Yala ingane yakho ngokusebenzisa ukungalaleli
Ukungazinaki kungaba nzima ukukhipha, kodwa kungaba ngempumelelo kakhulu. Kunezikhathi lapho ukunaka ukuziphatha okungafuneki kunomphumela wokwenza kube kubi nakakhulu. Okokuqala futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, kufanele uqonde ukuthi yini engayinaki nokuthi yini engekho futhi ifunde uma kufanelekile futhi uma ingekho.
Umama wake wangikhulumela (ngemuva kokuphakamisa ukuthi ngisebenzisa le ndlela) ukuthi angeke akwazi ukunakekelwa ingane yakhe nokuthi ucabanga ukuthi unonya.
Ngamchazela ukuthi angizange ngimzuzwana ngiphakamisa ukuthi uyamnaka ingane yakhe. Eqinisweni, le ndlela idinga ukuzithemba-kodwa okwenzeka njalo ukuze kusebenze. Okufunayo ukungazinaki ukuziphatha komntanakho. Futhi akuyona nje ukuziphatha, noma kunjalo. Yilabo kuphela ukuziphatha okwenziwe kanzima ngokunakwa kwakho, okuqiniswa yiwo noma okwenziwa ngenhloso yodwa yokuthola ukusabela kuwe.
Ukubhekana Nezintandokazi Eziphuthumayo Ne-"Toddler See, Toddler Do"
Isibonelo, ubamba izinyosi zakho bese uthi, "Yizwani." Ingane yakho encane iphinda iphinde iphinde iphinde ibuye. Uma ukufungiswa kwengane yakho akuyona into evamile, vumela ukuthi ihambe. Kungenzeka ukuthi ngeke kuphinde kwenzeke ngaphandle uma wenza into enkulu mayelana nayo (ngaphandle uma, ngokujwayelekile, usebenzise lolu hlobo lolimi njalo phambi kwenkomba yakho eyinkinga ehlukile). Abanye abazali bathola impumelelo eminyakeni encane yokunaki ukuziphatha okunjengale njalo, kanti abanye bathola ukuthi isikhathi siyeza lapho la mazwi engenzi izenzo ezingenacala, eziphindaphindiwe.
Bese kuthi kufanele bangene futhi bacacise ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwala magama akumukeleki kuwe.
Ukusingatha Izingxabano Phakathi Kwabantwabakho
Esinye isibonelo yilapho izingane zakini ziphikisana kodwa akekho olimazayo futhi uphelele into encane. Kumelwe umelane nesifiso sokubandakanyeka uma nje ungafiki ukushaya.
Bayeke bafunde futhi bazuze abanye ngamakhono abo okuhlalisana nokuxazulula izinkinga. Emehlweni abo, awuqapheli okwenzekayo, ngakho-ke bangakwazi ukuzikhandla ngokuzimela futhi basekelwe emithethweni yokuthi izingane zakubo zizakhele zona. Kodwa ngempela, kufanele uqaphelisise okwenzekayo (ngaphandle kolwazi lwabo) ukuze ungenele uma izinto ziphuma.
Ukubhekana nama-Tantrums asheshayo
Enye yezindawo ezinhle kakhulu zokusebenzisa le ndlela ngesikhatsi isimo sengane esisha kakhulu. Lokhu kufana kuzophela ngokushesha uma ingane yakho encane ithola ukuthi awusayinaki noma uzama ukungena ekuxoxweni. Uma ingane yakho encane isendaweni ephephile lapho intukuthelo yakhe ingayikukhathaza abalaleli abangenacala, mvumele nje abe nesibindi (futhi ngaleyo ndlela, achaze imizwa ayibhekene nayo) kodwa ungahlanganyeli.
Kuye ngesibindi sokuthi udabuke, ungase unikeze amagama ambalwa ukuze uchaze isimo sakho: "Ngiyazi ukuthi ufuna ukugqoka ama-flip-flops, kodwa iqhwa ngaphandle ukuze ufake izingubo ezifudumele. Woza ungibone uma uzizwa okungcono futhi ukulungele ukugqoka, "noma" Ngiyazi ukuthi awuwuthandi uma kufanele uphenduke, kodwa ukwabelana ngamathoyizi nomfowenu kuyinto enhle ukumsebenzela. " Ngezinye izikhathi kusiza ukunikeza ingane yakho amagama amanye ukufanisa lokho akuzwayo, kodwa unganiki kakhulu.
Gcina umfishane bese uhamba ngebhizinisi lakho njengokungathi awunaki. Ungaqhubeki ukuyiqanda noma inkulumo. Vumela uhambe. Ukungabandakanyeki okuncane, ukusheshisa kuyodlula. Cabanga ngokuqhubeka kwakho kokunakekelwa njengokungenisa uphethiloli emlilweni ovuthayo.
Ukuphazamisa Amazwi Angamahloni Noma Ukubiza Igama
Kunezikhathi eziningi lapho izinsana zisho izinto ngaphandle kwentukuthelo noma ukukhungatheka okwenziwe ngokushesha. "Ngiyakuzonda wena, Mama," noma "Uyisiphukuphuku," isibonelo, ungabheka njengamazwi amahle kakhulu. Lena enye yalezi zimo lapho ngingakhetha ukungazinaki ukuziphatha.
Izinsana azikho izihlungi ezifanayo ezinganeni ezindala (futhi angincoma indlela efanayo yabantwana abadala). Izinto ziphuma emilonyeni yazo ngaphambi kokuba ubuchopho babo benethuba lokuziyeka.
Ngokunganiki umntanakho ukusabela noma ukungena esikhwameni, uqiniseke kakhulu ukuthi leli qhinga lizohlala liphuma emgodini wengane yakho. Phela, akuzange kumsebenzele. Uma kunjalo, ungena emanzini futhi uphinde uhambisane nento efana nokuthi, "Yebo, ungangena ekamelweni lakho futhi ungangizonda," noma "Ngicabanga ukuthi ungumuntu oshayayo," bese kufike ekuseni intombazane yakho ukuthi lokho akwenzile ukuphendula okukhulu futhi kuyinto engase azame futhi ngolunye usuku ngemiphumela efanayo.
Yazi ukuthi uzokusebenzisa nini ukungazibali futhi uma ungawusebenzisi
Kunzima ukuhlala unemotional futhi ugweme ukungena phezulu phezu konke ukuziphatha ezingathandeki izingane zethu sibonakaliso. Kubalulekile ukuthi senze lokho kuphela, ngakho-ke, ukuze izinsana zethu zikwazi ukuthi zibaluleke kangakanani kithi futhi uma kufanele zilandele imiyalo ngaphandle kombuzo. Uma uphatha zonke izimo zokuqondisa ngokunakwa kwakho ngokugcwele nangomzwelo ojulile, kuyoba nzima kowakho encane ukuthola ukuthi yini ebalulekile ngempela. Ukungazinaki kulabo abaziphathayo abawela phansi ekubalukeni (okwamanje kuvame ukuphakama esikhaleni sokucasula). Londoloza amandla akho emiphakathini ephezulu yokuziphatha okufanele ungalokothi uyibaleke njengokusebenza emgwaqweni, ukubeka izinto zangaphandle emlonyeni nokulimaza izilwane ezifuywayo, impahla noma abantu.
Njengasezimo eziningi zokubeletha, akukho ukulingana komuntu oyedwa-konke okusemthethweni wokuziphatha okuncane. Ukuthola okungcono kakhulu amathuluzi okufundisa onakho. Abazali bangathola ukuthi uma bencika kakhulu endleleni eyodwa, indlela ephumelelayo leyo ndlela iba. Uma usebenzisa ukungazinaki, thola ukusabela kwengane yakho. Yiba ngendlela ehambisanayo ngangokunokwenzeka, kodwa qhubeka uguquguquke uma uthola ukuthi ukungazinaki akusebenzi. Ungase ufune ukuzama enye yalezi ezinye izinqubo ezincane zokuqondisa esikhundleni.