Mhlawumbe kwakuyisikhathi lapho amanye amama emkhakheni wezinyane lakho ozithandayo aninika 'i- kid yami isebenza ngokuphezulu kunayo yezinyane lakho' . Mhlawumbe kwakuyilo mzuzu ekamelweni lokulinda lapho ungaphenduki ngentshiseko emibhalweni yomunye umzali futhi uzwela ukushisa okushisa. Mhlawumbe uhlezi eqenjini lokusekela futhi wazi ukuthi imigomo yakho yengane yakho yayihluke ngokuphelele kunezinhloso abanye abazali ababekulwela.
Mhlawumbe kwenzeke lapho umzali wengane enezidingo ezikhethekile esesimweni sesango lomgcinimafa futhi wagcina ingane yakho izidingo ezikhethekile zokufakwa nokuhlala. Kungaba njani lokhu? Akukhona yini sonke kulokhu ndawonye?
Ngezindlela eziningi kangaka, siyikho. Siyiqiniso ukuthi siyikho. Sibhekene nezwe elijwayelekile, silwa nanoma ubani ogcina izingane zethu ukuthola usizo nokunakekelwa kanye nemfundo abayidingayo. Inkinga ifika lapho imibono yethu ihluke kulokho okusiza nokukhathalela kanye nemfundo kufanele ibonakale - futhi lapho, ngokwanele, ukungalingani kwezingane zethu kwenza lezo zinto zihluke. Yilokho lapho kuphuma khona ukuxhumanisa izingalo nokucula "Kumbaya" ekuhambiseni impi. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyabuhlungu uma uthisha noma ochwepheshe bezokwelapha bevimba ukukhuthaza kwakho, kuyabuhlungu kakhulu uma lowo muntu engumuntu okufanele abe ngumlingani wakho omkhulu kunazo zonke.
Nakuba kungenzeka njalo ukumangazwa ukuhlukunyezwa komzali wakho ngokuzumayo kusuka ekubukeni kwezwe lakho, kunezimo ezithile lapho ungase uzizwe ummese emhlane wakho kunabanye.
Qaphela lezi zimo ezinhlanu lapho abazali bezingane ezinesidingo esikhethekile kungenzeka ukuthi babe izitha ezimbi kakhulu
Uma Zinezinhlelo Zokuphikisana
Sasiqonda uma omama esikoleni sokuqala sosuku lokuzalwa kwezingane, abafuna ukuba izingane zabo zihambele ukuze babe nabafundi abadala, bekungathokozi ngesifiso sami sokuthi ingane yami encane iqhubekele esikoleni sabantwana babo.
Noma kunjalo, sasimangala ngejubane nokushisa lapho bephonsa khona umfana wethu kanye nathi ngaphansi kwebhasi bese kuthiwa, "Ingane yami ayikho ekilasini nengane yakho ." Uma unama-blind Bear Mama wakho, kulula ukugxila kuphela kulokho okukholelwayo ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho yengane futhi uvimbele noma yikuphi ukukhathazeka ngaphandle kwalokho, ngisho nenhlalakahle yezinye izingane ezinezidingo ezikhethekile kanye nemindeni yabo.
Ongakwenza: Uma omunye umzali evulekile ekukhulumisaneni, qhathanisa amanothi kuma-ajenda akho athile futhi ubone ukuthi kukhona yini iphuzu lapho izifiso zakho eziphikisanayo zifinyelela khona. Ingabe ikhona isisombululo esingaba yamukelekile? Ukulwela ndawonye kungase kuphumelele kakhulu kunokulwa.
Lapho Bephuma "Ingane Yami Ayikwazi Ukukwenza" "Lezi Zingane Zikwazi Ukukwenza"
Ngisho noma izingane zethu zingashiywa yizo ezivamile, singathanda ukucabanga ukuthi zihambisana phakathi kwabanontanga babo abaneziphene ezifanayo. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kusho ukucabanga futhi ukuphikelela ukuthi zonke izingane kufanele zibe namakhono afanayo noma ukungabi khona kwazo nokuthi lezo ziphetho zingadonselwa ngokubanzi ngokusekelwe kokubheka kwethu siqu. Sihlakulela imigomo kanye nezinhlelo kanye nokulindela esikhathini esizayo okusekelwe kulokho, futhi lokho okwaqala njengokuqwashisa kwamakhono ethu umntwana kuba yindlela eyazo zonke lezi zizingane.
Ngakho-ke senzani nabazali obonakala sengathi banomuzwa wokuthi izingane zingakwazi ukwenza okunye, noma zingase zikwazi ukwenza okuncane? Banike njengezinto ezinethemba elikhulu noma ezingalungile futhi nizinzima izinkolelo zakho siqu kubonakala sengathi impendulo evamile.
Ongakwenza: Ungalokothi ulahlekelwe yilokho okufunayo kakhulu kubazali nothisha nomphakathi ngokubanzi ukuze uqonde - ukuthi zonke izinyane zihlukile, yonke imindeni ihlukile, futhi uma ubonile enye yalezi " izingane "ubonile enye yalezi zingane.
Uma Amalungelo Aqoqa
Izingane zabo azikwazi ukudla ama-peanuts, kanti i-PBJs kuphela ukudla kokudla kwasemini ingane yakho ngezindaba zokudla izobekezelela.
Izingane zakho zidinga ukuthula futhi zizolile, futhi izinyane layo lizodinga ukuhambisa futhi lizenzele. Ingane yabo inezinkinga ezithinta izinkinga ezenza ukuba aqhube futhi ahlanganise, futhi ingane yakho inezinkinga ezithinta izinkinga ezenza ukuba esabeke ngokuthinta okungalindelekile namathinta. Zonke izingane zinelungelo lokuthola isipiliyoni esikoleni ephephile, futhi labo abanenhlelo ye-IEP noma i- 504 banamalungelo angokomthetho wokuba bakhubazeke ngokwabo. Lapho ingane eyodwa yokuhlala iphutha elinye ingane, yilapho abazali behlasela khona.
Ongakwenza: Qaphela ukuthi inkinga lapha akuyona ingane hhayi umzali okhuthaza ingane, kodwa isikole noma esinye isilungiselelo esingakabonakali ngendlela enobuntu yokubhekana nesimo esinzima. Bonke abazali kufanele bazame ukusebenza ndawonye ukuze babe yingxenye yalesi sombululo.
Lapho Bengeke Bayiqine
Uma uke waba khona-izidingo ezikhethekile zokubeletha ukuvimbela izikhathi ezimbalwa, uzothola ukwahlukana kwezombusazwe okuhlukanisa abazali bezingane ezinesidingo esikhethekile emaceleni empi - ukwelashwa ngokumelene nokwamukelwa, isibonelo, noma ukufakwa phakathi imfundo ekhethekile, noma ukukhulisa umzali ngokumelene nokuzimela, noma izidingo ezikhethekile zokubeletha njengomzali njengesibusiso nomthwalo. Abazali abanemibono ye-hot-inkinobho engahambisani neyakho kungenza uzizwe uthukuthele futhi uzivikele futhi ulungele ukuhlasela. Laba bantu bayalichitha wonke umuntu . Benza bonke abazali babonakale bebi. Kumele zimiswe, noma okungenani ziphikisana ngokude ku-Facebook noma kumazwana.
Ongakwenza: Qiniseka ngokwakho ukuthi ngabe ukuphikisana kuzokwenza noma yikuphi okuhle. Uma nje kwenza omunye umzali abeke ngokukhudlwana futhi akwenze ukhale kumndeni wakho usuku lonke, shiye yedwa. Fihla okuthunyelwe okuthukuthelayo. Gwema imibono. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukuchaza izinkolelo zakho ngendlela engeyona indlela yokubhekana nayo.
Lapho Bengeke Bakhulume
Ngakho kuthiwani ngabazali abangakuvimbeli kakhulu lokho okukholelwayo futhi bazame ukwenza kodwa bangenzi lutho nhlobo ukukusiza? Bangabonakala sengathi bayisitha ngesikhathi lapho uzama kanzima ukuqoqa ngezinhloso ezikhethekile ezibalulekile-izidingo. Ubiza imihlangano ukuze uthole bonke abazali esifundeni sakho ngemuva kwemizamo yakho yezingane zabo futhi akekho oza. Udala iqembu lokusekela lokugqugquzela futhi imihlangano iya khona kancane. Uyabona izingane esikoleni somntanakho ezisekelwa phansi ngoba akekho owenza umsindo kubo, futhi uyazibuza ukuthi abazali bazo kungenzeka bacabanga ukwenqaba ukuqhubekela phambili ekuthuthukiseni ingane yabo nabo bonke abantwana.
Ongakwenza: Qaphela ukuthi abantu bangase babe umzali okusemandleni abo ngisho nalapho ukukhangisa kwabo kungabonakali njengeyakho. Khumbula indlela okwakunzima ngayo umsebenzi ngaphambi kokuba uthathe izinyawo zakho ngaphansi kwakho futhi waqala ukukwenza. Yiba khona ukusekela abazali abangazi ukuthi yini abayidingayo. Ukusekela izingane zabo, futhi.