Lezi yizindlela ezingcono zokusiza unkulisa ukuphatha ukuziphatha kwakhe kangcono.
Ukuyala ingane eneminyaka emihlanu kudinga inhlanganisela yobuciko nesayensi. Kudinga ukuqina okukhulu. Okusebenze ngesonto eledlule kungenzeka ukuthi ngeke kusasebenza.
Ukuthuthukiswa kokukhula kwezingane ezineminyaka emihlanu kuyosho ukuthi ingane yakho izofuna ukuzimela. Ukufuna kwakhe ukuzimela kungabonisa izinselele ezintsha zokubeletha ngokuziphatha kanye nezidingo zokuziphatha. Futhi, ingane yakho ingahle ijabulele ukuhlola ukuziphatha okusha ukuze ubone ukuthi uzophendula kanjani.
Ukubekezela nokungaguquguquki kungaba yisihluthulelo sokubhekana nezinkinga zokuziphatha. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kungase kudingeke ukuthi usebenzise isilingo esincane nephutha ngezikhathi ezithile ukubona ukuthi yini ezosebenza kangcono yengane yakho.
Ukuziphatha okudala kweminyaka emi-5
Lapho uneminyaka engama-5, ubuntu bomntwana buzokhanya njengoba eqala ukuqonda ngokwengeziwe yena, ubuhlobo bakhe kanye nezwe elizungezile. Amakhono amasha namakhono amasha ngokuvamile aqala ukuthuthukisa futhi kungaba ngonyaka ogcwele ukuzuza okuhle okuthuthukayo.
Iningi lezingane ezineminyaka emihlanu ubudala linokuqonda okulungile nokungalungile. Bangakwazi ukulandela imithetho elula futhi ngokuvamile bahlose ukujabulisa abantu abadala. Abaqondi i-logic yabantu abadala, noma kunjalo, ngakho-ke ngezinye izikhathi balwela ukukhetha okuphilile.
Amantombazane athola izintshisekelo ekwenzeni ubudlelwane nabangane babo futhi ngokuvamile abathanda ontanga abafana nabo. Bafuna ukuvumelanisa nezinye izingane futhi bangase bahlekise abanye abangahambisani. Bangaba yi-bossy, okungenza kube yisikhathi esinzima kakhulu kubantwana abazwelayo .
Nakuba kufanele bahlakulele ukulawulwa kokucindezeleka , bazobe besadingeka umsebenzi omningi kule ndawo. Bangase bakhonce, basho izinto zisho noma babonise ukuqhuma. Bavame ukuvivinya imithetho nemingcele kodwa kufanele baqale ukuthuthukisa ukuqonda kangcono imiphumela eqondile yokuziphatha kwabo.
Amasu Okulungiswa Okuhle Kwabaneminyaka Engu-5 Abadala
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izinhlobo ezinhlanu zokuzikhethela ozikhethayo, amasu akho wokuphatha ukuziphatha kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi afane nesimo sengqondo somntanakho .
Nazi izindlela eziyisishiyagalolunye zokuqeqesha umuntu oneminyaka emihlanu ngempumelelo:
- Setha Imingcele Ecacile - Yakha imithetho ecacile yasendlini bese ubeka imingcele ehambisanayo. Vimbela izinkinga zokuziphatha ngokugcina isiyalo sakho singaguquguquki bese ulandela imiphumela emibili kanye emibi .
- Izinketho Zokunikezwa Okungavunyelwe - Izingane ezineminyaka yobudala bezingane zokubeletha zidinga usizo lokufunda ukwenza izinqumo ezinhle. Ukunikeza okukhethwa kukho okulinganiselwe ukufundisa amakhono akho ekuxazululeni izinkinga . Buza, "Ungathanda yini ukuhlanza igumbi lakho ngaphambi noma emva kokudla?" Noma ngabe yikuphi ukukhetha kuyimpendulo enhle uma nje yenziwa.
- Nikeza Iziqondiso Ezinhle - Ukunikeza izikhombisi-ndlela ezinhle kwandisa amathuba okuzwa ingane yakho ilalele. Faka isandla ehlombe lomntanakho noma uthinte amehlo ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukunikeza izikhombisi-ndlela. Ngemva kokunikeza imiyalelo, cela ingane yakho ukuthi iphinde iphinde isho ukuthi uzwisise.
- Dumisa - Nikeza ukudumisa nokukhuthazwa okuningi ukukhuthaza ukuziphatha okuhle. Kungaba usizo kubantwana bazo zonke ubudala, kodwa kubantwana abaneminyaka engu-5, kubanika ngempela ukuqiniseka ukuthi basendleleni efanele.
- Fundisa ezinye izindlela - Uma ungumntwana engalungile, mfundise izindlela ezihlukile zokuthola izidingo zakhe zihlangane. Uma ephonsa ithoyizi lapho ethukuthele, mfundise indlela yokuphatha intukuthelo yakhe . Kunokuba umane amjezise ngokungahambi kahle, msize enze izinqumo ezingcono esikhathini esizayo.
- Isikhathi sokuphuma - Uma usho ukuthi "Cha," futhi ingane yakho ingabeki, isikhathi sokuphuma singaba umphumela ophumelelayo. Faka uneminyaka engu-5 ubudala ngesikhathi sokuphuma ngemaminithi angu-5. Ngalesi sikhathi, izingane eziningi zingakwazi ukubekezelela isikhathi sokukhonza esihlalweni noma kwenye indawo ethule.
- Imiphumela Yemvelo - Imiphumela yemvelo ingasebenza njengoba izingane zingaqala ngempela ukuqonda ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo kuhlobene ngqo nomphumela. Uma uneminyaka engu-5 ubudala ophikelela ukwenza okuthile ngendlela yakhe, uma iphephile, mnike ithuba. Mvumela ukuba abhekane nemiphumela yemvelo uma enza iphutha.
- Imivuzo Engakahleleki - Iningi labantwana bezinkulisa lithanda amathuba okuthola umvuzo. Esikhundleni sokusongela imiphumela, zama ukuyivula njengethuba lokuthola umvuzo. Ngakho esikhundleni sokuthi, "Awukwazi ukudlala ngaphandle uze uhlanza amathoyizi akho," uthi, "Uma nje uhlanza amathoyizi akho, ungaya ngaphandle ukudlala!" Ukuphanga izinto ngendlela enhle kungenza umehluko omkhulu endleleni ingane yakho isabela ngayo.
- Izinhlelo Zemivuzo Ehlelekile - Thuthukisa uhlelo lokuvuza uma ingane yakho ibhekene nokuziphatha okuqondile. Izitifiketi zesitifiketi noma izinhlelo zezomnotho we-token zingaba izindlela eziphumelelayo zokukhomba izinkinga ezithile zokuziphatha.
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