Kukhona intambo engabonakali egcina abazali nabadala abathintekayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ibanga eliphakathi kwabo. Ngenxa yokuthumela imiyalezo kanye ne-FaceTime, amakholi wefoni nama-imeyili, ukuxhumana akulona kunzima kakhulu ukulondoloza, ngisho noma ezinye zezimpendulo ezishayelwe, eziningi izimpendulo zemibuzo esizibuzayo zihlangene namagama amabili noma amabili ukuphendula. Kodwa ngaphezu kwetheknoloji, umzali kufanele ahlale kanjani kuphela ekuthinteni kwezobuchwepheshe, kodwa nangokomzwelo, naye?
Njengoba abantu abadala bekhulile futhi benza impilo yabo siqu, ngokuvamile bangashiya abazali bajabule yibo abaye baba khona, kodwa ukuthi bangahlala kanjani ingxenye yokuphila kwabo.
Lungisa isimo sakho sengqondo
Into yokuqala nokubaluleke kakhulu okumele ukwenze yamukele ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho buzoqhubeka nokuguquka nokuguquka, njengoba nje ingane yakho - futhi wena, cishe-yenza. Uma ukhululekile ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo komuntu omdala nomuntu osemusha, futhi uyeke ukucabanga ngenzalo yakho njengomthwalo wakho wemfanelo noma owakho wokuphatha, ungaphezu kwengxenye ebuhlotsheni obuhle.
Umthetho wokuqala wokukhulisa izingane ezincane ukuthi ungadluli isinqumo. Ngisho noma uqinisekile ukuthi uyazi kangcono, uma ungase uzizwe ujulile emgodini wakho lapho zonke izimo zokubeletha zikhona, kufanele ulinde ukucelwa umbono wakho ngaphambi kokuzinikeza. Cishe wonke umzali okhulume ne-Legacy Project mayelana nale ndaba uthe into efanayo.
Izinhlamvu ezimbalwa zeluleki ezinhle ezivela kubathintana nabo ku-Project Legacy
- Izingane zidinga ukwenza amaphutha azo.
- Engxoxweni, yandisa, ungangeni phakathi. Qinisekisa ukuthi yini okudingeka iqiniswe.
- Ungabi abagxeka kakhulu - makabe yilokho abayikho.
- Bonke abazali bafuna izingane zabo zijabule, kodwa izingane zabo zidinga ukuthola injabulo yazo zodwa.
- Khumbula ukuthi akekho ophelele.
Shintsha Ukulindela Kwenu
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umdala wakho osemusha uhlala emabhuloki amathathu noma ama-3 asuka kude, ukufuna ukuchitha isikhathi nabo ngeke kusebenze - njalo. Njengabazali, siyohlale sicabanga ngezingane zethu ngokuthi "ezethu," ngandlela-thile, kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi uma wenze umsebenzi wakho kahle, bazophuma baye ezweni futhi badale izimpilo zabo, ngezinye izikhathi ngokugcwele futhi ngokukwesaba kusuka kwethu. Ungase ucabange ukuthi ukudla kwaseSonto ebusuku kuhamba phambili, kodwa ingane yakho ingase ingabi. Ungacela, futhi umeme, kodwa ulungiselele ukuguqulwa kwezinhlelo zakho futhi ulungele ukunciphisa yonke indlela.
Uma umdala wakho osemusha ehlala kude, ukuvakashelwa kokuhlela kudinga ukuqala ngokufaka izidingo zomuntu siqu nemingcele. Ikamelo lakho labamenywa, akungabazeki, lihle - kodwa izingane zakho ezikhulile zingase zikhethe ukuhlala ehotela eliseduzane ukuthola ubumfihlo obuningi. Ngokufanayo, awuphoqelekile ukuba uhlale nezingane zakho uma uvakashela, ikakhulukazi uma kukhona izinto mayelana nendlela yokuphila ongenakho ukukhululeka nazo, ezivela ezifuyweni ezingabalingani abazithandayo. Akukho "okufanele" okumele wonke umuntu adinge ukulandela lapho ehambela umndeni, ikakhulukazi izingane zakho. Kufanele wenze okusemandleni abo bonke abathintekayo.
Bazise ukuthi bangobani
Akekho umzali othola konke abawake bakhuphuka ezinganeni zabo, futhi uma sebeba ngabantu abakhulile abagcwele ngokucacile kunanini ngaphambili. Ukuyeka ukuhamba komuntu ongcono owakucabangayo nokwamukela umuntu omdala wakho osemusha sekube kubalulekile ukuhlala uxhumekile kuye. Ngeke uthande ama-tattoos, izindandatho zempumlo, lapho ehlala khona, ohlala khona, noma ukuthi zichitha kanjani isikhathi sabo samahhala - kodwa iqiniso elikhuni, akuyona ibhizinisi lakho futhi. Akekho othanda ukuzizwa sengathi angaphansi kwe-microscope, ikakhulukazi hhayi izingane ezinenhloso enhle kepha abazali abathintekayo kakhulu .
Kungenzeka ukuthi:
- Ngeke benze izinto ezifana nawe
- Ngeke babone izinto ezifana nawe
- Ngeke basabele ezintweni ezifana nawe
- Ngeke balandele ukuhola kwakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama kangakanani ukuwaqondisa
- Ngeke abe yilokho owakulindele
Kodwa-ke, uma ungaba nomqondo ovulekile, unesineke, unothando futhi uguquguquka, ungagcina izingane zakho ziseduze nawe impilo yakho yonke, futhi akuyona yini into ebaluleke kakhulu?