Ungakugwema kanjani ukumangala ngokuxhashazwa empilweni yengane yakho
Ukuxhashazwa kusezindaba cishe nsuku zonke. Ngenxa yalokho, abazali abaningi bafunde kahle ngale ndaba. Baxoxa nezingane zabo ngokuhlukunyezwa futhi bangakwazi ukubona izibonakaliso eziyisixwayiso . Kukhona ngisho nephesenti enkulu yabazali abagcina amathebhu ngalokho abantwana babo abakwenzayo ku-intanethi.
Kodwa ukuxhashazwa kuyinkinga eyinkimbinkimbi eqhubeka njalo. Ngenxa yalokho, abazali abaningi bayashaqeka lapho bezwa ukuthi umbono wabo wokuxhaphaza uvame ukungapheli.
Nazi izinto eziyisikhombisa eziphezulu abazali abavame ukuziqaphela ngokuxhashazwa.
Ngezinye izikhathi yizingane izingane zakho ezibiza ngokuthi "abangane" abakhulu kakhulu . Lapho abazali becabanga ngezihlukumezi , bavame ukucabangela izinkolelo zokuhlukumezeka ezibandakanya nesizungu esonda umhlaba noma intombazane enhle ethatha labo abangenazo izinsizakalo eziningi zomphakathi. Ngokuvamile abahlukumezi bacabanga ukuthi kude kakhulu nomntwana wabo.
Ngenxa yalokho, abazali bavame ukushaqeka lapho bezwa ukuthi izingane ezixhaphaza izingane zabo yizo ezichitha isikhathi esiningi - lezo ezibiza ngokuthi abangani. Qinisekisa ukuthi ukhuluma nezingane zakho mayelana nalokho okushiwo umngani ophilile futhi yikuphi ukuhlonipha okubukeka. Siza izingane zakho ziqaphele ukuthi ngabe izingane ezibiza abangani bangabangani bangempela.
Noma yimuphi ingane ikwazi ukuhlukunyezwa nokuziphatha okushiwo, kuhlanganise neyakho. Akekho umzali ofuna ukufunda ukuthi ingane yakhe ixhaphaza enye ingane. Kodwa kufanele uqaphele ukuthi kungenzeka.
Ngisho nabantwana abavela emizini emihle bangahlanganyela ekuhlukumezweni uma bevumela ukucindezela kontanga . Futhi bangase bahlanganyele ekuhlukumezweni uma bezama ukungenelela noma ukukhuphuka isiteleka somphakathi.
Qinisekisa ukuthi ukhuluma nezingane zakho mayelana nokuziphatha okunenhlonipho. Futhi funa amathuba okuba uzwela futhi ukwandise ukufunda kwezenhlalo nezomzwelo empilweni yabo.
Uma uthola ingane yakho ukuhlukunyezwa, thatha isinyathelo ngokushesha. Phakamisa isiyalo esifanele sokuziphatha kokuhlukumezeka bese uqapha isimo ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi asenzeki futhi.
Akuzona zonke ukuziphatha okushoyo ukuxhaphaza . Kube nolwazi oluningi ezindabeni mayelana nokuhlukunyezwa, ukuthi umlayezo usuhlanjululwa. Ngenxa yalokho, abazali bavame ukubiza wonke amazwi noma izenzo ezingenabuhlungu njengokuhlukunyezwa. Ngenkathi lezi zinhlobo zokuziphatha zingakafaneleki futhi zilimaze, kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa phakathi kokuziphatha kokuxhashazwa nokuziphatha okungenabuhle . Kubalulekile futhi ukuqonda umehluko phakathi kokuhlukunyezwa nokuxabana okuvamile.
Ukuxhashazwa kunokulingana kwamandla phakathi komuntu ohlukunyezweyo kanye nomhlukumezi. Kubuye ngenhloso nangokuphindaphindiwe. Ukubiza ngegama ngokukhethekile kungaba uhlobo oludideka lokuxhashazwa. Ukubiza umuntu ngegama isikhathi esisodwa akubanga ukuhlukunyezwa, kepha ukubiza umuntu igama usuku ngalunye noma ngaphezu kwesikhathi kunukuxhashazwa. Qinisekisa ukuthi usuqinisekise ukuthi ingane yakho ibhekene nokuhlukunyezwa ngempela ngaphambi kokuthi uyibeke ngaleyo ndlela.
Izingane azihlanganyeli okuningi njengoba ucabanga ukuthi zenza. Ngisho nabantwana abavulekile nabazali babo bavame ukushiya imininingwane. Izizathu zokuntuleka kokudalulwa zihlukahlukene.
Kodwa, njengomzali, kudingeka uqaphele ukuthi lapho ingane yakho ikutshela ngesigameko sokuxhashazwa esasithola noma esasifakaze, ingase ingashiye imininingwane. Ukwengeza, izingane zikwazi ukunciphisa lokho abakubona ikakhulukazi uma becabanga ukuthi uzophuma.
Yakha ukuthembela nengane yakho ekhuthaza ukwabelana okuningi. Ngokwesibonelo, vumela izingane zakho ukuthi zisho ukuthi zifuna kanjani isimo. Futhi, ungakhathazeki ngalokho abakutshelayo. Zama ukumane ulalele futhi uqoqe ulwazi. Futhi qiniseka ukuthi uzwela ngalokho abakuzwayo ngisho noma ungayiqondi noma uzizwa ukuthi akuyona into enkulu yebhizinisi.
Intsha ivame ukulingisa lokho abakubona abanye beyenza. Qala ngokuzibuka wena. Ingabe wenza izinto enizitshela izingane zenu ukuthi zingenzi? Isibonelo, ingabe ukuhleba nabangani bakho ngomunye umama? Ingabe uyahlekisa omunye ubaba odinga ukuncipha? Uyahlekisa ingane yomuntu? Uma wenza lezi zinto, ingane yakho ekugcineni izokwenza izinto ezifanayo.
Ukwengeza, hlola abangane bakho bantfwana. Uma iqembu labo libukeka njenge- clique , khuluma nengane yakho ngalokho. Uma ubona amantombazane eqenjini abonisa ukuziphatha okushiwo, zama ukusiza ingane yakho ikhulise isiyingi sabangane. Futhi uma ubona abafana indodana yakho engabangani ngokwenza amazwi angalungile ngamantombazane, vula iqembu labangane bakho lendodana yakho. Khumbula, njengoba nje ukhuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ibe umuntu omuhle, ukuma abanye nokuphatha abanye ngenhlonipho, kunzima kakhulu ukuba akwenze lokho uma abantu abazungezile bengenzi ngendlela efanayo .
Iningi labantwana bacabanga ngokuhlukumezeka ngokuthi "idrama" futhi kaningi abasebenzisi igama lokuxhashazwa . Lapho izingane eziningi zicabanga ngokuxhashazwa, zicabanga ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba. Ngokuvamile azibheki ezinye izinhlobo zokuxhashazwa njengento enye ngaphandle kwedrama. Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bakhumbule lokhu lapho bekhuluma nezingane zabo. Uma izingane zakho zithi kukhona umdlalo omningi esikoleni noma ukuthi izingane zilahla nabo, cela imibuzo. Thola ukuthi basho ukuthini. Incazelo yakho yokuxhaphaza kanye nomdlalo kungenzeka ukuthi ihluke kakhulu nencazelo yengane yakho.
Izingane zidala kakhulu uma kuziwa ekuhlukunyezweni. Ngesikhathi ucabanga ukuthi uke wakubona konke, uzozwa ngendlela entsha izingane ezisetshenziswa ukukhomba abanye. Qinisekisa ukuthi ufunda ngokuhlukunyezwa njalo futhi uhlale ujwayelene nezingane zokusebenza ezizisebenzisayo. Izinhlelo zokusebenza eziningi zishaya imakethe ukuthi izingane zisetshenziselwa ukuqhutshwa kwe-cyberbullying . Ukwengeza, qiniseka ukuthi izingane zakho zikhuluma nawe ngaphambi kokulanda izinhlelo zokusebenza ezintsha. Bese, hlola nabo ndawonye.