Inkinga ephikisanayo ebuhlotsheni bomzali nomkhulu ukuthi abazali banomuzwa wokuthi unogogo nomkhulu baphelela imingcele. Ngezinye izikhathi banomuzwa wokuthi ugogo nomkhulu bahlukumeza ilungelo labazali lokwenza izinqumo mayelana nezingane zabo. Ngezinye izikhathi inkinga iwukuba ogogo nomkhulu baphakamisa ngezikhathi ezikhethekile futhi bacele amalungelo akhethekile okuyiwona ongokoqobo kubazali.
Ogogo nomkhulu abaningi bakhulisa abazukulu babo ngenxa yezimo ezingaphezu kwamandla abo. Laba bogogo nomkhulu kufanele bahlanganyele ngesikhathi esifanayo nendima yokukhulisa izingane nabazali. Ababona ugogo nomkhulu oxoxwa lapha. Benza umsebenzi onzima futhi bafanelwe ukugxekwa, hhayi ukugxeka.
Uma ogogo nomkhulu behlinzeka ngokunakekelwa kwengane njalo , noma lapho behlala nabazukulu babo ekhaya elisezingeni eliphezulu, amathuba okuba nemingcele ayanda. Kodwa lezi zinkinga zingenzeka kunoma yisiphi isimo sokugogobala. Ukuphulwa kwemingcele kuyinkinga emibambiswaneni eminingi yomndeni, kuhlanganise nezingxabano eziholela kubazali nogogo behlukaniswa nabazukulu.
Okushiwo Abazali
Amehlo ami aqale avuleka esihlokweni semingcele ngumzali owathumela kwenye yezindawo zami zogogo. Isihloko esiphezulu sokuthunyelwe kwakhe kwakungenxa yokuthi logogo nomkhulu kufanele bahlehlise, ngoba abazukulu babo abasizona izingane zabo, futhi ugogo nomkhulu abafuni ukubiza isibhamu.
Weluleka ugogo nomkhulu ku-Google ukuthi "kanjani ukuthi ugogo nomkhulu babuyele emuva" noma "umkhwekazi osebenza njengabantwana bami bangabakhe." Imiphumela, ephikisana nayo, izobonisa ukuthi unogogo nogogo abaningi banecala lokungahloniphi imingcele.
Yikuphi Ugogo Nomkhulu Okufanele Ayenze
Ngenza nje lokho akushilo, futhi ngabona ezinye izinto eziphazamisayo.
Ugogo nomkhulu abaningi babonisa ubufakazi bokuthi bahlukumezeka phakathi kokukhulisa abazali nokukhulisa izingane. Yiqiniso, lezi zigameko zabikwa ngabazali, abangase bangathembeki futhi bangabi namalungelo. Noma kunjalo, ngabona izindawo lapho abanye ogogo nomkhulu beqede imingcele. Nazi ezinye izeluleko ezisekelwe kulokho engikufundayo:
- Ugogo nomkhulu abakutholi ukwenza izinqumo zomzali, njengokuthi balala-ndawonye , nini lapho behamba ngesitimela futhi uma sekuyisikhathi sokuqala esikoleni . Ukuphela kwendaba.
- Njengoba ugogo nomkhulu bengenzi ukwenza izinqumo zomzali, kufanele ugweme ukuveza umbono wakho mayelana nezinqumo ezinjalo. Uma ubuzwa umbono, ungawunikeza, kodwa ubhekisele embonweni. Uma ubhala umqondo ngokuthi "uyisiphukuphuku," "ukungaziphathi kahle" noma "ukunganaki," futhi abazali banquma ukungena kuleso siqondiso, ngeke bakhohlwe amazwi akho.
- Uma ungumkhulu-nkulu ofaka imali ngokwezenhlalakahle zabazukulu bakho, lowo mnikelo awukuthengi okungeziwe emiphakathini yabazukulu bakho. Usengumkhulu omkhulu. Uma ungeke uphile nalokhu okuyiqiniso, gcina imali yakho.
- Ungabhekiseli kubazukulu bakho ngokuthi "izingane zami," "othandekayo bami," "abafana bami" noma "amantombazane ami." Lokhu kuzobonakala kungenacala ngokwanele kunogogo nomkhulu. Yiqiniso, sizosho, siyazi ukuthi abasibo. Kuyindlela nje yokukhuluma. Kodwa abazali abakhathaleli. Abafuni ukungazi kahle ukuthi izingane zingabani.
- Esihlokweni esilandelayo, abanye abazali bazophikisana nogogo amagama abonakala njengamama, njengoMama Omkhulu noma uMama (igama lesiFinnish ngogogo). Futhi uma ushona futhi uzibiza ngokuthi "umama" kumzukulu, uxolise kakhulu noma umama wangempela ngeke akholwe ukuthi bekuyisipelingi. (Le nkinga, njengamanye amaningana, iningi kuphela inkinga nogogo.)
- Uma uzonda igama lomzukulu wakho, akumelwe uvumeleke, ngisho noma bebuza umbono wakho ngaphambi kokuba umntwana azalwe lapho kusekhona isikhathi sokugwema ukukhohlisa. Abazali ababukeli ngempela umbono wakho ngoba umbono wakho awunandaba. Awuyena umzali.
- Uma kwenzeka umcimbi omkhulu uma ufuna ukuthenga ingubo yobuKristu, ubhake ikhekhe lokuzalwa lokuqala noma udwebe ithanga lika-Halloween, uhambe kancane. Abanye abazali bayokukwamukela ukwenza lezi zinto, kodwa abanye bazozibona njengokusebenzisa indima yomzali. Icala elilodwa logogo nogogo lathinta iqiniso lokuthi ugogo nomkhulu baphatha umzukulu wabo ukubona iSanta Claus. Angiyizinyane.
- Encwadini ehlobene, uma umzukulu ethatha isinyathelo sokuqala noma efunda ukupela igama lakhe ngenkathi enani, khula ngakho. Akukho lutho olutholakala ngokukhomba ukuthi ugogo nomkhulu wayekhona futhi umzali wayengekho esikhwameni esinjalo.
- Ogogo nomkhulu omncane basondela ukuba basondelane nabazukulu babo. Futhi, imindeni ethile izokwamukela ukusondelana okunjalo. Abanye bayozizwa ukuthi inkululeko yabo nokuzimela kwabo baye bahlaselwa. Xoxa ngaphambi kokwenza.
- Qaphela izingibe zokupha isipho. Uma ungabaza ukuthi isipho esithile sifanelekile, cela ngaphambi kokuthenga. Qaphela ikakhulukazi ukuveza abazali ngezikhathi ezipha isipho.
Manje, funa abazali bangabikho isikhala, nansi ohlangothini lwabazali nomkhulu. Ufuna izingane zakho zibe nogogo nomkhulu ekuphileni kwabo, akunjalo? Uma kunjalo, lungele ukuthethelela ezinye izinto ezimbi. Ugogo nomkhulu abaphelele. Ukulinganisela ukucasula ngezikhathi ezithile ngokuhle abangakwenza empilweni yezingane zakho.
Imingcele kanye nokulinganisela. Lokho mayelana nalo.