanelo wokuzinakekela, ngisho nokusiza nabantwana abancane.

Ngokuvamile, ngokwe-CDC, lezi izinguquko ezithile ongase uzibone kumntwana wakho:

• Kubonisa ukuzimela okuningi kwabazali nomndeni.
• Iqala ukucabanga ngekusasa.
• Uqonda okuningi mayelana nendawo yakhe emhlabeni.
• Beka ukunakwa okungaphezulu kubangane kanye nokusebenzisana.
• Ufuna ukuthandwa futhi wamukelwe abangane.

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Ukuziphatha Nezinqubo Zansuku zonke

Ukuziphatha komuntu oneminyaka engu-8 ubudala kanye nemigomo yansuku zonke kuboniswa ukunambitheka komntwana, izithakazelo, nobuntu bakhe. Abazali kanye nabanye abadala abalulekile ekuphileni komntwana kufanele bahlale bekhumbula ukubaluleka kokuba yizibonelo ezinhle ngoba lesi yisikhathi lapho izingane zihlola izwe nokuthi zingobani nokuthi zingene kanjani. Ngalesi sikhathi, ingane yakho angabandakanyeka emisebenzini eyinkimbinkimbi yomphakathi kanye nokuziphatha okusiza ukuchaza umqondo wakhe wokuzibusa.

Amasu okuqeqesha okuphumelelayo ngalesi sikhathi ahlanganisa ukuqhubeka nokudumisa ukuziphatha okuhle, ugxile emzamweni wengane yakho, ukuthi bangenzani futhi bashintshe, kunokuba babe nezici ezingenasici (njengokuthi "uhlakaniphile"). Setha futhi usebenzise imithetho ehambisanayo. Isiyalo kufanele sihlose ukuqondisa ingane yakho kunokusijezisa. Landela ngokuxoxa nengane yakho ngalokho angakwenza ngokuhlukile ngesikhathi esizayo.

U-8 wakho oneminyaka engu-8 angakwazi ukuzinakekela ngokwengeziwe ngokuphathelene nokuhlanzeka futhi angase aqale ukufuna ukuba yingxenye yokunquma ukuthi umndeni udla. Ungase uqale ukunikeza ingane yakho imisebenzi yokubamba iqhaza ekunakekeleni umndeni kanye nesabelo sokuqala ukufunda ukuphatha imali. Kule minyaka yobudala, ingane yakho idinga amahora angu-10 kuya kwangu-11 okulala ubusuku bonke.

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Ukuthuthukiswa Komzimba

Izingane ezineminyaka engu-8 ubudala, ukuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba kuzoqhubeka nokuningi ngokulungiswa kwamakhono, ukuxhumana nokulawulwa kwamasipha esikhundleni sokushintsha okukhulu. Baqala ukubukeka "njengezingane ezinkulu," kodwa ukukhulelwa kusasele iminyaka embalwa kuningi labo.

Izingane ezinezibalo zemvelo ezingase zikwazi ukubonisa amakhono azo kule nkathi yokuthuthukiswa njengoba amakhono abo angokwenyama ecacile futhi enembile. Eqinisweni, lokhu kuvame ukuba iminyaka lapho izingane zikhetha ukuthi ziyizemidlalo noma cha, futhi zikhethe ukuhlanganyela noma ukugwema ezemidlalo. Noma ngabe yikuphi, kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bakhuthaze umsebenzi womzimba. Ngisho noma ngabe ingane yakho ayiyena umdlali angakwazi ukujabulela ukugijima, ukubhukuda, ukuhamba ngebhayisikili, nezinye izinhlobo eziningi zokuzijabulisa ngokomzimba okungezona ezemidlalo.

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Ukuthuthukiswa Komzwelo

Ukuthuthukiswa ngokomzwelo oneminyaka engu-8 kungase kukhule ezingeni elijulile kunasekuqaleni kweminyaka encane, kanti oneminyaka engu-8 angabonisa imizwelo eyinkimbinkimbi futhi eyinkimbinkimbi nokuxhumana. Isibonelo, oneminyaka engu-8 ubudala angase afihle imicabango noma imizwelo yangempela ukuze agweme imizwa yomunye umuntu noma asebenze ngenkinga ngaphandle kokuqondiswa komuntu omdala noma ukungenelela.

Lesi yisikhathi lapho ingane yakho ingase ihlakulele umqondo owusizo ngokwengeziwe emhlabeni. Izintshisekelo zakhe, amathalenta, abangane, kanye nobuhlobo nomndeni wonke kumsiza ukuba aqinisekise ukuthi uyedwa. Kuyinto futhi ukuqala kokufunwa ubumfihlo nokufakela phansi phakathi kokuzethemba nokuziphendulela.

Kungaba yisikhathi esihle sokusiza ingane yakho ibe nesineke nozwela kwabanye.

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Ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo

Izingane ezineminyaka eyisishiyagalombili zisezingeni lokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo lapho zizokwazi ukunakekelwa khona isikhathi eside. Ungalindela ukuthi ingane yakho ikwazi ukugxila emsebenzini kuze kube ihora noma ngaphezulu. Abaneminyaka eyisishiyagalombili ubudala bazokwazi ukucabanga ngokujulile futhi baveze imibono besebenzisa amakhono amaningi nesimiso esinolwazi olunzulu nolwazi olunzulu.

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Ukuthuthukiswa Komphakathi

Lesi yisigaba sokuthuthukiswa kwezenhlalakahle lapho izingane eziningi zithanda ukuyingxenye yamaqembu ezemidlalo namanye amaqembu omphakathi. Ngokuvamile, izingane ezineminyaka engu-8 ubudala zijabulela isikole futhi zizogxila futhi zisebenzise ubuhlobo nabangane abambalwa abaseduze nabalingane nabo ekilasini. Abazali abaneminyaka engu-8 kufanele bahlale bebhekene nezinkinga ezifana nokulahlwa kwesikole , njengoba lokhu kungabonisa ukuthi ufunda ubunzima noma ukuxhashazwa esikoleni. Kuyinto yobudala obuzoxoxa ngayo ngokuphathelene nabanye.

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Kuthiwani Uma Ingane Yami Ihlukile?

Amaphuzu okuthuthukiswa ahlinzeka ochwepheshe nabazali ngethuluzi lokuqhathanisa izingane ngendlela evamile. Akekho ingane ehambisana nesimiso esihle kakhulu, futhi ingane ngayinye izoba ne-quirks, amandla, izinselele, kanye nezintandokazi zakhe. Kodwa lokhu kusho, noma kunjalo, uma uzizwa ukuthi ingane yakho ingemuva noma ihamba phambili, kufanelekile ukuxoxa ngale ndaba nothisha wezingane kanye nothisha wengane yakho. Uma kunezinkinga noma amathuba, manje sekuyisikhathi sokufunda futhi ukubhekana nabo.

Izwi elivela ku-Verywell

Umntwana wakho oneminyaka engu-8 usekuqhakazeni okugcwele ebuntwaneni. Jabulela imisebenzi futhi uhlole umhlaba ndawonye. Yisikhathi esihle sokwenza izithakazelo ezintsha kumntanakho futhi ubukele ukuthi ukhule njalo.

> Imithombo:

> U-Anthony, uMichelle. Ukuphila ngokomzwelo kwabantu abaneminyaka engu-8-10 ubudala. Ukushicilela okufundiswayo.

> Chaplin TM, Aldao A. Ukuhlukana kobulili ekukhulumeni kwemizwelo ezinganeni: Ukubuyekezwa kwe-meta-analytical Bulletin yengqondo . 2013; 139 (4): 735-765. i-doi: 10.1037 / a0030737.

> Ubuntwana obuphakathi. I-CDC.