Imikhuba nemikhuba abazali abahle abakwenzayo
Yiziphi izici abazali abahle ababa nazo? Ingabe kukhona izinto ezithile umuntu azenzayo ezenza umzali omuhle (noma cha umzali omuhle)?
Yiqiniso, incazelo yomzali omuhle akuyona into ehleliwe noma ephelele. Okungase kubonakale sengathi izici zomzali omuhle kumuntu oyedwa kungenzeka ukuthi akufanelanga leyo ncazelo kumunye umuntu. Kodwa ngokuvamile, lezi zimfanelo nemikhuba ingatholakala kubazali abenza amakhono omuhle wokubeletha.
Yini Eyenza Umzali Omuhle?
1. Umhlahlandlela nokusekela - hhayi ukucindezela nokufuna. Abazali ngokwemvelo bafuna izingane zabo ziphumelele, futhi zingase zishaye, zenze, zifumbathise, zifune, noma zisongele izingane zijeziswe ukuze zizenzele ithuluzi, zivelele emdlalweni, zifinyelele amamaki aphezulu nokunye. Iqiniso liwukuthi, ngokuba ngumama kaTiger (noma ubaba) akunakwenzeka ukuba ingane yakho iqhubeke ngaphezu kokunikeza izingane ukusekelwa okuningi, futhi ngokucophelela ukugwedla uma noma nini bayidinga. Ukuze uthole okwengeziwe mayelana nokuthi uzokhipha nini futhi nini ukuyeka, funda, " Umama we-Tiger noma umama we-kitten? Nini okufanele ukuphoqa izingane ukuba ziphumelele, nini okufanele zihambe."
2. Vumela izingane zizimele. Abazali abahle bayazi ukuthi kubalulekile ukuthi izingane zizenzele izinto. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umsebenzi wesikole noma imisebenzi yomsebenzi noma ukwenza abangane , into engcono kakhulu esingayenza njengabazali ithola izingane endaweni lapho zingakwazi ukusingatha izinto ngokwazo. Ngezinye izikhathi kungase kube nzima ukutshela ukuthi kufanele siksize kangakanani nokuthi kufanele sivumele izingane ukuba zibone okuthile ngokwabo, kodwa njengomthetho jikelele, ukusiza ingane yakho ngento ethile uma uyenza ngenjongo yokugcina yokuzifundisa ukuze ekugcineni benze ngokwabo.
(Isibonelo, akusilo umqondo omuhle ukuthi abazali, bathi, benze umsebenzi wesikole somntwana kuye noma bahambe ngosuku lokudlala futhi baqonde kahle ukuthi izingane zizodlala ngani nokuthi ziphi - lezi zibonelo ezicacile zokuhamba nge-helicoptering, hhayi ukusiza. uma ubonisa ingane ukuthi ungayenza kanjani inkinga yasekhaya noma ukuxazulula inkinga nomngane ngendlela enenhlonipho, unikeza ingane yakho amathuluzi omuhle esikhathini esizayo.) Ukuze uthole okwengeziwe mayelana nokuthi ungayitshela kanjani uma "i-helicopter" ukubeletha, futhi uma usiza, funda, "Ingabe Uyi-Helicopter Parenting noma Usize? Izindlela Zama-7 Zokutshela."
3. Khumbula ukuthi izingane zihlale zibuka. Uthole inhlebo yehlebo enomsola ozowabelana ngawo? Ufuna ukutshela umakhelwane owenze okuthile okuthukuthele noma okucasulayo noma oshayela umshayeli owakuqede? Ngenkathi singakwazi njalo ukuphelela, wonke umzali omuhle uyazi ukuthi izingane zihlala zifunda ngezibonelo esizibekayo. Uma sifuna ukuba izingane zethu zibe nomusa , zizwele futhi zihloniphe njengoba zikhula, kufanele sizame ukuziphatha kwethu okuhle futhi sihloniphe abanye.
4. Awulokothi asho, ahlambalaze noma ahlasele izingane zabo. Ingabe umzali angase alahlekelwe isikhathi esithile noma athukuthele? Kusobala - singabantu, emva kwakho konke. Kodwa ukuhlambalaza noma ukuhlazisa noma ukuhlukumeza ingane akukaze kube yindlela enhle yokufundisa noma yini. Ungathanda ukuphathwa ngaleyo ndlela?
5. Bonisa izingane zabo abazithandayo nsuku zonke. Sonke singaba matasa kangaka, kulula ukukhohlwa ukuthatha isikhathi sokubonisa izingane zethu ukuthi sizizwa kanjani ngabo. Ukuthinta okuncane, njengokubhala incwadi encane ebhokisini lakhe lesidlo sasemini noma ukwabelana ngezinto ngawe naye kungakuqinisa uxhumano lwakho futhi ubonise ingane yakho ukuthi uyamthanda kangakanani nsuku zonke.
6. Bathi bayadabuka uma benza amaphutha. Mhlawumbe ufundisa izingane zakho ukuthi zizenzele izinto ezizenzayo bese zixolisa bese uzama ukwenza lokho abakwenzayo.
Lokhu kufana nokuthi, uma kungabalulekile, ukuthi abazali baziphathe ngokwabo. Abazali abahle bayazi ukuthi bonke abazali bangenza amaphutha ngezinye izikhathi , futhi bafunda kuzo futhi babonise izingane zabo ukuthi bangazithatha kanjani izenzo zabo.
7. Isiyalo. Angikwazi ukucindezela lokhu okwanele - ukujeziswa (hhayi ukujeziswa) akuyona nje kuphela yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongayifundisa izingane zakho kodwa kuyindlela yokuqinisekisa ukuthi ukhulisa umntwana ozojabula njengoba ekhula. Kungani kubaluleke kangaka ukuyala izingane ? Izingane ezingalahlwa zivame kakhulu ukuba zonakaliswe , zingabongi, zizihaha futhi, akumangalisi, zinenkinga yokwenza abangane futhi zijabule kamuva ekuphileni.
8. Bheka ukuthi ingane yabo idinga yini - hhayi ngalokho abafuna ukuthi ingane yabo ibe noma yenze. Ingane yakho ingaba umfundi othulile kunomuntu ofuna ukuba inkanyezi esiteji noma enkundleni yebhola. Nakuba kukuhle ukukhuthaza izingane ukuba zizame izinto ezingase zibacindezele ezindaweni zabo zokududuza ("Ngeke wazi ukuthi uyayithanda kuze kube yilapho uzama ngempela" ngezinye izikhathi zingasebenza, ikakhulukazi ezinganeni ezisazi ukuthi zikhona ukuthi bangobani nokuthi yini abayifunayo), kubalulekile ukuthi abazali benze isheke esisheshayo futhi baqiniseke ukuthi abaphikisi izingane ngenxa yezizathu ezifanele (ukuzama, hhayi ngoba umzali ufuna umntwana abe into abakuyo hhayi).
9. Yazi ukuthi izingane zabo zenzani nokuthi ngubani. Ubani abangabangane bakho? Abazali bomntwana bathanda ukuthini? Ubani ozohlangana naye lapho edlala endlini yomngani, futhi kukhona izibhamu ekhaya? Lezi, neminye imibuzo ozoyibuza ngaphambi kwedethi yokudlala , ayibalulekile kuphela ekuphepheni kwengane yakho, kodwa kuyindlela ebalulekile ukuba ulandele ukuthi ingane yakho ibhekene nokuthi ikuphi lapho ikhona kuwe.
10. Fundisa izingane ukuba zibe nomusa , zihloniphe abanye, zibe nesihe , zibonge ngalokho abanakho, futhi zizwele abanye. Yebo sonke sifuna izingane zethu zizame ukuthola amamaki amahle; thola imiklomelo nama-accolades kumculo, ezemidlalo, neminye imisebenzi; futhi uphumelele kamuva ekuphileni. Kodwa uma ukhohlwa ukubafundisa ukuthi bangaba kanjani abantwana abalungile kanye nabantu abalungile, ngeke bajabule futhi bagcwaliseke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izinto abazifezile nokuthi bangaphumelela kangakanani.
11. Khumbula ukuhleka ndawonye, uchithe isikhathi ndawonye, futhi uxhumane kahle njalo ngosuku olulodwa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlezi phansi ukuze udlale umdlalo webhodi lokumnandi , uhamba ngebhayisikili, upheka, ubheke i-movie , noma ufunde incwadi enhle ndawonye (noma ufunde izincwadi ezahlukene eceleni, uma ingane yakho ikhulile), abazali abahle sebenzisa isikhathi ukwenza okuthile okujabulisayo nokuxhuma nezingane zabo ngezindlela ezincane nezinkulu njalo ngosuku olulodwa.
12. Khuluma futhi ulalele. Ngokuvamile abazali bayichitha isikhathi esiningi nezingane zabo bekhuluma nabo kunokuba babe nabo. Zama ukulalela izingane zakho futhi ubanikeze ukunaka kwakho ngokuphelele (ngaphandle kwikhompyutha noma isikrini sefoni). Uyomangala ukuthi uzizwe uzizwa uxhumana kangakanani nengane yakho, futhi cishe uzofunda ngezinto eziningi ingane yakho ecabanga ngayo nomzwelo. Ingxenye engcono kakhulu: Uzophinde ubonise ingane yakho ukuthi ingakunikeza kanjani ukunakwa okungafani lapho ufuna ukuxoxa naye.