Amaphuzu ayinhloko okufanele sikhumbule lapho sikhuluma lapho izingane zingaba yedwa
Muva nje, sekube nezindaba eziphathelene nezingane ezazimiswa ngamaphoyisa lapho zizama ukudlala epaki noma zihamba esitolo ngaphandle kokuqondiswa kwabantu abadala. Esinye sezibonelo ezivelele kuye kwaba ngumndeni waseMadrid ophethe indaba eyisizwe lapho izinsizakalo zokuvikela izingane zihlolisisa abazali ngokuvumela izingane zabo, abaneminyaka eyi-10 no-6, zihambe ekhaya zodwa epaki elikude.
Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa kamuva, izingane zaphinda ziphinda ziphinde zithathwe amaphoyisa ngenxa yokuhlala epaki yedwa. (Umthetho waseMadrid ubeka igunya lokuthi umntwana kufanele okungenani abe neminyaka eyisishiyagalombili ubudala ukuba ashiywe yedwa endlini noma emotweni nokuthi umntwana kufanele okungenani abe neminyaka engu-13 ubudala ukuba abelethe ingane enye.)
Le ndaba, nabanye abafana nayo, bayeke izingxabano ezishisayo mayelana nabani-abazali noma uhulumeni - kufanele bazinqume lapho izingane zingenakuqapha futhi ngaphansi kwezimo. Baye bakhuthaza futhi enye ingxube yokuxoxisana ngezinzuzo kanye nokuqhafaza okuthiwa "ukuhola okukhululekile" kokubeletha, okukhuthaza izingane ukuba zizimelele ngokwengeziwe futhi zenze izinto eziningi ngokwabo ngokuphathelene ne "helicopter" yokubeletha, okuyiyona isitayela sokubeletha sibhalwe ngokushelela - ngezinye izikhathi esiseduze kakhulu - ukubhekwa nokubandakanyeka.
Njengengane yabokufika ngaphandle kokukhetha kodwa ukuthi ngihlale ekhaya ngedwa futhi ngiqondise ingane encane eneminyaka engu-3 ubudala kusukela ngineminyaka engama-8, ngingasho ngokungangabazeki ukuthi kunezinzuzo ezihlukene nokungahle kube yileli latchkey encane ingane futhi enesibopho somunye umuntu.
Ngicabanga ukuthi ngezindlela eziningi sasiba nenhlanhla ukuthi akukho okwenzekile ngenkathi nginecala, ikakhulukazi ngoba ngangingenalwazi kakhulu ukukwazi ukubhekana nezinselele eziningi nezinselele ezingahle zenzeke. Futhi ngenkathi nginomsebenzi wangenza ngakhula ngokushesha futhi ngifunda indlela yokuzinakekela mina nomunye umuntu, kwakukhona ukucindezeleka okukhulu nokukhathazeka okwahambisana nakho konke lokho ukuzimela, hhayi ukukhuluma iqiniso lokuthi anginalo inkululeko yokungacabangi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukucabanga ngokuphepha futhi nje ukujabulela ukuba yintsana.
Kulezi zihloko eziningi engizifundile mayelana ne-saga yalomndeni wakwaMadrid kanti abanye abathanda ukuvumela izingane ukuba "zihlole" zingagunyaziwe, ngithola ukuthi amaphuzu amaningi abalulekile mayelana nalenkinga ayiphutheli ezingxoxweni. Ezinye izingqinamba ezibalulekile ezidinga ukufakwa ezimpikiswaneni lapho izingane kufanele zizodwa zibandakanya:
- Le mpikiswano ibeka isongo sangempela - ukungabi nezingane ezilungiselelwe. Izingane zidinga ukwazi ukuthi zingabhekana kanjani nezinsongo zokuphepha kwabo, noma ngabe zihamba zihamba yedwa noma cha. Izwe lingase ligcwale izinsongo ezingase zibe khona kuzo zonke izingqikithi, kodwa kunezingozi zangempela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zivela kumuntu ongamazi noma owaziyo okusho ukuthi uyingozi ; kungenzeka ukuthi kwenzeke ingozi, njengokungena emgwaqweni omanzi lapho uwela emgwaqweni noma usondelene kakhulu namasondo ebhasi lesikole uma umshayeli engakuboni; noma ingozi ekhaya. (Ukuze uthole amathiphu ebalulekile okuphepha ebhasi yezingane, funda, " Ukuphepha Kwebhasi LeSikoleni." ) Ingabe ingane yakho iyazi ukuthi kufanele yenzeni lapho omaziyo emcela ukuba "agcine izimfihlakalo" kuwe noma azama ukuvaleka kakhulu? Kuthiwani uma umuntu ongabonakali ongenabungozi - ethi, intombazane ehlabayo - isondela kuye bese ingena "esikhaleni" sayo "? Ingabe uyazi izinkolelo eziphathelene nabasolwa ngezingane zocansi , futhi akunjalo? Ingabe uyazi ukuthi yini okumelwe ayenze ukuze avimbele ukuchofoza nokuthi yini okufanele yenze uma ingane yakini encane ishaywa?
- Izingane ezincane ngokuvamile azikwazi ukuthola izinqumo eziphuthumayo. Izikhungo zokunakekelwa kwezingane, izingane zokubeletha kanye nabazali - ziqeqeshelwe i-CPR nezinye izimo zokwelapha eziphuthumayo. Uma abazali beka izingane ezincane zodwa noma bephethe izingane zakubo, kufanele baqiniseke ukuthi othile usekude futhi ulungele ukungenelela uma kunesimo esiphuthumayo.
- Kuthiwani uma kukhona okwenzeka kumntakwethu osemncane ngenkathi ingane ekhulile iphethe? Cabanga ngemiphumela. Ukuqothulwa ngumuntu ongamazi kungase kungavamile, kodwa izingozi azikho. Izingozi zingenzeka ngisho nangabe sezikhulile, futhi sonke siyazi ukuthi kungaba nzima ukuhlala njalo ubheke. Ingane ingabe inomuzwa kanjani uma izwa ukuthi iyabangela umntanakho omncane ukuba ahlupheke?
- Kweminye imindeni, ukushiya izingane ngaphandle komuntu omdala kuyisinqumo ababheka njengendlela engcono kakhulu emndenini wabo. Ukunakekela izingane kungase kube into abangakwazi ukuyithola, noma bangase banqume ukuthi ephephile izingane zabo ukuba zodwa ekhaya. Abazali abasebenzayo badinga izinketho ezingcono zokunakekela izingane ezingeni likazwelonke.
- Awazi ukuthi ngubani oseduze nomntanakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingozi engaziwa ingabe ingavamile isongo njengengozi ebangwa ngumuntu wakho ingane yakho, iqiniso ukuthi awukwazi ukuthi uhlobo lomuntu oluzosebenzisana nengane yakho. Abantu abadala abakhule ngokugcwele baye bakhohliswa futhi banconywa ukwenza okuthile ngabaculi abahlakaniphile abahlakaniphile noma abaqambi abanekhono. Uma izingane zisesikoleni, isibonelo, othisha nabasebenzi baye (bahlelwe) bahlolwe ukuqinisekisa ukuthi azikho izilwane eziyingozi eduze komntanakho; kodwa wazi kanjani ukuthi ubani ongena kuloo ndawo yokudlela noma inkundla yokugezela?
- Izingane zinjalo nje - izingane. Ochwepheshe bezokuphepha baye benza ukuhlolwa okungenakubalwa lapho abantwana abafundiswa abazali ukuba bangakhulumi nabantu abangabazi ngokuzithandela bahamba nabantu ababengazi ezimweni ezithile (lapho umuntu ongowesihambi engumuntu onobungane ebacela ukuba abasize bathole i-puppy elahlekile, Ngokwesibonelo). Futhi ngisho nentsha enomdlavuza kanye nabantu abadala abakwazi ukukhohlwa noma ukuphazamiseka kalula ngenkathi bewela emgwaqweni bese bewaqapha ezimweni ezithile. Izingane ezincane azilindeleke ukuthi zifanane nama-wits nomuntu onenhloso yokuzikhohlisa noma ukuhlale eqapha futhi zibukele izingozi ekuphepheni nasekuziphatheni kwabo kwezingane zakubo.
- Ezinye izingane zilungele futhi zikwazi ukudlula ezinye. Izingane zihluke kakhulu, kanti ngenkathi ingane eyodwa ingase ibe mkhulu lapho igxile futhi igxile ngaso sonke isikhathi ngesikhathi esithile, enye ingane eneminyaka efanayo ingakhohlwa noma iphazamiseke kalula. Lapho ingane ethile ingase izwe amandla ngenxa yokuba nomthwalo wemfanelo wokuba yedwa noma ukunakekela ingane yakini, omunye angase azizwe ecindezelekile kakhulu kodwa akwenze ukuze abazali bakhe bajabule. Ngaphambi kokuba unqume ukuthi yini engcono kakhulu kumntanakho, qaphela ukuthi ingane yakho izwa kanjani ngalesi sikhathi nesikhathi nokuthi yini ayifunayo ngempela.
- Imithetho yokuvikela izingane ikhona ukuzama ukusiza zonke izingane futhi kubalulekile ikakhulukazi ezinganeni ezingenabantwana abazazi ukuthi izingane zabo zini noma ukuthi zenzani. Ngenkathi abazali abaningi abagqugquzela ukuphumula kwemithetho mayelana nokuthi izingane zingakwazi yini futhi zingakwazi ukuzimela ngaphandle kokuqondiswa kwabantu abadala, abazali abanomthwalo wemfanelo owaziyo ukuthi izingane zabo zihlala nini ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuthi ngeshwa akunjalo kumzali ongekho lapho. Senza kanjani ukuthi sibaphi abazali ababenomusa futhi abanomusa futhi yibaphi abanganaki? Ingabe sinemithetho ehlukene yemithetho yezinhlobo ezahlukene zabazali, futhi ngubani okhetha ukuthi yikuphi?
- Imithetho iyahluka kusuka esimweni kuya kwesimo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kusuka kwesinye isizinda kuya kwesinye. Abanye, njengoMaldin, banesidingo seminyaka yobudala esho lapho izingane zingaba yedwa noma ziphethe. Ezinye izizwe azicaci. Lokhu ukungabi khona kokugcizelela kugcizelela ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukusebenzisa inqubomgomo eyodwa kubo bonke, futhi kwenza kube nzima kubazali abazama ukwenza lokho bacabanga ukuthi kungcono emndenini wabo.
- Kunezindlela eziningi zokugqugquzela ukuzimela nokuvuthwa. Ukuvumela izingane zihambe esikoleni noma indawo yokudlala yedwa noma zisebenzise indlu yokugezela yomphakathi ngokwazo akuyona indlela yodwa yokugqugquzela ukuzimela. Ukuba nabo bephethe imisebenzi eminingi yasendlini futhi babe nemithwalo yemfanelo eminingi ekhaya (ukuqinisekisa ukuthi izitsha zokudla kanye namanzi ezitshalo zakho zigcwele noma zikusiza ukuthi uhlele amamenyu ezakha imikhuba yokudla enempilo yomndeni wonke, isibonelo) nazo izindlela ezinhle zokukhuthaza ukuzimela kanye nomqondo wemfanelo.
Okubalulekile: Uma unquma ukuthi izingane zakho zilungele ukuhamba zodwa, hlola imithetho embusweni wakho futhi uqiniseke ukuthi uzilungiselele - futhi uhambe ngemithetho yokuphepha nabo ngezikhathi ezithile ngezikhathi ezithile. Futhi uma wena noma izingane zakho ufuna ukulinda, zinike isikhathi esithile. Akusikho "ukuhamba ngezindiza" uma ingane yakho noma ufuna ukulinda kuze kube yilapho esesikoleni esiphakathi ngaphambi kokuba anqobe imisebenzi yokusebenza. Ukuzimela kanye nokuphepha kokubili kubalulekile, futhi izingane zizokhula maduze - ngokushesha kakhulu.