Kungani kufanele ulungise lezi ziphambeko ezimbi manje, ngaphambi kokuba izingane zikhule
Muva nje, ngibone izibonelo ezihamba phambili zokuziphatha okubi emantwaneni amathathu ahlukene, ayisonto elilodwa kuphela. Lawa wonke amaqembu ahlukene wezinsizwa nezizinda ezahlukene ezivela emindenini ehlukene, nasezilungiselelweni ezahlukene. Into eyodwa ababehlangene ngayo yayiwukuthi babonakala bephakathi kuka-10 no-12, futhi babeziphatha kabi.
Esenzakalweni sokuqala, intombazane yayikhuluma nami ngendlela engafanele lapho ngimbuza abazali bakhe umbuzo olula.
Abazali babethandekayo, kodwa indodakazi yabo yabuhlungu kimi futhi bonke bangibiza ngokuthi ngiyisiphukuphuku ngokubabuza ngolwazi ngento ethile. (Cha, umbuzo wami empeleni awuyena oyisiphukuphuku.) Into eyodwa engiyiqaphele - ngaphandle kokunyanyiswa kwakhe okwesabekayo - ukuthi abazali bakhe abazange bashukumise ukulungisa noma ukuphawula ngokuziphatha kwakhe.
Isibonelo sesibili sokuziphatha okubi sasihilela umfana owayelokhu ehlaya nxazonke naphezu kokucela okuphindaphindiwe kathisha ngesikhathi sokuya emnyuziyamu. Wayenesikhathi esinqunyiwe sokufundisa isifundo esibalulekile, futhi lo mntwana wenza ukuthi izinto ziqhube sekwephuzile futhi zithatha isikhathi nathisha kothisha kude nabo bonke ekilasini ngoba kwakudingeka abhekane ngokuphindaphindiwe nokuziphatha kwakhe okumbi.
Isibonelo sesithathu sathinteka umfana owayebonakala ephethe iqembu lezingane emkhosini wokuzalwa emabhayisikobho. Umntwana waqala ukuphonsa ama-popcorn kuyo yonke indawo ngaphandle kokubheka labo abazungezile, futhi waqhubeka enza lokhu naphezu kwabazali abamukeli becela ukuba ayeke.
(Ekugcineni kwadingeka bathathe ama-popcorn, kodwa waqhubeka ephazamisa.)
Ngemva kokubona lezi zibonelo ezimbi, akukho okuhle, okubi kakhulu kubantwana, ngacabanga ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukukhipha ezinye zalezi ziphambeko ezimbi kuhlumela ngenkathi izingane zisencane. Uma uvumela ingane ukuba isetshenziselwe ukuziphatha ngokukhululekile, ukungabi nhlonipho, noma ukungcolisa bese uzama ukulungisa lezi zimo lapho zifinyelela eminyakeni yobudala, kuyoba nzima kakhulu ukuvula leyo mkhumbi nxazonke.
1. Ukungabi nenhlonipho
Kunesizathu salokhu ukuziphatha okubi kuyinombolo eyodwa kulolu hlu. Uma izingane zivame ukungahloniphi wena noma omunye umuntu omdala, ngokuyisisekelo zithumela umlayezo omkhulu futhi ocacile abangacabangi ukuthi badinga ukucabangela ukuthi abanye bangase bazizwe noma bacabange kanjani. Ukungakuhloniphi nokuhlonipha abanye abantu abadala kungumkhuba omubi wokuthi izingane zingakhula ngokushesha ngaphandle kokuba ubazise ngokushesha ukuthi ngeke zibekezeleleke.
Uma ingane yakho ikhuluma nomuntu wakho noma omunye umuntu omdala ngobuqili noma isebenzisa i- backtalk , mthathe eceleni kwakhe ngokushesha ngemuva kwalesi sigameko bese umtshela ngasese ukuthi ngeke avunyelwe ukuhlanganyela ezintweni ezimnandi noma uzolahlekelwa ukufinyelela ezintweni azithandayo , njengemidlalo yevidiyo noma isikhathi se-TV, ngaphandle uma efunda indlela yokuphatha abanye ngendlela afuna ukuphathwa ngayo. Futhi qiniseka ukuhlale ubonisa imikhuba emihle lapho uxhumana nomntanakho ukuze afunde ngesibonelo. Mthokoze uma enzela okuthile, uthi "sicela," futhi umphathe ngenhlonipho.
2. Ukwethembeka , hhayi ukulalela
Ngokuvamile, izingane ezingahloniphi igunya azilaleli. Ngenkathi ingane yakho ingase iphazamiseke ngempela noma idonsa uma kudingeka uziphindiselele izikhathi eziningana, kungase kube njalo ukuthi ayilaleli ngoba engacabangi ukuthi kuyoba nemiphumela yokungalaleli.
Uma engakukhathazi ngamabomu futhi enze into oyicelayo ukuba angayenzi (noma ngokuphambene nalokho), umyalo ngokushesha. Mthathe esenzweni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isidlo somndeni noma idethi yokudlala, futhi umcele ukuthi aphinde ahlele kabusha lapho ecabanga ukuthi kungani ukukhetha kwakhe ukunganaki akuvumelekile. Mvumele abuye futhi akubonise ukuthi "angenza kanjani" lezo zikhathi ezimbalwa zokugcina futhi abe ngumlaleli ongcono. Uma enqaba, unike imiphumela yakhe (njengokungatholi okuthile afuna ukulahlekelwa amalungelo njengesikhathi nabangani noma i-TV noma isikhathi sekhompyutha).
3. Ukungabongi nokuhaha
Kukhona izinto ezimbalwa ezingathandeki kunabantwana abaphangiwe, abahahayo, futhi abagcwele ukuzitholela kanye ne- influluenza .
Yize kungokwemvelo ukuba abazali bafune ukunikeza izingane zabo izinto abazifunayo nezidingayo, ukunikeza izingane cishe konke okukufunayo futhi okudingayo nakanjani okuphambene nokuhle.
Ukuze ugweme izingane ezibhubhisa futhi uzivimbele ekugxileni ekutholeni izinto abazifunayo, bavumele bazuze noma balondoloze imali yokukhokhela ukuthenga ezinye izinto abazifunayo. Bafundise indlela yokuzwa nokuveza ukubonga kanye nokuzithandela nabo ukusiza abanye. Ukufundisa izingane ukuthi ungabasiza kanjani futhi ucabange ngalabo abangenazo izinto abazenzayo kuyindlela enhle yokwehlisa ukuhaha nokukhuthaza ukuba baqonde lokho abanakho.
4. Ukuphumula, ukuxosha
Nakuba kungase kuqondakale ingane encane noma isenkulisa ukuba ibe yi-cranky futhi ibe ne-meltdowns, ibona ukukhala ngokuklabalaza nokulila (futhi ukuziphatha kwayo okungalungile kumzala omncane ukugxeka nokugcoba ) esikoleni esikoleni esikoleni akuvunyelwe kancane. Umuntu oneminyaka engu-5 noma oneminyaka engu-6 ubudala angase ahlaselwe ngezikhathi ezithile, kodwa kufanele abe endleleni ukuze afunde indlela yokuveza ukukhungatheka kwabo ngendlela elawulwa kakhulu, ezolile futhi enenhlonipho.
Ngesikhathi esilandelayo ingane yakho iphonsa ukulingana, mcele ukuthi angene ekamelweni noma ekhoneni futhi ahlale phansi aze azizwe ehle. Uma esebuyekeze imizwelo yakhe futhi angalalela, khuluma ukuthi kungani ukugabha kuzomenza kube lula ukuthi uzothola lokho akufunayo. Xoxa ngokuthi ngabe ungayisingatha kanjani isimo kangcono futhi umcele ukuba ayeke, athathe umoya ojulile, futhi acabange ngalezo zindlela ezingcono esikhathini esizayo lapho ezwa ecasulayo.
5. Ukuxhashazwa
Abazali bavame ukukhathazeka ngokuthi ingane yabo ingase ihlukunyezwe , futhi ikhulume nezingane zabo ukuthi yini okufanele yenze uma kwenzeka lokho. Kodwa kuthiwani uma ingane yakho iyisihluku ? Xoxa nomntanakho masinyane uma usola noma uthola ukuthi ubenomusa futhi ulaka kumuntu futhi uhlanganyele ekuhlebeni, ukuhleka noma ukuziphatha okuhlambalayo. Thola ukuthi wenzani lezi zinto futhi ukhulume naye ngokuthi kungani ukuhlukunyezwa kungamukeleki futhi kuyingozi kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe kanye naye.
6. Ukukhohlisa
Zonke izingane zihlanganyela ekuqambeni amanga ngesikhathi esithile, futhi izingane ezincane kakhulu ngokuvamile azikwazi ukuhlukanisa phakathi kokudlala amanga nokudlala. Kodwa njengoba izingane zikhula, zingase zisho ngamanga ngamanga ngezizathu ezithile (ukugwema ukungena enkingeni, isibonelo).
Uma ingane yakho yenza umkhuba wokutshela ama-fibs, thatha izinyathelo ngokushesha ukuze uthole ukuthi yini elandela ukuziphatha, yenza kucace ukuthi ufuna ukuba bayeke, futhi ubonise ukuthi kungani ukuqamba amanga kungalimaza ebuhlotsheni.
7. Ukukopela
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umdlalo webhodi noma omunye umncintiswano odlalayo, ezinye izingane ezincane zingakhohlisa ngoba zifuna ukunqoba. Kodwa izingane ezindala, ezakha umqondo wokulungile nokungalungile, zingase zikhohlise ngamabomu (zithi, ekuvivinyweni esikoleni). Khuluma nengane yakho ngokuthi ukukopela kunciphisa kanjani impumelelo yabo futhi kugcizelele ukubaluleka kokudlala okulungile.
Ukusingatha lezi ziphambeko ezimbi manje kuzokushiya uzizwe ubonga kamuva uma / uma ubona ezinye izingane zenza into engalungile futhi ziziphatha kabi. Phela, ngubani ofuna ukuphuma ngaphandle kwentombazane enesihluku noma enhle?