Indlela Wonke Umzali okufanele aphendule ngayo emibikweni yokuxhaphaza
Ukuzwa ingane yakho ukuxhashazwa akulula neze. Empeleni, kunzima ukungabi nomuzwa ongokomzwelo. Ungase ulingeke ukuba ugxume efonini bese ushaya abazali be-bully . Mhlawumbe ucabangela ukuthumela i-rant kuma-social media.
Okufanelekile nakuba ungenzi lutho lwalezi zinto. Kunalokho, uzophendula ngokuthula. Lalela konke okushiwo ingane yakho bese uqinisekisa imizwa yakhe.
Ngokwenza kanjalo, unikeza ingane yakho ithuba elihle lokuhamba ngaphesheya kwalesi simo esibuhlungu. Empeleni, abacwaningi bathole ukuthi impendulo yakho ingaba nethonya elikhulu ekubuyiseleni kwengane yakho. Ukwengeza, impendulo yakho ithinta indlela azobhekana ngayo nokuxhashazwa nokuqhubekela phambili.
Uma ingane yakho ixhashazwa, kunezindlela zokusiza ukunciphisa umthelela wayo ohlala njalo . Ngokwesibonelo, gxila ekunikezeni induduzo nokusekelwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uthukuthele noma uphazamise kangakanani. Khumbula, izingane ngokuvamile azitshelanga abantu abadala ngokuxhashazwa ngoba bazizwa benamahloni, benamahloni noma bedidekile. Awudingi ukumnciphisa ekutsheleni ngesigameko esilandelayo.
Futhi, qiniseka ukuthi ulalela ngokuphumelelayo futhi ugweme ukubuza imibuzo enjengokuthi "wenzeni ukuze uyibangele?" Awufuni ukuphazamisa, ukugxeka noma ukunciphisa lokho ingane yakho eye yabhekana nakho. Kunalokho, gxila kulokho akushoyo. Kuyasiza futhi ukwenza lezi zitatimende eziyisithupha ezikhuthaza ingane yakho.
"Kwakudinga isibindi ukungitshela." Ngezinye izikhathi, izingane zithule ngoba zikhathazekile ngokuthi ukubika ukuxhashazwa kuzokwenza kube nzima nakakhulu. Ezinye izingane zikhathazekile ngokuphendula komdala. Ngokwesibonelo, bayazibuza ukuthi abantu abadala bazokwenza noma yini mayelana nokuxhashazwa. Futhi bakhathazeka ngokuthi bazokhuthazwa ukuba balwe uma beyesaba kakhulu ukwenza noma yini.
Ngenxa yalokho, kubalulekile ukudumisa ingane yakho ngokukhuluma ngokuxhashazwa. Yazisa ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukukhuluma ngakho. Futhi qiniseka ukuthi ingane yakho iyazi ukuthi ukubika ukuhlukunyezwa akusho nje kuphela isibindi, kodwa futhi indlela engcono yokunqoba ukuxhaphazwa .
"Lokhu akusona iphutha lakho." Ngezinye izikhathi izingane zizwa sengathi zenze okuthile ukuze kubangele ukuhlukunyezwa. Ngakho ukutshela umuntu omdala kugxilisa ukuhlazeka nokuhlazeka kwabo. Khumbuza ingane yakho ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka kuyisinqumo umuntu ohlukumezayo akwenzayo nokuthi umthwalo wokuxhashazwa ukhona nezihlukumezi . Futhi qiniseka ukuthi ingane yakho iyazi ukuthi ayedwa. Ukuxhashazwa kwenzeka kubantu abaningi, kodwa ndawonye uzokwazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze.
"Ufuna ukuyiphatha kanjani?" Ukubuza ingane yakho ukuthi ifuna ukubhekana kanjani nokuhlukunyezwa kubonisa ukuthi uthemba izinqumo zakhe. Futhi kumnika amandla okuphuma emcabangweni wesisulu futhi athuthukise umuzwa wekhono futhi. Akukaze kube nomqondo omuhle ukuthatha futhi ulungise izinto zezingane zakho. Kunalokho, gxila ekumsizeni ukuba ahlole izinketho ezahlukene zokubhekana nesimo bese emsekela kulezo zindlela.
"Ngizokusiza." Uma ufundisa amakhono akho ekuxazululeni izinkinga kubalulekile, ungasheshi ukuxhumana neziphathimandla zesikole ikakhulukazi uma ingane yakho isongelwe, ingalimala ngokomzimba noma ukuhlukunyezwa kuyanda.
Kubalulekile futhi ukuletha abasebenzi esikoleni ngaphakathi kwe-loop ngisho nalapho kuwukuhlukunyezwa ngokobuhlobo . Zonke izinhlobo zokuxhashazwa zinemiphumela futhi noma yikuphi ukubambezeleka kokuthola usizo ngaphandle kungenza izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu kumntanakho.
"Masigcine lokhu kungenzeki futhi." Ukuthola ingane yakho ukuba ihambe ngaphandle kwezigameko zokuhlukunyezwa futhi ucabange ngekusasa kuyisihluthulelo. Ngaphandle kwezeluleko eziwusizo ezifana nokuhamba ekilasini nomngane noma ukudla isidlo sasemini nomngane wakho, vumela ingane yakho ibone ukuthi iziphi izindawo ezishisayo zokuxhashazwa zisesikoleni. Uma kungenzeka, ingane yakho kufanele igweme lezi zindawo. Ukwengeza, thola ingane yakho ukuthi ihileleke emisebenzini yangaphandle futhi uthole izinto ezizozakhela ukuzethemba .
Futhi, lalela ingane yakho. Ake akutshele lokho acabanga ukuthi angase asebenze. Ukudala kwengane yakho kungase kusimangaze. Khona-ke, yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukumsiza ukuba asebenzise leyo mibono.
"Ubani onembuyeni yakho?" Lokhu kungase kuzwakale njengombuzo ongcolile, kodwa uma kuziwa ekuhlukunyezweni, ontanga yakho yengane ingenza okuningi ukusiza ukuvimbela izigameko zokuxhashazwa ezizayo. Empeleni, ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ubungane bungasiza ekuvimbeleni ukuxhashazwa . Yenza izingane zakho zicabangele ngezingane ezingabheka esikoleni. Ngokwesibonelo, ingabe kukhona umuntu angakwazi ukuhamba naye ekilasini? Ukhona yini umuntu angahlala naye ekudleni nasesibhasini? Uma ingane yakho izwa sengathi ayinabo abangane, bheka izindlela zokumsiza ukuba athuthukise ubungane . Futhi, mcele ukuthi abone umuntu omdala omethembayo angabuyela esikoleni ukuthola usizo.