Ukuzikhethela, iziqu, ukulindela, ukukhokha
Abesifazane abanquma ukuba yizingane ezivame ukuba bathi bathanda ukhulelwe futhi bezwa isimangaliso sokuzalwa, kodwa sebeqedile ukuba nezingane zabo. Bafuna futhi ngobuqotho ukusiza umbhangqwana unomntwana. Ngezinye izikhathi, umngane noma ilunga lomndeni ubabuza. Kodwa-ke, ngisho nabaqashiwe abangabangane noma umndeni kufanele babe nesimo esihle ngokukhulelwa nokubeletha.
Akufanele kube khona ukucindezelwa ukuvumelana nelungiselelo lokuzikhethela. Ngenkathi ama-surrogates ekhokhwa isikhathi sabo, akuvamile ukuthola umuntu ongokoqobo okhona kule mali kuphela. Ngenxa yokuhlolwa kwesimo sengqondo, abesifazane abacabanga ngokuyinhloko ngesinxephezelo cishe bazovalwa ekuqaleni kwenqubo.
Imali ejwayelekile yemali engu-$ 20,000 kuya ku-$ 35,000 ingazwakala njengeningi. Kodwa uma ucabangela isikhathi nomzamo ohilelekile, futhi inyanga engu-9, ukuzinikezela kwamahora angu-24 ukukhulelwa, owesifazane uzokwenza ngaphezulu ngehora esebenza endaweni yokudla okusheshayo kunokuba abe ngumuntu ozithandayo. Ukuziqhenya akuyona uhlelo oluthile-okusheshayo. Kuyindlela enesihawu yokusiza ukuletha impilo kuleli zwe futhi wakhe umndeni ongeke ube ngaphandle kosizo lwakho.
Uyini Umehluko Phakathi Kokuqokwa Kwendabuko Nokuqokwa KwamaGestational?
Uma ungumuntu ongokoqobo, uzothola izakhi zofuzo ezihlobene nomntwana.
Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi amaqanda akho asetshenziswa. Nina bobabili umnikeli weqanda kanye nomuntu ongu-surrogate, kulokhu.
I-sperm ingaba isidoda somnikeli noma ingavela kumunye wabazali abahlosiwe. Isidakamizwa sidluliselwa esibelethweni sakho nge-insemination, ngokuvamile i- intrauterine insemination , noma i-IUI. Ku-surrogacy yokuzibulala, eyaziwa nangokuthi i- IVF surrogacy , ngeke ube ne-genetically related to the baby.
Umama ohlosiwe angase abe umzali wezakhi zofuzo noma umnikezeli weqanda noma umnikezeli wombungu ozosetshenziswa. Ngenxa yezinkinga ezingokomthetho nezomzwelo ezingase zivele ngesikhathi sokuzivocavoca kwendabuko, ukuzondla ngokweqile kuyindlela yokukhetha.
Ubani Ongakusiza Njengomuntu Oqhelile?
Ukuziqhenya kungasiza umbhangqwana ukuba nomntwana ongeke akwazi ukukhulelwa noma ukubeletha. Kwabanye, lokhu kubangelwa izinkinga zesibindi, kubandakanya ukunamathela kwe- uterine okungaphelele , ukuma okungavamile kwesibeletho noma ukungabikho ngokuphelele kwesibeletho, ngenxa ye-hysterectomy yangaphambili noma i-defenital defect eyaziwa ngokuthi i-müllerian agenesis. Abanye besifazane kungenzeka babhekana nezinkinga zokulahleka okuphindaphindiwe noma ukuhluleka okuphindaphindiwe kwe-IVF embryo implantation.
Esinye isizathu ukuthi umbhangqwana ungadinga ukukhululwa ngenxa yokuthi unina ohlosiwe unesimo sezokwelapha esenza impilo yokukhulelwa ibe yingozi kumntanakhe. Lokhu kungabandakanya isifo senhliziyo esibi, isifo esinzima sezinso, umlando wesifo somdlavuza, isifo sikashukela esinamandla, i-lupus, i-cystic fibrous noma umlando we- pre-eclampsia enzima nge- HELLP syndrome . Ukuzibuza kungase kusetshenziselwe ukusiza umbhangqwana wesilisa ongathandana naye unomntwana.
Iziqu Zokuba Ngumfundi
Ezinye iziqu zemigomo ye-surrogacy zizocaca ngqo emitholampilo yokuzala abazali abahlosiwe abasebenza nabo, ngakho-ke lokhu kufanele kubhekwe kuphela iziqondiso ezijwayelekile.
Imibuzo kufanele:
- Usuvele unabantwana futhi, njengamanje, okwamanje uwakhulisa. Futhi, ngokufanelekile, umuntu oqokwayo kufanele aqedelwe ukuba nezingane zakhe.
- Sekuvele uhlangene nokukhulelwa-ukukhulelwa mahhala nokubeletha.
- Yiba nempilo enhle (ayikho isifo esithathelwana ngocansi noma izinkinga ezinkulu zempilo ezingasongela impilo yakho noma ingane oyoyithwala).
- Yiba nesisindo esinempilo .
- Akayekanga ingane ukuze ilandelwe esikhathini esidlule.
- Yiba nomshuwalense wezempilo ohlanganisa ukubeletha nokubeletha futhi awunayo isigatshana sokunqunyulwa kokuzikhethela. Umshuwalense wezwe noma wenhlangano, njengoMedare, ungukuthi cha no-absolute for surrogacy.
- Yiba nomshuwalense wokuphila, uma kunoma yiziphi izinkinga ezingavamile, ezisongela ukuphila ezenzekayo.
- Yiba nengeniso eqinile engeke isongelwe uma ukuphumula kombhede noma izinkinga zokukhulelwa zivimbela ukusebenza.
- Yiba neminyaka engama-21 kodwa ingaphansi kuka-35. (Imikhombandlela yobudala iyohluka ukusuka emtholampilo kuya emtholampilo.)
- Awunawo umlando wokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa noma udoti.
- Unakekelwa yindoda noma umlingani. Umlingani womngane wakhe angase futhi adinge ukuthi ahlolwe isifo socansi.
- Phila esimweni esivumelana nomuntu onomusa (noma izwe.)
- Ukwazi ukufika nakokuqokwa kwabadokotela (ukuqapha umtholampilo wokuzala nokudluliswa kombungu ) bese kuthi kamuva emva kokuqashwa kokubeletha.
- Yiba nesimiso esivumelana nezimo nokunakekelwa kwezingane okunokwethenjelwa, ikakhulukazi ekuqothuleni noma ekudluliseni embryo izici ze-surrogacy.
- Vula ukuhlolwa kokuzala, ukuhlolwa kwezokwelapha jikelele, ukubukwa kwengqondo, ukuzibophezela isikhathi esiqinile (ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi senqubo ye-IVF ), futhi uzimisele ukuthatha imithi yama-hormone (kufaka phakathi ama- injection noma i-suppositories) ukusiza ukuqala noma ukusekela ukukhulelwa.
- Zizimisele ukukhulumisana ngokukhululekile phakathi kwakhe, odokotela bakhe nabazali abahlosiwe noma umlamuleli ovunyelwene naye. Kumele futhi azimisele ukuza ukululekwa, noma ngabanye noma nabazali abahlosiwe, kufanele kuphakame inkinga yokuxhumana.
- Qonda ukuthi ukuphumula kombhede (ikakhulukazi uma kucindezela cishe) kungabandakanyeka.
- Zizimisele ukugwema ubulili nomlingani wakhe kuze kube yilapho sekukhulelwa, futhi uvuleleke ekuvivinyweni kofuzo ngesikhathi noma emva kokukhulelwa.
- Qonda ukuthi ukukhulelwa akuqinisekisiwe ukuba kwenzeke.
Lokhu akufanele kuthathwe njengoluhlu oluphelele, kodwa kufanele kukunikeze umbono wokuthi ukubandakanyeka kuhilelekile kangakanani.
Ngingayithola Yini Inkokhelo Yokuhlinzeka Ngezinsizakalo Zokuqapha?
E-America, amalungiselelo amaningi okuhlinzeka nge-surrogacy ayinzuzo yokuthengisa. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ukuzinikela kuyothola izinkokhelo zezinsizakalo zakhe. Ukubuyiswa kwemali kuyahluka kodwa kuphakathi kuka-20,000 no-$ 35,000.
Kunezizwe kanye namazwe lapho ukuhweba ngokweqile kwezomnotho kungekho emthethweni, futhi lo muntu othola imali angathola kuphela isinxephezelo sezindleko. Yiziphi izindleko ezifakiwe ezizoxhomeka esimweni esithile salo muntu. Kungcono ukukhuluma nommeli ukuze ufunde ukuthi lokhu kungabandakanya yini. Uma umngane noma ilunga lomndeni evuma ukuthi abe ngumuntu oqhamukayo, isinxephezelo ngokuvamile asibandakanyi. Abazali abahlosiwe, hhayi umtholampilo wokuzala, bakhokhela izidingo zakhe. Ngakho uma umngane noma ilunga lomndeni elindele ukukhokha, kubalulekile ukuthi baqonde abazali abahlosiwe yibo abazokhokha. Inkokhelo ivame ukunikezwa ngezitolimende. Lokhu kuvunyelwene ngaphambi kokuba isivumelwano sisayinwe. (Kufanele kukhonjiswe kwinkontileka.) Imali ephelele igcinwe ku-akhawunti yokukhipha ngaphambi kokuthi i-surrogacy iqale. Ngokuvamile, uma kutholakala ukushaya kwenhliziyo, kuqinisekisa ukukhulelwa, inkokhelo yokuqala inikelwa. Imali yonke imali inikezwa ngezitolimende, njengoba ukukhulelwa kuqhubeka.
Ingabe I-Surrogacy Legal?
Ukuzibuza kuyinto esemthethweni emazweni amaningi e-United States nasemazweni amaningi. Kodwa-ke, kukhona okunye okushiwo kanye namanye amazwe lapho kuvunyelwa khona umthetho ngokungemthetho. Kukhona futhi izindawo lapho kuvunyelwa khona ukuthi akuyona into engekho emthethweni, kodwa izinkontileka azibonakali enkantolo. Lokhu kungaholela ezinkingeni ezinzima kufanele okuthile kuhambe kahle. Kwezinye izindawo, ukuphela kwesidakamizwa sokuhweba kungekho emthethweni kodwa ukungena emthethweni okungabandakanyi isinxephezelo se-surrogacy ngokwamukelekile. Ngenxa yobunzima be-surrogacy, kubalulekile ukuthi ukhulume nommeli ngaphambi kokuvuma kunoma yiluphi uhlelo lokunciphisa. Kukhona imibhangqwana kanye nabanikazi abanethemba lokuhlela izinto ngasese, ngaphandle kosizo labameli noma i-ejenti, ngomzamo wokulondoloza imali. Lokhu kungaholela emiphumeleni enhle. Ngokudabukisayo, kunabantu abangekho lapho bebheke ku-scam okungenzeka ukuthi bangabantwana nabazali abahlosiwe.
Ukuzijabulisa, ukusebenzisa i-ejensi ehloniphekile (uma usebenzisa i-surrogate engaziwa) kanye nabameli abanolwazi (ummeli oyedwa wombhangqwana kanye nomunye we-surrogate) yiyona ndlela engcono kakhulu yokusebenza. Khuluma ne- RESOLVE yakho, Indlela 2 Yokubeletha , noma umtholampilo wokuzala ukuze uthole isiqondiso.
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