Indlela enhle yokwakha ukuhlonipha kwengane yakho nokuhlonipha abanye
Uke wezwa ngomdlalo osebenzisanayo "ukubamba ukuncoma," umdlalo omnandi ongakusiza ukwakha ukuzethemba kwezingane zakho? Le game esheshayo futhi elula kusiza ingane yakho ifunde ukubona izimfanelo ezinhle kwabanye futhi imnike ithuba lokuzwa izinto ezinhle ngaye ngokwakhe kwabanye. Njengobhonasi, ngemva kokukufundisa lo mdlalo sizokhuluma kancane mayelana nendlela yokukhulisa ukuzethemba kwezingane zakho.
Akusobala ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi ezinye zezindlela abazali abazama ngazo ukuthuthukisa ukuzihlonipha kwezingane zabo eminyakeni yamuva bangenza okuphambene nalokho.
Ukuncoma nokuzibophezela
Ukunikeza nokwamukelwa kubalulekile kubo bonke abantwana ekuthuthukiseni ukuzethemba nokuhlonipha abanye. Lezi zakhono zomphakathi zibaluleke kakhulu kubantwana abafunda abakhubazekile noma abanezinye izinhlobo zokukhubazeka kokufunda .
Kamuva kulesi sihloko, sizokhuluma kancane mayelana nendlela yokwakha i-ego yengane yakho ngaphandle kokwakha i-egomaniac Izihloko eziningi "zokuzisiza" ongase uzilandele kumamagazini zingase zisize ukwenza lokho okulandelayo, ngakho thatha isikhathi sokuqinisekisa ngempela ukwakha ukuzihlonipha kwengane yakho.
Ngenhlanhla, enye yezinhle zokuphila nengane yokufunda ekhutshazekile ukuthi ayitholakali kakhulu emithanjweni yamanje yamalungelo omphakathi. Ungancoma ngaphandle kokudumisa kwakho ngokuqondile ukuya emakhanda abo!
Into eyodwa eyenza ngempela lo mdlalo uhlukile, ukuthi akusizi nje kuphela ukuthuthukisa ukuzihlonipha kwengane yakho kodwa kumsiza ukuba abone okuhle kwabanye.
Thola umdlalo wokubonga wokuzakhela ukuzethemba nokwazisa
Thola Ukubonga kuyinto elula yokufunda umdlalo ongadlalwa nawo wonke ubudala.
Konke okudingayo wena nomntanakho nabaningi noma abambalwa abanye abantu njengoba ufisa ukuzibandakanya.
Kunzima: Kulula
Inani labadlali elidingekayo: Noma yini onayo
Isikhathi esidingekayo: Noma yini onayo
Iminyaka : Noma yikuphi
Nakhu:
- Hlanganisa ukukhethwa kwebhola elithambile, elincane kakhulu lomdlalo. Amabhola asebhishi, ama-foam balls, nezindawo zokudlala ezithambile zingasebenza kahle. Ngokweqile, ungadala ngisho nephephandaba noma wenze ibhola le-tape.
- Endaweni enkulu, evulekile (enezingcingo ezikhishiwe) ubutha abadlali ibe yindingilizi. Ungadlala ngaphakathi noma ngaphandle, akunandaba.
- Abadlali baphenduka baphonsa ibhola elilodwa kubadlali abahlukene embuthanweni. Njengoba ukuphonsa ngakunye kwenziwa, umdlali okhanyelayo unikeza umdlali owamukelayo ukuncoma.
- Umdlali owemukelayo uyaphoqa ibhola kumunye umuntu, futhi, ukunikeza ukuncoma njengoba ibhola liphonsa.
- Uma uthanda, kancane kancane engeza amabhola amaningi njengoba umdlalo uqhubeka. Lokhu kuzokwandisa ijubane nezinga lesinselele kubadlali njengoba bezama ukucabanga ngokuncoma ukunikeza.
- Ekupheleni komdlalo, thatha isikhathi sokubuza abadlali ukuthi yini eyinkimbinkimbi kubo, yini elula, futhi yintoni eyayihle kakhulu okwenzeka ngesikhathi semdlalo. Buza abadlali ukuthi bachaze ukuthi yini okudingeka bayenze ukuze baphumelele emdlalweni. Uzothola ukuthi ukulalela, ukubuka, ukucabanga, namanye amakhono okuzoshiwo.
Okudingayo:
- Isikhala sokudlala esikhulu ngokwanele ukwamukela abahlukumezi abadlali abasusiwe
- Amabhola amancane alula, alula kakhulu
Yenze ibe Yakho:
- Enye yobuhle balo mdlalo wukuthi ungakwazi ukwengeza imithetho emisha noma ukuphazamisa nganoma iyiphi indlela oyithandayo. Mhlawumbe wengeze nxazonke izingane okufanele zinikeze ukuncoma. Khona-ke mhlawumbe nxazonke kufanele bathi okuthile okuhle noma okuhlekisayo ngabantu abadala phakathi kwabo. Uma unezingane zikhuluma ngale ndlela ungahamba cishe noma yikuphi nomdlalo. Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuba nezingane kuvela nemibono yabo, futhi ukuzama ukuzithuthukisa kuyisimo sokuzethemba sokuziqinisa!
Isaziso sokuqapha : Njengoba umuntu omdala edlala lo mdlalo nomntanakho, zama ukuthola izincomo ezihambelana nobuntu bakho. Isibonelo, ungadumise ingane yakho nge isipelingi sakhe uma engakwazi ukupela igama elilodwa ngokufanele. Izingane zingatshela umehluko phakathi kokudumisa okungamanga nokudumisa kwangempela, futhi ukudumisa okungamanga kungenza okuphambene nalokho okuhlosile. Lokho kusho ukuthi, ngisho nezingane eziningi ezikhubazekile zikhona izincomo eziningi ezizosebenza ukuphakamisa ukuzethemba kwayo. Mhlawumbe unomomotheka omuhle. Mhlawumbe ubonisa ukubekezela okuphawulekayo. Ukufuna nokuthola ezinye zalezi zimfanelo njengomzali wengane onokukhubazeka kokufunda kuyigugu. Wonke umuntu unamandla kanye nobuthakathaka bawo, futhi yini okungenzeka kube ubuthakathaka obukhulu kuwe ungase ube yinye yamandla akho afihliwe futhi enhle. Ngenxa yalokhu, ukudlala lo mdlalo kuzobazuzisa abazali njalo uma kungengaphezu kwezingane zabo.
Izwi Lokuqapha Ngokuzakhela Ukuzimela
Ngaphambi kokukhuluma okwengeziwe ngesakhiwo sokuzihlonipha, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhomba amaphuzu ambalwa kakhulu. Kuleli zwe lethu elikhukhumezekayo, kubalulekile ukuchaza ukuthi yikuphi ukuzethemba kanye nokuthi akusikho. Ukuzihlonipha kubhekisela kumzwelo wokuziqhenya. Akusho ukuzwa kangcono kunalokho noma ukuphakama kwabanye abantu.
Eqinisweni, ukubhubhisa ingane nokukhuthaza umqondo wokuthola ilungelo akusizi ukwakha ukuzethemba. Uma ubheka ukuzungezile, abantu abazizwa benelungelo elikhulu-njengezwe ababazuze okuthile-banokuthokoza kakhulu kunabo bonke. Njengoba abazali bokufunda bekhubaza izingane, singafunda okuningi ngokuzihlonipha okuvela ezinganeni zethu. Indlela okuthandwa ngayo nje ngokuba yilokho ebaluleke kakhulu, futhi ayixhomekile ekuhlangabezaneni nokulindela kwabanye.
Ukuzethemba akusho njalo ukunqoba noma ukufeza okuthile. Eqinisweni, ukufundisa izingane zethu ukufunda ukuhlala nokuhluleka kwandisa ukuzethemba. Ukufunda ukuhlala nokuhluleka kusiza ukwakha uzwela, futhi uzwela luyisisekelo sekhono lokuqonda ngokomzwelo. Uma usuvele ukhathazeke ngenye indlela ingane yakho ingena emsebenzini, sizwa ukuthi ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo (EIQ) kungenzeka kube yinto enkulu kunazo zonke ukuhlakanipha (IQ) ngesikhathi lapho lolo suku luhamba khona.
Ukwakha Ukuzimela Kwengane Yakho
Ukuqapha okukhulunywe ngakho, izingane ezikhubazeka ukufunda zivame ukubhekana nezinkinga zokuzethemba. Uma ingane yakho ikujabulela lo mdlalo, ungafundisa neminye imibono yokwakha ukuzethemba ngamashidi nemisebenzi.
Ngaphansi
Zama lo mdlalo njengendlela yokwandisa ukuzihlonipha kwengane yakho futhi umsize aqaphele futhi ahloniphe labo abakuzungezile ngesikhathi esifanayo. Okokugcina, hlola izindlela zokwakha ukuzethemba okuqinile kwengane yakho .
Imithombo:
U-Alfano, A., Kiddo Uyazi kahle. Ukubuka Okungavamile Kwezingane Kungase Kukhuthaze I-Narcissism. Scientific American . 2015. 312 (6): 25.