Kusuka ku-Soup Soup for the Soul Teenage kuya Emfihlelweni Yamandla Amasha
Ungase uzibuze ukuthi yini ongayenza ukuze ugqoze ingane yakho, kepha uma unjengobazali abaningi bentsha, lokhu kungaba yinselele. Yilapho lapho "imithombo engaphandle" yokuphefumulelwa ingasebenza ngokukhethekile. Ukukhuluma ngamahlaya ngendlela abantu abathembela ngayo uDkt Google ngaphezu kukadokotela wabo, intsha ingase ibe namathuba amaningi okuthemba amagama abanye kunomzali ohloniphekile. Izincwadi ezinhle, ezikhuthazayo ziyindlela enhle uma kuziwa ekuthonyeni ingane yakho ngendlela oyifisayo kodwa ngezwi elihlukile.
Akuzona zonke izincwadi ezifanayo, futhi kubalulekile ukuba nemithombo ethembekile uma uthatha le ndlela. Kukhona, impela imiyalezo eminingi ekhuthazayo akufanele sinikeze intsha yethu . Ukutshela ingane yakho ukuthi umuntu ongcono uzofika lapho behlukana nothando lwabo lokuqala alugcini nje kuphela, kodwa kuyithuba eliphuthelwe kubazali (noma umlobi omuhle) ukukhuluma ukuthi intsha ingabhekana kanjani nokuhlukana . Ngokufanayo, izingane ezivamile ze-psychology zezingane zivame ukuzwa ukuthi akufanele zikhathazeke ngalokho umuntu ocabanga ngakho, akuyona umyalezo esifuna ukuba bazizwe. Nakuba kubalulekile ukuba intsha yethu ifunde amakhono okuqinisekisa, futhi ingakhathazeki ngalokho wonke umuntu akucabanga, kubalulekile ukuthi balalele futhi bahloniphe indlela abanye abantu abacabanga ngayo, ikakhulukazi abazali babo.
Iminyaka eyishumi iyinselele ngisho nangenxa yentsha evuthiwe kakhulu (kanye nabazali abanothando kakhulu, abanothando). Le ndawo emkhatsini wobuntfwana kanye nekukhulile kwasekuqaleni igcwala umhlaba. Futhi uma izinkinga ezisakhulayo zinganele, intsha ayiyazi ukuthi ilalaphi emfuleni usuku nosuku. Ngelinye ilanga bafuna ukuhlwithwa njengengane encane kanti okulandelayo balindele amalungelo agcwele asebekhulile. Njengabazali, siyazi ukuthi intsha yanamuhla idinga konke ukusekelwa okuhlakaniphile abangayithola ngezikhathi ezivivinya zokukhula.
Hlola izincwadi ezilandelayo ezikhuthazayo ezingase zingasiza nje intsha kuphela kodwa zinike abazali bazo nezeluleko ezimbalwa kanye nokuqonda!
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Akudingeki Ufunde Yonke Into EyinkimbinkimbiAkudingeki Ufunde konke okuyiyona ndlela eyinkimbinkimbi ihlanganisa izinto eziningi abasha abadingayo futhi bafuna ukufunda ngazo: kusuka ezindaweni ezibucayi ezifana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi , ubuhlungu, nezikhathi ezinzima, ezindabeni ezifana nokuqonda indlela yokubhekana nokucindezela kontanga nokwenza ukukhetha okuhle mayelana nezidakamizwa. Lezi yizihloko intsha eyabuza u-Auntie Laya ukuthi abhale ngakho.
Bacele nokuphefumulelwa kanye nemibono mayelana nemigomo, izinguquko zokuphila, kanye nobulili. ULawula uSawuli akadeki kunoma yikuphi isihloko esinganika amandla umuntu omdala osemusha. Unika intsha amathuluzi okubhekana nokuhlolwa kwezinto zokuphila! Njengomama omthandayo, u-Laya uSawulu ukhuthaza abafundi bakhe ukuba basebenzise izinselele njengamatshe okuhamba.
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Cabanga Ngokuqiniseka, Qiniseka NgezinganeUkuthembela kufana nomlingo oheha abantu kuwe futhi kukusiza ukuba usondele ekufinyeleleni imigomo yakho. Uma ukholelwa kuwe, uthumela umlayezo onayo ubuchopho, ikhono, nelithenda ukuphatha noma yikuphi ukuphila okuthumela indlela yakho. Futhi iqiniso liwukuthi, uyenze!
Ukusebenzisa amakhono anamandla asekelwe ekutheni ukwelashwa kokuziphatha okucatshangelwayo (CBT), Cabanga Ngokuqiniseka, Yiba Nesibindi Ngezinsizwa zikubonisa ukuthi ungathinta kanjani ukuzethemba kwakho ukuze ube ngokwakho kuzo zonke izimo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzizwa ungazizwa kanjani noma ukwethuka okungase kuzwakale. Izenzo ezithokozisayo kanye namathiphu kule ncwadi yokufundisa yokuzethemba kuzokuqondisa imizwa yangaphambilini yokuziphendulela futhi ikukhuthaze ukuba ukholelwe kuwe, uqinise ubungane bakho, futhi uhlangabezane naso sonke isihloko senselelo. Uzokwenza kanjalo:
- Yazi futhi unqobe imicabango yokuziphendulela eyokukwehlisa
- Khulisa imicabango yakho eqinile ekusebenzeni okuzethembayo
- Jabulela impilo egcwele yomphakathi futhi udonse abangane abasha
- Zizwa kahle esikoleni futhi wakhe phezu kwamakhono akho e-extracurricular
Uma ufuna ukuqala ngaphambi kokufunda le ncwadi, hlola amasu ethu ayisishiyagalombili okubalulekile okukhulisa umntwana othembekile , noma, uma ingane yakho inamahloni, funda ezinye zezindlela ongasiza ngayo intsha enamahloni ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba .
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Ukuzindla Kwansuku zonke Kwabaningi Abasebenza NgokuphumelelayoI-Sean Covey's The Habits of Youth Effective Teens iye yasiza amakhulu ezinkulungwane zentsha ukuthola indlela eya empumelelweni nasekugcwalisekeni komuntu siqu. Manje, nge- Daily Reflections for Teen Technically Effective, sinencwadi eyogqugquzela intsha ukuba iqonde, ihloniphe futhi ifake amandla emikhuba engu-7.
Ngomhlahlandlela wokuphumelela wansuku zonke, intsha izofunda indlela yokuthuthukisa ukuzithokozisa kwabo, ukwakha ubungane, ukumelana nokucindezela kontanga, ukufeza imigomo yabo, ukwenza izinqumo ezibalulekile, nokuphila impilo enempilo, nokuzethemba. Iphakanyiswe izingcaphuno ezinkulu, imibono emihle kakhulu, nokuphefumulelwa, umhlahlandlela kaSean Covey ofudumele, oqondayo futhi ohlekisayo unikeza intsha imephu yomgwaqo ukuze iphile futhi ikhule ekukhuleni nasekudleni.
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Inkukhu Yezinkukhu ZeMphefumulo WezinganeUmphefumulo Wezinkukhu Umphefumulo Wezinsana: 101 Izindaba zoMpilo, Uthando nokuFunda ziyingxenye ye-Chicken Soup ethandwa kakhulu yochungechunge loMphefumulo.
Le ncwadi iqukethe izindaba, izinkondlo, nemifanekiso ephathelene nezinkinga ezithile ezihlukumeza intsha yonke indawo. Ngenkathi uhlobo lwezinkinga ezintsha ezibhekene nazo zihluka kusukela kwengane kuya komntwana, cishe kuzoba okungenani izindaba ezimbalwa ezihambisana nengane yakho futhi wenze umhlaba ubonakale indawo encane futhi efudumele.
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Inkukhu Yenkukhu Yomphefumulo Wezinsizwa IIInkukhu Yenkukhu Yomphefumulo We-Teenage II inikeza izindaba ezithuthumayo ukuze zikusize ukwazi umdlalo esiwubiza ngokuthi impilo. Izintsha zanamuhla zinezinkinga ezengeziwe futhi ukucindezelwa kwezenhlalakahle ukugxila kunabantu abasebasha eminyakeni engaba ngu-20 edlule.
Le ncwadi, njengeyandulela yona, ingaba isiqondiso sakho; ibhakoni ebumnyameni, indawo ephephile esiphepho, ukufudumala okufudumele emakhazeni, nokuphefumula kwesizungu. Akukho ukushunyayelwa ngokuthi yini okufanele uyenze futhi akufanele ukwenze. Esikhundleni salokho, le ncwadi igcwele intsha ehlanganyela okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo ekufundeni ukuba ujabule ukuthi bangobani, ukufunda ukuzithanda, nokuba umuntu ongcono kakhulu.
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Imfihlakalo Yokuthuthukisa AmandlaKusukela encwadini yaso yokuqala, The Secret uye yaphefumulela izigidi ukuba ziphile ukuphila okungajwayelekile. Imfihlakalo Yokuthuthukisa Amandla yenza ulwazi lomthetho wokukhanga lufinyeleleke futhi lufanele kuntsha yanamuhla. Lichaza umthetho wokukhangwa ngokuphathelene nezinkinga ezisencane ezifana nabangane nobuhlobo, umsebenzi wesikole, nokuzibona. Ichaza indlela intsha engayishintsha ngayo izimpilo zayo futhi iphile amaphupho abo, ngokuqonda nokusebenzisa amandla abanakho ezandleni zabo. A
Imfihlakalo Yokukhulelwa Amandla ithembisa ukulandela indlela ye- The Secret , intsha ekhuthazayo kanye nabantu abasha ukuletha injabulo nokuvumelana kuzo zonke izici zokuphila kwabo.
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Ukunambitha ama-Berries for Teens 3Bettie B. Youngs, Ph.D. futhi uJennifer Leigh Youngs basebenze namakhulu ezinsizwa ezineminyaka ehlukahlukene nezindawo ezehlukene ukuze bafike enhliziyweni yezindaba zangempela zentsha. Lo mnikelo wakamuva ubonisa lokho okushiwo intsha ukuthi iyisisekelo sokuphila, ukugcina nokubhekana nabangani, ukuthola umuntu okhethekile bese usebenzisana nama-makeups nokuhlukumeza, nokuhlunga ngezimpikiswano zokulawula nabazali babo.
Ngokuphindaphindiwe, intsha ikhathazekile ngabangane ababhekene nenkinga yezempilo (njenge-AIDS noma ukuphazamiseka kokudla), abanenkinga enkulu yoketshezi noma yezidakamizwa, nendlela yokusiza abazali babo ngezinkinga zabo. Ukunambitha ama-Berries for Teens 3 ukhuluma ngalokhu okukhathazayo okukhulayo ngokusebenzisa inhlanganisela yezindaba eziveza imicabango yabasha kanye nokuhlakanipha okunomusa kukaBettie noJennifer Youngs.
Ukunambitha ama-Berries for Teens 3 ukukhanyisa isahluko esisha esiqhathaniswa ne-trivia engaziwa ukuthi intsha iyothola injabulo futhi ijabulise futhi ihlanganise nesigaba esibizwa ngokuthi "Buza uDkt. Youngs," lapho uBettie ephendula khona imibuzo ejwayelekile kunazo zonke ezitholakala ebusheni ezindaweni zokwenza ngcono, ubungane, uthando kanye nocansi, ukulila, amahemuhemu, ukuhlukunyezwa, nabazali. Izimpendulo zakhe zembonisa uthando lwakhe ngentsha ngokunikeza izixazululo zangempela nokukhuthaza intsha ukuba ikhulume nabazali bayo noma abantu abadala abalulekile.
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Izinhlu Zokuphila ZentshaIncwadi ethi Life Lists for Teens izokunika amandla ingane yakho ukuzicabangela yona (noma yona). Kuzomkhuthaza ukuba abuke kahle izinkinga abhekene nazo nsuku zonke bese engeza incazelo ekukhethweni akwenzayo. Izinhlu zenza ukufunda okusheshayo okucatshangelwayo kwentsha ematasa. Leli bhuku ngempela kufanele libe nezingane zakho.
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Intsha ingenza lokhu kwenzeke: Izinyathelo eziyisishiyagalombili zempumelelo Zilungiselele impilo yakho yonke yokuphila kwengqondo nangokwengqondo kanye nenhlalakahle engokwenyama nalesi siqondiso esibalulekile futhi esiwusizo-okuphelele kubantu abasha, abazali, ugogo nomkhulu kanye nabafundisi ngokufanayo.
Iminyaka esemusha igcwele ukukhula, isithembiso, izilingo, nezinsizi. Ngalesi sikhathi, omunye angabhekana nezinqumo zokushintsha impilo nezinselelo. Futhi ngokuvamile lezi zinkinga aziphenduli kalula. Ezinganeni zingenza lokhu kwenzeke: Izinyathelo eziyisishiyagalombili zokuphumelela , osomabhizinisi ovelele kanye nomlobi uStman Graham uqondisa abafundi ukuba baziqonde kangcono ngokwabo, amandla abo, nezifiso zabo ngenkathi bebasiza ukuba bahlele futhi bafeze izinhlelo zokufeza imibono yabo. Esikhathini isitayela esijabulisayo nesisetshenziselwa ukuxhumana, u-Graham ugxila igebe phakathi kwezemfundo nezwe langempela futhi unikeza intsha ithuba lokuthuthukisa ukuzethemba, ugweme ukucindezela kontanga, nokusingatha ukucindezeleka kwansuku zonke okuvela ekubeni umuntu omdala osemusha.
Njengomsunguli we- Athletes Against Drugs , inhlangano eyadala ukulwa nokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa nokukhuthaza ubuholi bentsha, uGraham uyazi ukuthi angakhuluma kanjani nentsha. Intsha Engayenza Yenzeke igcwele ukuhlakanipha okufanele futhi okusebenzayo kubantu abadala asebanamuhla. Izandla zayo-ekuhambeni nasesitayela somuntu siqu kwenza le ncwadi yokuzibandakanya kufanele ibe nayo intsha kanye nabazali, ugogo nomkhulu, nanoma ubani omunye othonya abantu abasha.
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Izindlela Zokuphila ZentshaKusukela endodaneni kaDkt. Phil McGraw ifika ku- Life Strategies for Teens, i - New York Times umhlahlandlela ongcono kakhulu wokuphumelela kwentsha, kanye nomhlahlandlela wokuqala wokuphila kwentsha engeke ikutshele ukuthi yenzeni, noma ubani okufanele abe khona, kodwa kunalokho baphile impilo engcono kakhulu.
Ukusebenzisa amasu avela kuDkt Phillip C. McGraw's Life Strategies, indodana yakhe uJay inikeza intsha iMithetho Eyishumi Yokuphila, eyenza uhambo lube lukhuni luhambo olulula futhi oluthe xaxa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubhekene nezinkinga zokuthandwa, ukucindezela kontanga, ukufisa ukuvelela, noma ukungahlehlisi kahle, Izindlela Zokuphila Zentsha iyisiqondiso esikhanyisayo sokusiza intsha ukuthi ingagcini nje kuphela kodwa iphumelele phakathi nale minyaka edumile.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumusha osemusha ufuna usizo oluthile, noma umzali noma ugogo nomkhulu ofuna ukunikeza isiqondiso, le ncwadi inqoba izinselelo zobusha njengokuba kungekho omunye. Ukuhlanganisa amasu okufakaza okubhekana nezithiyo zokuphila kanye nentsha kanye nombhali womlobi uJay McGraw, Amasu Okuphila Kwabasebasha aqinisekile ukuthuthukisa izimpilo zabo bonke abafunda.
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Amazwi Awebiwe: Ama-Diary War Diaries, kusukela eMpini Yezwe I kuya e-IraqIncwadi kaZlata Filipovic yokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe okulimazayo eBalkans, eyanyatheliswa ngo-1993, yamenza waba umkhulumeli ohlonishwa emhlabeni jikelele wezingane ezithinteka empini.
Ezimweni ezibiwe , yena kanye nomhleli we-Melanie Challenger baye baqoqa ama-diaries ayishumi nanhlanu abantu abasha ababhekene nempi, kusukela eMpini Yezwe I kuya emzabalazweni e-Iraq oqhubekayo namhlanje. Njengoba ubufakazi obujulile bentsha ehlakazekile, kanye nemininingwane yempi yesiko lika-Anne Frank, leqoqo eliyingqayizivele-lolohlobo lokuqala-liqinisekile ukushiya umbono ohlala njalo kubafundi abasha nabadala ngokufanayo.
Ngezansi Ekugqugquzeleni Ingane Yakho
Izinketho ezixoxwe ngenhla ziyizindlela ezinhle zokugqugquzela ingane yakho ngaphandle kokukhuluma igama ngokwakho. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukufundwa kunganika amandla ingane yakho ngesikhathi esifanayo lapho efunda futhi ethola yona.
Uma uthola ukuthi lezi zincwadi zikhuthaza ngempela ingane yakho, ungase ufise ukuhlola uhlu lwethu lwezincwadi zokugqugquzela intsha .
> Umthombo:
> Bakardorova, O. noDau Relfelder. I-Interplay ye-Students 'School Engagement, School Self-Concept kanye nobudlelwane obugqugquzelayo phakathi no-Adolescence. Imingcele e-Psychology . 2017. 8: 2171.
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