Izingane Ezinezihlukumezi Zibhekene Neengozi Ekhulayo Kuyo yonke Impilo
Kungenzeka ukuthi uke wazizwa ngemiphumela yesikhashana neyesikhathi eside yokuhlukunyezwa, kodwa yini imiphumela yokuba umhlukumezi? Izingane ezixhashazayo zinengozini enkulu yokwenza imiphumela eminingi engalungile. Abazali abasola ukuthi ingane yabo baziphatha ngokuhlukumezeka bangase bangenele ukusiza ukuvimbela lezi zinkinga kulo lonke impilo yengane yabo.
Imithelela Engalungile Yokuba Nomlutha
Abantu abakhona noma abaxhaphazayo cishe banqamuka esikoleni kunontanga yabo.
Basengozini enkulu yokubhekana nokucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka kokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka kwengqondo, ikakhulukazi uma bebhekana nobukhulu bokuziphatha kwabo kokuxhaphaza. Ngokuvamile izidakamizwa zihlukunyezwa ugwayi, utshwala, kanye nensangu. Kungenzeka kakhulu kunontanga yabo ukuthi bahlanganyele emsebenzini wokuqala wocansi.
Ingozi Ekhulayo Yezinkinga Ngomthetho Weziqhumane
Ukuba ngumhlukumezi njengengane noma kwentsha kwandisa izinkinga zokugijima esikhathini esizayo nomthetho. Ngaphakathi kweminyaka engamashumi amabili, abantu abaqala ukuhlukumezeka banokuphulwa komgwaqo okuphindaphindiwe kanye nokuphindwe kane kokuziphatha kobugebengu kunezingane zabo ezingekho ukuxhaphaza. Phakathi kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu nantathu, abantu abangamaphesenti angu-60 abahlukumeze abanye abantwana emabangeni 6 kuya ku-9 banesibindi esisodwa sokukholelwa kobugebengu. Abantu abaqala ukuxhashazwa nabo banamathuba amaningi okuphatha izikhali kunokungabikho abahlukumezekile futhi bangase bahlakulele ukuhlukunyezwa komuntu.
Iziqhwaga Zithwala Izinkinga Zokubudlelana Ukuba Abantu Abadala
Ukuba ngumhlukumezi ebuntwaneni kubonakala kuthinta ukuphila komuntu njengomuntu omdala.
Abantu abaqala ukuhlukumezeka bavame ukuba nezinkinga nobuhlobo besikhathi eside futhi bangase bahlukumeze bobabili abashade nabo nezingane zabo. Futhi banenkinga enzima yokulondoloza nokugcina umsebenzi kunabantu ababengezona izihlukumezi. Abantu ababengabaqhwaga baningi amathuba okuba nezingane eziba yizihlukumezi ngokwazo, ngaleyo ndlela ziqala umjikelezo ngokuphindaphindiwe.
Ukucwaninga Emiphumeleni
Ucwaningo olunzulu luyenziwe emiphumeleni yokuhlukunyezwa kwabahlukunyeziwe kunabenzi bokuhlukumeza. Futhi, kunezibalo eziningana zezihlukumezazi futhi nazo izisulu zezihlukumezi. Izibuyekezo eziningi zenziwe ezifundweni zakudala. Ikhumbuza umbuzo wokuthi ngabe i-cyberbullies izoba nemiphumela emibi efanayo neyodlame yendabuko "yezwe langempela".
Izimpawu Zokuxwayisa Izingane Zakho Ezihlukumeza Abanye
Ukuba ngumhlukumezi kungaba nemiphumela emibi empilweni yengane yakho. Uma ubheka izimpawu ukuthi uhlanganyela kulokhu kuziphatha, ungase ukwazi ukusiza ingane yakho ukuyeka ukuxhashazwa. Nazi izibonakaliso eziyisixwayiso:
- Uthola ukungqubuzana ngokomzimba nangokwezwi
- Bangabangane nabanye abantwana abanobudlova
- Kubonisa izimpawu zokuba zihlukumezeke
- Ngokuvamile kunezinkinga zokuqondiswa kwezigwegwe esikoleni
- Ulahla abanye kunokuba athathe imithwalo yemisebenzi yakhe siqu
- Ukuncintisana kakhulu futhi kugxile ekuthandeni
Izwi elivela ku-Verywell
Ukuziphatha ngokuxhashaza kungase kube uphawu lokuthi ingane yakho idinga usizo ukuthuthukisa izindlela zokubhekana nokuxhumana okufanele nabanye. Uma ungenelela ekuqedeni ukuziphatha kokuxhashazwa futhi usize ingane yakho ithuthukise amakhono angcono omphakathi, izosiza ingane yakho yonke impilo yakhe.
> Imithombo:
> Imiphumela ye-Bullying. I-StopBullying.gov. https://www.stopbullying.gov/at-risk/effects/index.html.
> Rivara F, Menestrel SL. Ukuvimbela Ukuxhaphaza NgeSayensi, Inqubomgomo, Nokuzikhandla . Washington, DC: I-National Academy Press; 2016.
> Vanderbilt D, Augustyn M. Imiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa. 2010. I- Pediatrics ne-Child Health. 20.7: 315-320.