Ungase ube nemibono ethile emisiwe ngokuhlukunyezwa. Kodwa ezinye zalezi zinkolelo kungenzeka ukuthi aziyiqiniso. Nasi uhlu lwezingane eziyishumi ezijwayelekile kakhulu nemicabango engalungile mayelana nokuxhashazwa.
Inganekwane # 1: Zonke izixhwanguli ziyizimboni futhi azikho abangani
Kukhona empeleni izinhlobo eziningi ezahlukene zezihlukumezi . Ngakho kuyiphutha ukucabanga ukuthi zonke izihlukumezi zifanayo. Ezinye izingane zixhaphaza abanye ngoba nazo zihlukumezekile, kanti ezinye zihlukunyezwa ukuze zikhuphuke isiteji somphakathi.
Noma kunjalo, ezinye izingane zixhaphaza abantu ngoba ziyakwazi.
Ngokuvamile, ukuxhashazwa kushukunyiswa yisifiso samandla omphakathi. Ngamanye amazwi, umhlukumezi ungumkhuzi womphakathi futhi ufuna ukwandisa isimo sakhe esikoleni. Ukuxhashazwa kubhekwa njengempumelelo ngoba ilawula futhi iqondise i-social social esikoleni.
Inganekwane # 2: Iziqhwaga Ziyabhekana Nokuziqhenya
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi akuzona zonke izihlukumezi ezithatha abanye ngoba zizizwa kabi ngabo. Esikhundleni salokho, ezinye zezingane ezihlukumezayo nazo zibuye zithembeke futhi ziphumelele emphakathini. Baye baqaphela ukuthi ukuxhashazwa kwabasiza ukuba baqaphele ngokwengeziwe, babe nomphakathi obanzi futhi balondoloze amandla esikoleni.
Empeleni, imivuzo izingane zivela ekuhlekeleni, ukusabalala amahemuhemu nokuqeda abanye kungabonakala. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kunzima kakhulu ukuthola izihlukumezi ukuyeka, ikakhulukazi esikoleni esiphakathi.
Inkolelo # 3: Ukuxhashazwa Kukwenza Ukomelele Futhi Kusiza Ukwakha Isici
Ukuhlukumezeka akuyona indlela yokwakha uhlamvu.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, idiliza umlingiswa futhi ikhulise ukukhubazeka kokuhloswe. Izingane ezixhashazwayo zihlupheka ngokomzwelo nasemphakathini.
Ukuxhashazwa kungabangela izingane ukuba zizizwe zodwa futhi zihlukaniswe. Futhi bangase bazikhandle ngokuzihlonipha nokuzwa ukucindezeleka nokuzijabulisa. Ukuxhashazwa nakho kuholela ekuhluphekeni esikoleni kanye nezifo eziningi.
Bangase bacabange nokuzibulala.
Inganekwane # 4: Izingane Zixhashazwa Ngenxa Yokuba Nabantu Abahlukunyezwayo
Nakuba kuyiqiniso ukuthi ezinye izici, ezinjengamahloni noma ezihoxisiwe, zingandisa amathuba okuthi ingane izoxhashazwa, izingane azixhashazwa ngenxa yobuntu bazo. Izingane zixhashazwa ngoba u-bully wenza ukhetho lokuzikhomba.
Lapho abantu bezama ukuchaza ukuxhashazwa ngokubonisa ukuthi ingane inomuntu ohlukumezekile , bayalalela isisulu ngokuxhashazwa. Isolo kanye nomthwalo wokuxhaphaza kwehla ku-bully, hhayi ekuhlosweni. Ukwengeza, ukubhala izingane ngokusho ukuthi banomuntu ohlukunyeziwe kuvumela ukuthi intukuthelo isuke ku-hook futhi kusho ukuthi uma kukhona okungafani nokuhlukunyezwa, ukuxhashazwa kwakungakaze kwenzeke.
Inganekwane # 5: Ukuxhashazwa Akuyona Isenzo Esikhulu, Kungumntwana Nje Ukuba Ngumntwana
Ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile, ukuxhashazwa akuyona ingxenye evamile yokukhula. Futhi kuyinto enkulu. Ukuxhashazwa kungaba nemiphumela emibi kakhulu . Ngaphandle kokuthinta ukusebenza komgomo we-academic, impilo yengqondo , nenhlalakahle ngokomzimba, ukuxhashazwa nakho kungabangela ukuzibulala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ezinye izibazi ezingokomzwelo zokuhlukumezeka zingahlala isikhathi eside. Ngokwesibonelo, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abantu abadala abaxhashazwa njengabantwana bavame ukuzethemba ngokweqile futhi balwe nokucindezeleka.
Inkolelo # 6: Izingane Ezithunjelwayo Kudinga Ukufunda Indlela Yokusingatha Isimo Sabo Ngabo
Abantu abadala ngokuvamile baxosha ukuxhaphaza nge-shrug. Umqondo wukuthi izingane kufanele "zibhekane nazo nje." Kodwa izingane azikwazi ukubhekana nezimo zokuxhaphaza zodwa. Uma bekwazi, cishe bebengathanda. Noma nini lapho abantu abadala beqaphela isimo sokuxhashazwa, banesibopho sokubhekana nayo ngendlela ethile. Ngaphandle kokungenelela kwabantu abadala, ukuhlukunyezwa kuzoqhubeka.
Inganekwane # 7: Izingane Zami Zingangitshela Uma Babethukuthelwa
Ngeshwa, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi izingane zivame ukuthula ngokuthunjelwa. Ngenkathi kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani abantwana bengatshele, isikhathi esiningi ababa namahloni kakhulu ukuba bakhulume ngakho noma bakhathazeke kakhulu ngokuthi isimo sizoba sibi nakakhulu.
Ngenxa yalokho, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abazali nabafundisi bakwazi ukubona izimpawu zokuxhashazwa . Akukaze kube nomqondo omuhle ukubala ezinganeni ukukugcina ku-loop. Ngisho nezingane ezinezihlobo ezinhle nabazali bazo zizobe zithule ngokuxhashazwa.
Inganekwane # 8: Uma Ingane Yami Ixhashazwa, Isinyathelo Sokuqala Ekubhekaneni Nokuhlukunyezwa Kungukuthi Babize Abazali Baka-Bully
Ezimweni eziningi, akuwona umqondo omuhle ukuxhumana nabazali baka-bully. Ngeke nje ukuthi ingxoxo ingabe ishisa, kodwa futhi ingenza isimo sibe sibi nakakhulu. Esikhundleni salokho, inkambo engcono kakhulu yokusebenza ukuqala nguthisha noma umlawuli uma ubika ukuxhaphazwa. Izikole eziningi zinezinqubomgomo zokulwa nokuxhashaza ezichaza indlela yokubhekana nezihlukumezi. Qinisekisa ukuthi ucela ukuhlangana ubuso nobuso futhi ulandelele ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi inkinga iqondiswa.
Inganekwane # 9: Ukuxhashazwa Akukwenzeki Esikoleni Sengane Yami
Uma indaba ecasulayo mayelana nokuhlukunyezwa yenza izingqikithi, kulula ukubhekana nomqondo wokuthi into enjengaleyo ayisoze yaba khona esikoleni somntanakho. Iqiniso elibi ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kwenzeka yonke indawo futhi hhayi ukuqaphela ukuthi kungabeka ingane yakho engozini. Esikhundleni salokho, qaphela izibonakaliso zokuxhashazwa futhi ugcine imigqa yokuxhumana evulekile nengane yakho. Ukuxhashazwa kwenzeka kuyo yonke indawo kungakhathaliseki ubuhlanga, inkolo noma isimo sezenhlalo nezomnotho.
Inganekwane # 10: Ukuxhashazwa Kulula Kakhulu
Iziqhwaga zihlakaniphile. Bayazi lapho othisha nabanye abantu abadala khona isikhathi esiningi. Ngenxa yalokho, ukuhlukunyezwa kubangelwa njalo lapho abantu abadala bengaboni ukuzobona. Ngokwesibonelo, ukuxhashazwa kuvame ukuqhutshwa endaweni yokudlala, endlini yokugezela, ebhasini, emgodini omatasa noma ekamelweni lokungena.
Ukwengeza, izihlukumezi zinamakhekhe amakhono. Eqinisweni, izingane ezihlukumezayo kakhulu ziyizo ezikwazi ukubonakala zibukeka kahle futhi zibukeka kahle. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lezi zingane zihlakaniphile emphakathini. Basebenzisa amakhono afanayo ukuze baphathe othisha, abaphathi, nabazali abasebenzisa ukulimaza ontanga yabo. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, abantu abadala kudingeka babheke kulabo abahlala nabo ukuze basize ekubikeleni ukuhlukunyezwa .