Thola ukuthi izingane eziyazi ukuthi izingane zakho ziba yi-cyberbullies
Kwabaningi abasha, i-intanethi ingaphezulu kakhulu kunethuluzi lokucwaninga esikoleni, amavidiyo we-YouTube namageyimu e-intanethi. Futhi liyingxenye enkulu yokuphila kwabo kwezenhlalakahle. Baxhuma nontanga yabo ngezinsizakalo zezokuxhumana zenhlalo njenge- SnapChat , Instagram ne-Twitter futhi baxoxe nge-intanethi nge-Google Hangouts, i-Skype ne-FaceTime. Ngisho nokuthumela imiyalezo kuyindlela enhle yokuba izingane zikhulume njalo.
Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi lezo zindlela zokuxhumana zingaba mnandi futhi abantu abaye babheka abangane babo ngokuzumayo bawasebenzisa nge- intanethi .
Eqinisweni, ngokusho kwesinye isifundo, ukuxhaphazwa kwe-cyberbullying cishe kwenzeka phakathi kwamanje nabangane bangaphambili kanye nabalingani bakho bomshado kunokuba kungenzeka ukuthi kwenzeke phakathi kwengane yakho nomuntu ongaziwa. Imibiko iphinda ikhombise ukuthi ukuxhaphazwa kwe-cyberbullying kwenzeka kaningi kaningi phakathi kwentsha owaziyo ngaphandle komphakathi phakathi kwabantu ababengakaze bangabangane noma ababalwe.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, abacwaningi bathola ukuthi izinhlobo ezithile zabafundi zingase zihlukunyezwe. Isibonelo, amantombazane aphindwe kabili njengoba abafana bezisulu zokuhlukunyezwa kwe-cyberbullying. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, intsha ye-LGBTQ ingamathuba amane okwedlula izinsizwa zobungqingili ukuthi zihloselwe. Akubona nje kuphela ukuthi bathola ama-slurs angama-homophobic kodwa futhi banesifiso sabo socansi nokuthandwa kwabo kwembula kwabanye ngaphandle kwemvume yabo. Ngokuvamile, i-cyberbullying ngokuvamile ihilela konke kusuka ezinsongweni, ngamahemuhemu nokuhleba, ezithombeni ezihlazisayo, ukwebiwa kwezimpawu kanye namavidiyo ahlazolayo.
Ukwengeza, ukuqhutshwa kwe-cyberbullying kuthatha imiphumela ebalulekile futhi ngokuvamile kunzima kakhulu ukunqoba kunokwemvelo. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulu lapho abahlukumezi bebebhekwa njengabangane. Esinye isizathu sokuthi ukuxhaphazwa kwe-inthanethi kuyingozi kangaka ukuthi izisulu azizwa nje sengathi azikho ukuphunyuka, kodwa nazo zizwa sengathi umhlaba wonke uyazi ukuthi kwenzekani.
Ngokungazelelwe, abasazizwa bephephile emakhaya abo ngenxa yesici esihlangene ngaso sonke isikhathi sempilo yabo yansuku zonke.
Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abazali baqaphele ukuthi ingane yabo inengozi enkulu yokuxhaswa ngumuntu osondelene nabo kunokuba iqhutshelwa yikhompyutha ngokungaziwayo. Nakhu okudingeka ukwazi mayelana nokuhlukunyezwa kwe-inthanethi phakathi kwabangane bokuqala nabalingani bokuphola.
Yini Ekhuthaza Umngane Wasendulo Noma Ukuthandana Nomlingani Ku-Cyberbully?
Uma kuziwa ekuqondeni ukuthi kungani abantwana be-cyberbully omunye komunye, izizathu zingase zigijime umdlalo. Kwabaningi, bavele bafuna indawo yabo esitelekeni sezenhlalakahle futhi bazosebenzisa noma yiziphi izindlela abangakwazi ukugcina isikhundla sabo. Kwabanye abasha, izizathu ziningi kakhulu. Nazi izizathu eziyisithupha ukuthi kungani umngane wakho wangaphambili noma umlingani wakho wokuphola angase ahlasele i-cyberbully ingane yakho.
Izimfihlo zengane yakho zenza indaba enomsoco . Uma ubudlelwane buphela, abanye abasha bayothatha izimfihlo uma bebelwane ngokuzethemba njengezinhlamvu. Umgomo ukunciphisa ubuhlungu abazwayo ngokwenza isisulu sabo silimale kakhulu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukwabelana ngemfihlo yemfihlo echoboza noma eveze into eyenziwe ngumntanakho, izingane zizisebenzisa lezi zinto zithemba ngokuzethemba ukuze zithole ukunakwa kwabanye.
Bafuna ukuphindisela . Ngezinye izikhathi lapho ubudlelwane buphela, izingane zizolimala kakhulu ngenxa yokwahlukana kobuhlobo ukuthi bazokwenza noma yini ukuze bathole ngisho. Lesi sifiso sokuphindiselela singase sihlanganise nokudala izindaba noma ukusakaza amahemuhemu nokuhleba.
Banoba nomona ngomntanakho . Akunakuphika ukuthi umhawu ngokuvamile uvame ukuxhaphaza. Ngamazwi alula, ingane yakho inezinto omunye umuntu azifunayo. Kungakhathaliseki lokho kuyisimo sethimba labo lezemidlalo, ibanga elithile ekilasini elithile noma ngisho nobuhlobo nomunye obalulekile, lo muntu ozoxhunywa nge-cyberbullying uzozama ukuyichitha. Ukucabanga kwabo okujwayelekile, uma ngingenakukwazi, angifuni ukuba abe nayo.
Bafuna ukuthuthukisa ukuma kwabo emphakathini . Ngezikhathi eziningi, izingane zizovula umngane futhi i-cyberbully uma becabanga ukuthi izobavikela isikhundla ngaphakathi kweqembu noma iqembu lezingane ezidumile. Akugcini nje ukukhomba ingane yakho ku-intanethi kuphela, kepha ingangena ekucindezelweni kontanga ukuba ihlanganyele ekubizeni amagama , ukuxoshwa nokuhlukunyezwa ukuze kuqinisekiswe isikhundla sabo ngaphakathi kweqembu.
Bafuna ukulawula umyalezo mayelana nokuphela kobudlelwane . Uma ubudlelwane buphela, izingane zivame ukuhlambalaza ukuze zihlangane nendaba. Akukhona kuphela ukuthi bakhathazekile ngalokho abanye abazocabanga ngakho ngabo, kodwa futhi abafuni ukuthi umngane wabo wangaphambili noma umlingani wakhe wokuphola abonakale njengesisulu. Ngenxa yalokho, abanye bazosebenzisa ukuqhutshwa kwe-cyberbullying njengendlela yokulawula umlayezo abanye abawutholayo kanye nokusebenzisa isimo sabo.
Abazimisele ukuyeka ukulawula phezu komunye umuntu . Abanye abantu bazosebenzisa i-cyberbullying ukuze bahlaziye futhi bahlukumeze omunye umuntu. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi ubuhlobo bungase buhlukumeze futhi umuntu okhungethe ingane nge-cyberbullying akazimisele ukuyeka ukulawula kwakhe. Njengomzali, udinga ukuba uqaphele phezulu ngezibonakaliso ezengeziwe zokuhlukunyezwa . Ukulawula abantu ngezinye izikhathi kuzoba ubude obukhulu ukugcina ubuhlobo. Udinga ukuqinisekisa ukuthi wenza okusemandleni akho ukuvikela ingane yakho engozini eyengeziwe.
Yiziphi Amaqhinga Owenza Ngangaphambili Abangane Nabadlelwane Bomngani Osebenzelanayo?
Ukugoqa . Leli qhinga lihilela iqembu labasha abatshela ulwazi ngomuntu oyedwa ngokukhethekile. Ngokwesibonelo, lapho intombazane ehlukana nomfana, angase ahlanganyele namanye amantombazane awakhulume nesoka lakhe langaphambili ukuze amgcobe e-intanethi. Ngenxa yalokho, bangase bakhulume ngakho konke kusuka emfihlakalweni yakhe yokuthi uyanganga kanjani. Inhloso yaloluhlobo lwe-cyberbullying ukuyihlazisa futhi imjezise ngenxa yokungazi kahle kwakhe.
I-Catfishing . Lolu hlobo lwe-cyberbullying luhilela ukwakha ubunikazi be-intanethi ukuze kukhishwe othile ebuhlotsheni bokuthandana. Izingane zihlanganyela ekutheni zifake lapho zifuna ukuthola umgomo wokuvuma imizwa yothando kumuntu oyinyumba bese kamuva ziveze lezo zivuma ku-intanethi. Ngezinye izikhathi, bazosebenzisa ubuhlobo bokukhohlisa ukuheha ingane ibe yingozi noma ehlazekayo. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kubalulekile ukuthi ingane yakho yazi ukuthi ukuhlangana nabantu azi ukuthi kuyi-inthanethi akuyona isinqumo esiphephile.
Ukuzenza ngokwenza . Uma izingane zisebenzisa ukuzithokozisa ku-cyberbully, ngokuvamile zizenza umuntu ozikhombayo. Ngenxa yalokho, bayothumela iphrofayela engalungile ephelele ngezithombe zengane yakho ukuze zibukeke ziyiqiniso. Bese-ke, bazofaka imibono engalungile, izinsongo, ukuhleka nezinye izinto ezizishoyo ukuze uthole ingane yakho enkingeni nabanye. Umgomo wukuthi abanye bacabange ukuthi ingane yakho ibhekene nokuthunyelwe futhi isonakalisa idumela layo.
I-Slut Shaming . Ukuhlambalaza nge-Slut kwenzeka lapho amantombazane ehlosiwe ku-intanethi ngendlela abagqoka ngayo, inani labantu abaye bahlala nalo kanye nesimo sabo esicatshangelwayo socansi. Yize izindlela zokuxhaphaza zingase ziguquke, izinhlanhla kanye namantombazane asho njalo avame ukusebenzisa izingosi zomphakathi ukuze babelane ngezithombe namavidiyo acacile. Ngokwesibonelo, benza ukuthatha izithombe zenye intombazane ngaphandle kolwazi lwakhe bese bezithumela kuyi-intanethi ngamazwana ashoyo, imibono yezocansi noma imibono emibi ngemizimba yabo. Futhi bangase bahlanganyele ekubizeni amagama nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi. Futhi uma ngabe ilitshe liye laqala ukuthumelela lezi zithombe ngokuthunyelwe kungabuye lenziwe ngumphakathi nge-vengeful former dating partner.
I-Subtweeting ne-Vaguebooking . Leli fomu lokusebenzisa i-cyberbullying liyinkimbinkimbi kodwa alikhohlisi. I-cyberbully ayisho neze igama lomuntu kuma-tweets akhe, ngakho-ke igama elithi subtweeting . Phakathi naleso sikhathi, wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi ukhuluma ngani ngokufaka isisulu. Kodwa-ke, ukuyala abafundi abasebenzisa i-cyberbully ngale ndlela kunzima. Abalawuli bakuthola kunzima ukufakazela ukuthi ubani okhuluma naye. Abanye othisha nabaqondisi bebelokhu bakwazi ukuthola abanye abafundi ukuthi babonise ukuthi ngubani abakholelwa ukuthi ama-tweets akhona ukuze i-cyberbully inganconywa. Kodwa kungaba yinselele futhi kudla isikhathi.
I-Shaming yomphakathi . Uma othile ehlazeka esidlangalaleni, i-cyberbully isebenzisa iphutha noma ukukhetha okungalungile ilitshe elenziwe ukuze lihlazeke ku-inthanethi. Futhi ngenkathi ukuhlazeka komphakathi nokuxhaphazwa kwe-inthanethi kokubili kufana futhi kuhilela ukuhlazisa othile ku-intanethi, umehluko wukuthi abanye abantu abaningi bajoyina ngokuphawula noma ukwabelana ngokuthunyelwe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuhlambalaza emphakathini kuvame ukuvunyelwa yiningi labantu ngoba bakholelwa ukuthi umuntu ozokwamukela kufanele afanele ukwelashwa.
Ukuphuma . Ukuphuma kuyenzeka lapho intsha isebenzisa imidiya yomphakathi, ukuthumelela imiyalezo noma enye indlela yokuxhumana ye-elekthronikhi ukuze ubelane ngolwazi lomuntu ocansini noma okuthandayo ngokobulili. Lolu hlobo lokukhulumisana lungabhubhisa intsha, ikakhulukazi uma ingakulungeli ukuthi abanye bazi. Ngezinye izikhathi, izingane "zizophuma" umuntu empeleni engqingili ngokobulili. Kodwa banethemba lokuqala amahemuhemu noma inhlebo mayelana nentsha ukuze ushintshe imibono yabanye abantu.
Yini Ongayenza Ngayo?
Abantu abaningi abaqapheli ukuthi izingane zisengozini yokuxhaphazwa kwe-cyber kubangani nabalingani bomshado. Ngenxa yalokho, kubalulekile ukuthi abazali baqaphele ukuthi ubudlelwane obuphukile buvame ukuholela ekuqhutshweni kwe-inthanethi. Ngenxa yalokho, qiniseka ukuthi uyazi noma yiziphi izinguquko hhayi kuphela kwimisebenzi yengane yakho, kodwa futhi wazi ukuthi yiziphi abangani abangekho eza kuzungeze. Lezi zinto zingaba izinkomba zokuqala ukuthi kukhona okungalungile empilweni yengane yakho.
Ukwengeza, qiniseka ukuthi uyazi ukuthi ungabheka kanjani izinyoka , kusho amantombazane nabangani abanobuthi . Futhi qiniseka ukuthi ingane yakho iyazi izimpawu zobungane obuhle . Ngokwenza lezi zinto, awugcini nje kuphela ongasiza ekuvimbeleni ukuxhaphazwa kwe-cyberbullying ukuthi ungangeni empilweni empilweni yengane yakho, kodwa futhi uvikele ingane yakho ebuhlotsheni obubi.