Lapho ogogo nomkhulu bengavunyelwa ukuxhumana nabazukulu, bangase babe nomuzwa wokuthi ukungabi nabulungisa kwenziwe. Unogogo nomkhulu kungenzeka ukuthi sebezwile ukuthi banelungelo elingokomthetho lokubona abazukulu babo, futhi, uma umndeni uvele ubonakala unomphela, bangase bacabangele ukuthethwa kwecala. Lokhu kuphendula kuyaqondakala. Ukuqedwa kwabazukulu kungabangela usizi, ikakhulukazi lapho sekuye kwaba khona ukuxhumana okuvame kakhulu phakathi kogogo nomkhulu nabazukulu.
Noma kunjalo, ogogo nomkhulu ocabanga ukuthi bafuna amalungelo okuvakasha kufanele babe nomqondo ocacile wemiphumela yokuletha ukulandelana nabazali babo abazukulu babo.
Izindleko zezezimali
Cishe njalo umbuzo wokuqala obaba nogogo babuza mayelana nezindleko. Kuzobiza malini? Lowo mbuzo awukwazi ukuphendulwa ngoba izimali zomthetho azizinzile. Abanye ogogo nomkhulu bayakwazi ukuzimela enkantolo ngokulondolozwa okukhulu. Kuningi kuxhomeke ekubuneni kwemithetho esifundazweni lapho kufakwa khona i-suit. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ezinye izimo ziqonde ngqo kunabanye, futhi abanye okhulu nomkhulu bafanelekile kunabanye ukubhekana nokucindezeleka kokuzimela.
Uma izinkonzo zommeli zidingeka, ithebhu ingahamba kalula kuma-makumi ezinkulungwane zamaRandi. Ngaphandle kwemali ekhokhwa kummeli omele ogogo nomkhulu, amaqembu e-suit kufanele akhokhe izindleko zenkantolo. Kwezinye uthi, iqembu elilahlekelwa yi-suit lingase liceliwe ukuthi likhokhe izindleko zenkantolo zenye iqembu.
Ezinye izindleko zingase zikhule, njengezindleko zomkhangisi wesikhangiso . Lo ummeli noma omunye umuntu ongamiswa ukuba amele abazukulu. Enye insizakalo engakwazi ukuthwala umthamo wamanani ukukhulumisana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma i-suit yasekuqaleni inqobile, izimo zingase ziphoqelele ukubuyela enkantolo esikhathini esilandelayo, ngezindleko ezithintekayo.
Ngaphandle kokucabangela izindleko kubo, ugogo nomkhulu kumele babheke nesibalo sokuthi icala lingathatha imali yabazali. Inkinga yezezimali kubazali ivame ukuhumusha ubunzima kubantwana.
Ukulahlekelwa Ubumfihlo
Enye indleko yokuya enkantolo yilahlekelwa yimfihlo. Ukufakaza enkantolo kusho ukuhlanganyela izingxabano zomndeni nabantu abaningi, kusho u-Karen A. Wyle, ummeli ophikisayo owaziyo ukuphikisana izingxabano, ngokuxoxisana nge-imeyili. Okokuqala, ugogo nomkhulu kufanele badalule konke kummeli wabo. UWyle, obengumbhali we-amicus esifushane ku-Troxel v. Granville, uxwayisa ukuthi ukuletha okufanayo kusho ukucela abangane nomndeni "ukuba bahlanganyele emndenini womzwelo," uma benolwazi olufanele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ugogo nomkhulu nabazali bangalindela "ukufakaza ngomlando womndeni kanye nokuguquguquka" futhi baphenywe ngalezi zinkinga. Kwezinye izimo, amaqembu angaphinde afakwe isicelo sokuhlolwa kwengqondo.
Umphumela kuMgogo
Ingqikithi ephindaphindiwe ekhulunywa nogogo nomkhulu ukwesaba kwabo ukuthi umzukulu wabo uzozizwa elahliwe ngugogo nomkhulu. Ngokuqinisekile lokho kuwukukhathazeka okusemthethweni; Kodwa-ke, abazukulu ababhekene nempi yezomthetho bangase babe nemiphumela engathandeki:
- Kungase kudingeke baxoxe ngezinto zomndeni siqu nabameli, izisebenzi zomphakathi kanye nabahluleli.
- Bangase bazizwe becindezelwa ukuba bakhethe phakathi kwabazali babo nogogo nomkhulu.
- Bangase bazizwe benecala ngokuthi yilokho okuyisikhungo senkinga.
- I-suit ingafaka ukungabaza ngokugunyazwa kwabazali noma isahlulelo.
- Isimo sabo sokuphila singagcwaliseka kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma i-suit idala ubunzima bezezimali.
Isenzo sokuvakashelwa kwabazali omkhulu sivame ukulandela ukukhungatheka komndeni, njengokuhlukanisa, ukufa komzali noma ukuboshwa komzali. Umthelela wabazukulu abaye balahlekelwa yilokho okumele kudingeke kube khona.
Umthetho udinga ukuthi izinqumo zokuvakashelwa kwabazali omkhulu zisekelwe ekuthandweni kwengane, kepha akulula ukuthola ukuthi yiziphi izenzo ezingcono kakhulu kwengane.
Okunye okuya ku-Litigation
Ukucabangela izindleko, ezezimali kanye nokunye, okuphathelene namalungelo okuvakasha, kufanele ugogo nomkhulu bacabangele ezinye izinketho? Lo umbuzo kuphela obazali nogogo abangathintekayo abangaphendula. Ezimweni lapho ugogo nomkhulu bekhathazeka ngenhlalakahle yabazukulu babo abangahle baxoshwe ngokuxhumana nabo, ukuhlukunyezwa kungabonakala sengathi kuyisixazululo kuphela. Abazali abahlukumezayo , abasebenzisa izidakamizwa, noma abanenkinga yengqondo ngezinye izikhathi bagcina izingane zabo zigcinwe naphezu kokuntuleka kwabo emzimbeni. Kulezi zimo, ugogo nomkhulu bangase babe nomuzwa wokuthi kufanele baxhumane nabazukulu babo ukuze bagcine okungenani ukubuka okuyingxenye enhlalakahleni yabo.
Kwezinye izimo, ugogo nomkhulu bangase bayeluleke ukuba bazame ukubuyisana noma banikeze isikhathi sokuzixazulula. Ezinye izingxabano zomndeni zishaya. Kungathatha iminyaka ukuvuselela ubudlelwane obuhle, kodwa ugogo nomkhulu othabatha izingane zabo enkantolo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi umphumela, cishe bafaka ukuphela okuphelele kunoma yiliphi ithemba lobudlelwane obuhle.
Eminye imindeni izozuza ngokululekwa noma ukuxoxisana. Ngokuvamile kaningi okuyingxenye yenkambiso yenkantolo, imindeni nayo ingafuna lezo zinsizakalo zodwa. Isithiyo esikhulu sokuphumelela kokululekwa noma ukuxazululwa yinkinga yokuthola ukuthenga kuzo zonke izinhlangothi ezibandakanyekayo. Izindleko nakho kuyinkinga. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umeluleki noma umlamuleli angabonakala, ngokufanele noma ngokungalungile, njengokungabonisi noma ukuthatha izinhlangothi.
Izwi Lokugcina
Yonke imibuso e-United States idlulisele umthetho obeka amanye amalungelo omama nomkhulu, nakuba lawo malungelo anqunyelwe. Lokhu kungeke kube njalo ngaphandle kokuqashelwa kabanzi kokubaluleka kogogo nomkhulu ezinganeni zezingane kanye nobuhlungu obungabangelwa uma uxhumano lwenqatshelwa. Noma kunjalo, ogogo nomkhulu okhetha ukuphikisa amalungelo okuvakasha kufanele baqaphele ukuthi leyo nqubo, futhi, ingabangela ubunzima nobuhlungu obukhulu.