Le nqubo kuthiwa isisiza izingane ukuba zizinze
Uma ubusuku bakho besana selishiyile kakhulu owaziyo kakhulu ekuseni, cishe uyazibuza ukuthi ungenzenjani ukuze umenze alele isikhathi eside.
I-Ferber Method yindlela eyaziwa kakhulu yokuqeqeshwa kwezingane ezisungulwe nguDkt. Richard Ferber. Le nqubo ihilela ukusebenzisa isikhathi esithandwayo sokulala nomntanakho, futhi lapho evuka, umvumela ukuba akhale isikhathi eside kuze kube yilapho efunda ukuthi angazitholela kanjani ukulala eyedwa.
Ingabe Lokhu Kusho Ngifanele Ngivumele Izingane Zami "Ziyikhalele"?
Ngezinye izikhathi kuthiwa yi-"cry out" indlela, le nqubo ayifuni ukushiya ingane yakho ukukhala nokukhala ubusuku bonke, ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile. Uzofaka ekamelweni lomntanakho ukumbamba futhi umduduze emva kwesikhathi esilungisiwe "sokulinda". Kodwa esikhundleni sokumthatha futhi ukumondla, wenza ukubukeka okusheshayo-isikhathi eside ngokwanele ukumqinisekisa yena futhi ukuthi ulungile-futhi ushiye ekamelweni.
Lokhu kusiza ingane yakho ukuba ifunde ukuthi ukukhala ngeke kuholele ekutheni noma kuphazamiseke, futhi ngemuva kweviki ngokukhuphula kancane kancane isikhathi "sokulinda" sesheke lakho, inkolelo ithi ingane yakho izoqala ukulala yedwa.
Njengoba kungenjalo ngempela ubudala lapho i-Ferber Method ifanelekile ukuba zonke izingane zisetshenziswe, khuluma nodokotela wakho ukubona ukuthi ingane yakho ikhulile ngokwanele . Kungenzeka kube khona emakethe ezinyanga ezinhlanu udokotela wakho akunika ukukhanya okuluhlaza ukuze uzame.
Indlela Yokusebenzisa Umzila Wensimbi
Ezinsukwini nasemasontweni ngaphambi kokuba usebenzise i- Ferber Method , qalisa isimiso esilungelekile nesingaguquguquki sokulala . I-Ferber igcina ukuthi enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokugwema izinkinga zokulala ukudala ubudlelwane obuhle bokulala njengengane esanda kuzalwa. Izikhathi zokulala zisiza ukukhombisa ingane yakho ukuthi maduzane kulindeleke ukuba alale.
Lezi zinhlelo zingabeka isisekelo sokulala okuzimele. Nakuba izindlela ezibandakanya ukulila azifanelekile ezisanda kuzalwa nezinsana, ungasungula izinhlelo zokulala zokulala phakathi nalezi zinyanga zakuqala.
Qala ngokuhamba ngesimiso sokulala lapho usuvele usungulwe. Beka umntwana wakho esikhwameni sakhe siphapheme. Vula izibani (ukukhanya ebusuku uma kudingeka), tshela okuhle ebusuku bese usuka ekamelweni. Yenza lokhu ngisho noma ingane yakho iqala ukukhala.
Ngemuva kwesikhathi esinqunyiwe, uma ingane yakho isakhala, buyela ekamelweni okwesikhashana noma emibili. Shiya izibani, gcina izwi lakho lizolile futhi lithule. Phindela emuva ingane yakho ngendlela eqinisekisayo, kodwa ungamthandi. Shiya ekamelweni ngokushesha.
Lesi sikhathi sihlala ngaphandle kwekamelo isikhathi eside kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba ubuyele ekuqinisekiseni ingane yakho njengoba wenza ngaphambili. Futhi, gcina izibani zivuliwe, izwi lakho phansi, futhi ungathathi ingane yakho. Qhubeka le nqubo yokulinda kancane kancane isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba ubuyele ekamelweni lomntwana wakho. Qhubeka nokulinda kuze kube yilapho ingane yakho ilele yedwa.
Uma ingane yakho ivuka phakathi nobusuku, qala emuva emuva enkambeni kuqala ngesikhatsi sokulinda esiphansi kusukela ekuqaleni kobusuku.
Ngobusuku obesibili, linda isikhathi eside kunokwenza ngaphambilini ngaphambi kokufaka igumbi lomntwana wakho. Qhubeka ngokuqhubekayo ulinde isikhathi eside kuze kube yilapho ingane yakho ilele yedwa.
Kufanele Ngilinde Kangakanani Ngaphambi Kokuhlola Izingane Zami?
UDkt Ferber ukhombisa ukuthi ubude besikhathi besikhathi sokulinda okuqhubekayo ekuxazululeni Izinkinga Zokulala Zengane Yakho :
- Ngobusuku bokuqala ulinde imizuzu engu-3 ngaphambi kokungena ekamelweni. Ukwandisa isikhathi esilandelayo sokulinda kumaminithi angu-5, futhi ekugcineni, imizuzu engu-10 yesithathu kanye nokuvakashelwa okwengeziwe okudingekayo.
- Ngobusuku wesibili kulindeleke u-5, 10, bese kuthi amaminithi angu-12.
- Ubusuku obuningi: qhubeka ukhula kancane isikhathi ngasinye.
Kulungile ukulungisa i-Method ukuze ulandele umndeni wakho
Hlola ukuthi indlela ikusebenzela kanjani. UDkt. Ferber uthi ngobusuku besithathu noma besine, iningi labantwana lilele bodwa. Izingane eziphikisayo zingathatha isonto. I-Ferber iphinde ikhuthaze abazali ukuthi bavumelane nendlela kanye nezikhathi ezihambisana nezidingo zomndeni wabo.
Kuye ngezidingo zomntanakho kanye nezinga lakho lokunethezeka, ungakwandisa noma unciphise izikhathi zakho zokulinda. Futhi kuyilapho kubalulekile ukunamathela esimisweni sokulala sokubeka isikhathi, kuzoba yizikhathi lapho kudingeka khona ukuguquguquka, njengokuthi ingane yakho iyagula, uma uhamba, noma noma iyiphi enye yezinye izimo.
Qiniseka ukuthi bonke labo abathintekayo ekunakekeleni ingane baqonde indlela yokusebenzisa indlela. Ukubambisana kubalulekile ekufezeni impumelelo.
Uma izinto zingahambi kahle, ungakhetha njalo ukuzama i-Ferber Method futhi emavikini ambalwa nje noma uzame indlela ehlukile yokwenza umama ebusuku.
> Imithombo
> Ferber, uRichard. Sombulula Izinkinga Zokulala Zengane Yakho. I-Touchstone, ngoMeyi 2006