Uke wabuzwa le mibuzo mayelana namawele akho?
Uma ungumamawele noma umzali wamawele, uzobe unemibuzo engenangqondo. Amawele kanye nezinye iziphindaphinda ngokwemvelo izihloko zesidingo somphakathi. Imindeni enezimpande ngokushesha ijwayele ukubhekwa nemibuzo, futhi ihlale iphendule imibuzo yabantu abangabazi emgwaqeni. Ngosizo lwamadodakazi ami amabili, ngahlanganisa lolu hlu lwemibuzo engacabangi, engahlambalazi, ecasulayo noma eminye iminyango abantu abavame ukusibuza mayelana namawele nama-multiples. Zingaki zazo oceliwe ngazo?
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Ingabe amawele?Sonke sikuzwile. Yindlela evamile kakhulu kubantu abangabazi ukuqala ingxoxo mayelana nezingane zakho. Nakuba kungenabungozi, lo mbuzo owaziwayo ungacasula. Mhlawumbe ngoba impendulo ibonakala sengathi iyabonakala, noma mhlawumbe ngenxa yokuthi uyazi ukuthi ukuphendula kuyokwenza ukuthi lowo mbuzo acele omunye umbuzo oyisiphukuphuku (njengalezi ezingezansi!)
(Indlela Yokuphendula: 10 Ukufika Kwe-Snappy KuMbuzo, "Ingabe Bangamawele?" )
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Ingabe zifana noma zithandana / zakwababa / ezomama?Ngesizathu esithile, abantu bafuna ukuhlukanisa amathanga ngezigaba ezimbili: okufanayo nokungafani. Abantu abaningi bayazi ukuthi kunezinhlobo ezimbili zamawele, kodwa azikwazi ngempela ukuthi lokho kusho ukuthini ngempela. Lo mbuzo uyangicindezela ngoba ngizizwa ngiphoqelekile ukukhanyisa umbuzo, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngifuna ukunciphisa umehluko phakathi kwezinhlangothi ezimbili.
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Ngumuphi omdala?Kungani abantu bezizwa bephoqelekile ukuba bazi lokhu? Ukuhlelwa kwe-oda lokuzalwa akuhambisani nokuphindaphindiwe. Ukhuluma ngendaba yamaminithi phakathi kokuzalwa, hhayi isikhathi esanele sokwenza okuthile okubalulekile ukuze kuthinte ubuntu babo. Lokhu kungenza ngiphakamise manje ukuthi amawele ami asekhulile futhi abantu babuza umbuzo ngqo kubo. Impendulo yabo? "Asazi." (Akwenzanga ngempela; asizange sitshele !)
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Yikuphi okulungile?Akekho owake wacela umama wezingletons ukuba abize izingane zakhe ngale ndlela! Akekho ingane enhle noma embi. Ngokuqinisekile, kuzoba nezikhathi lapho inyane elilodwa lisebenza njenge "ingelosi" ekuphenduleni ukuziphatha kabi kwefa lakhe, kodwa ... linda imizuzu emihlanu futhi bazoshintsha izindima.
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Ingabe amawele agijima emndenini wakho?Lona omunye umbuzo obonakala unesizathu wokuthi abazali bamawele bazonda ukuphendula. Kunzima kakhulu ukuchaza ukuthi yini ebangelwa ukuzalwa okuningi nokuthi kungani kungenjalo noma kungabi yifa . Ngokuvamile, lapho abantu abangabazi bengabangela lo mbuzo, abakhathaleli kancane ngempendulo yangempela kunokwabelana ngomlando wabo womndeni wamawele.
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Iza kanjani amagama abo awafani?Lapho sikhetha amagama amadodakazi ethu amabili, sakhetha ngokuzithandela ukuthi asizwanga "twinny." Kodwa-ke, umphakathi jikelele ubonakala udangele ukuthi amagama abo awawunamathelisi , qala ngenye incwadi, noma " uhambe ndawonye " .
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Ubachazela kanjani?Uma amawele akho afana - futhi ngisho noma engekho! - lo mbuzo ovame kakhulu owenziwe ngezinye izikhathi ngokuzithoba, kanye nezinye izikhathi ngenxa yelukuluku. Abanye abantu bafuna isibonakaliso sangempela ukuze babasize baqonde futhi bahlukanise phakathi kwezingane ezinokubonakala okufanayo. Kodwa abanye abaningi bafuna ukukhetha izinto ezibonakalayo ezibizwa ngokuthi abantu abaphindaphindiwe.
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Ingabe unayo "ngokwemvelo?"Lo ngumbuzo oyintandokazi kakhulu futhi okungaziwa ngabantu abangabazi. Kukhona ukuhumusha okubili kwalolu uphenyo, okubhekisela ekutheni izimpande zithathwa kanjani (okungukuthi nezithuthukisi zokuzala) noma ukuthi zanikezwa (ngokulinganayo nc-sigaba). Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi, akuyona ibhizinisi lomuntu, futhi akumane nje ehloniphekile ukubuza ngaphandle kokuthi usuvele usejwayelekile.
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Ingabe banalo ulimi lwabo?Njengababili abantu ababa nobuhlobo obuseduze kakhulu, amawele ngezinye izikhathi angakha uhlelo lokuxhumana oluhlukile kubo. Isizathu sokuthi lokhu kufana nombuzo oyisiphukuphuku ukuthi abantu bavame ukukubuza ngabazali bezinsana - abangazange bakhulume nanoma yiluphi ulimi, okungenani omunye wabo.
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Ingabe uyazigqoka ngokufanayo?Ukugqoka ngokufanayo kuyinkinga ebucayi yezimpande. Abanye bathanda it, abanye abakwenzi. Abanye abazali bakhetha ukukwenza, abanye abakwenzi. Kodwa ngesizathu esithile, abanye abantu abangabona amawele babonakala bacabanga ukuthi amawele awawona amawele uma engagqoke izingubo ezinamakholomu. Njengoba nje leli zwi lithi, "Izingubo azenzi lowo muntu." Awuwenzi amawele, noma.