Ukukhulelwa kwesibili kunemibono. Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi ungumuntu omdala, uzothola ezinye izinto ezimangazayo, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Ungakhulumi, uzodinga ukusiza ukulungisa ezinye izingane zakho zintsana .
Umehluko Wokwenyama Emkhunjini wesiBili
Ngokwemvelo, uzothola ukuthi uzwa eziningi zezizwa zokudonsa, ukudonsa nokwandisa cishe inyanga ngokushesha kunokuba ukhulelwe kuqala.
Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi lesi sibeletho asikwazi ukukhiqiza, sibekwe ngaphambili, kodwa futhi ngoba uyazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani. Ngenkathi lokhu kuzwakala sengathi ukuwa, kunezinzuzo ezengeziwe ezifana nokuqaphela ukunyakaza komntwana okuvela kumntanakho cishe ngenyanga ngaphambili.
Ukunakekelwa kwakho kokubeletha kuzofana nokunakekelwa okutholayo ekukhulelweni kwakho kokuqala. Ukukhulelwa ngalunye kuyingqayizivele futhi kudinga izinga elifanayo lokunakekelwa. Lokhu kusho ukuthi kuzodingeka uhambe ngokuhlolwa kokubeletha ngaphambi kokubeletha okufanayo okwenzile ngokukhulelwa kwakho kwangaphambilini. Uzothola ukuhlolwa okuyisisekelo okufanayo okwakunakho ekukhulelwe kwakho kokuqala. Nakuba ngezinye izikhathi kunesidingo sokuqapha ukwanda kokukhulelwa okwesibili ngenxa yezinto ezenzeka ekukhulelweni kokuqala. Isibonelo kungaba uma uhlakulela isifo sikashukela ekukhulelweni kokuqala, ungaba nokuqapha okungaphezulu kokukhulelwa kwesibili.
Ukuba i-multi noma i-multipara (kusho ukuthi usuvele unomntwana) kwenza kube lula ukuthi ungase uzwe ukuphindaphindiwe okuphindaphindiwe futhi okungenzeka kube nokuhlukunyezwa kakhulu kwe- Braxton-Hicks , ikakhulukazi ekupheleni kokukhulelwa. Ngenkathi lezi zinguquko zingase zibonakale zingezansi, qiniseka ukuthi umzimba wakho uyazi ukuthi wenzani.
Ukwahlukana Kwemzwelo Nengqondo Emkhunjini wesiBili
Ngokukhulelwa kwakho kokuqala, cishe wachitha amandla amaningi engqondo nangokomzwelo ekukhulelwe kwakho. Manje ukuthi unabanye abantwana okumele banakekele bangase bazizwe besuka emoyeni kusuka kulokhu kukhulelwa. Lokhu kuyindlela evamile yokusabela futhi akusho neze ukuthi uzoyithanda le ngane noma ngaphansi. Umlingani wakho uzoba nesithakazelo esincane kulokhu kukhulelwa.
Omama bangase bakhathazeke ngokuthi kukhona uthando olwanele lomunye ingane. Kungenzeka kanjani emhlabeni ukuthi noma ubani owake waphila ngokumangala kokuzalwa kwakho kokuqala? Khumbula lo mntwana engumntwana ohlukile futhi uzoba namathalenta ahlukile kanye nezici zakhe. Uthando lwakho aluyona inombolo ephelile, ukuhlinzekwa okungapheli kwemizwelo. Ngakho thatha isikhathi sakho. Kungadingeka uthathe isikhathi sokuthandana nosana lwakho olusanda kuzalwa, kodwa lokho kungavamile ngisho nangabantwana bokuqala.
Imicabango Ngomsebenzi Wesibili Nokuzalwa
Ngivame ukuhleka usulu ukuthi omama bokuqala bakhathazeke ngokuzalwa ngoba abazi ukuthi bangalindela, kodwa ukuthi lo mama omama abakhathazekile ngoba bayazi ukuthi balindeni. Ukukhathazeka mayelana nokuzalwa kwakho okuzayo kungaba okujwayelekile. Naphezu kokuthi ukwenzile ngaphambili, kuvamile ukubuza ukuthi kuzoba njani ngalesi sikhathi.
Lokhu kungase kuhlanganise nokuzama ukugwema ezinye zezinto ezenzeke ngaphambili noma ukuqinisekisa ukuthi kuhamba kakhulu njengeyokuqala.
Into eyodwa engiyiphakamisayo yokusiza ukukhulisa ukubandakanyeka ngokomzwelo nokunamathiselwe ukuya kwesinye uchungechunge lwezigaba zokubeletha . Isikhathi esiningi sesibili omama bangase bakhathazeke ngokusebenza nokuzalwa ngenxa yalokho abakwaziyo. Ungamangala ukuthi uzozwa yini ekilasini isikhathi sesibili nxazonke. Amathikithi ami amabili wesibili athi empeleni bafunde okuningi ngoba bevulekele amathuba amaningi, bazi ukuthi umsebenzi wawungeyona inkambo engalindelekile. Lokhu kukunika ithuba lokuchitha isikhathi nomlingani wakho futhi ugxile kulokhu kukhulelwa.
Ngakho-ke, ujabulele lokhu kukhulelwa bese uzama "ukulala lapho umntwana elele." Ngisho noma "umntwana" uneminyaka engu-3 noma engu-4 ubudala!