Ungamsiza kanjani ingane yakho ukuba iqiniseke kakhulu esikoleni futhi imlungiselele izimo ezicindezelayo ezivela ngokungazelelwe?
Isikole Kungaba Ukukhathazeka Futhi Kuyabangela Izingane
Njengomuntu omdala, izinto eziningi empilweni azikwesabeki kakhulu. Ngokuqinisekile, sithola ukwesaba ngezikhathi ezithile, kodwa kulula ukukhohlwa ukuthi umhlaba ubheka kanjani ingane. Yiqiniso, ezinye izingane zizethemba ngokweqile kunabanye, kodwa ezinganeni ezingaphephile kanye nalabo abanokukhubazeka kokufunda, isikole singabonakala siyindawo enhle kakhulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingakanani ingane.
Ngisho nemisebenzi ejwayelekile yokufundisa ingaba umthombo wokucindezeleka ezinganeni. Isibonelo, izingcindezi zezivivinyo kanye nezimpendulo ze-pop zangezinye izikhathi zingafaka ingcindezi enkulu ezinganeni, kanti kuyilapho ziyingxenye ebalulekile yemfundo, kubalulekile ukusiza ingane yakho ukuba isondele ezinkingeni ezinjalo ngokuzethemba. Ukusiza izingane zakho ukuba zenze ukuzethemba nokuzihlonipha manje zizobasiza ukuba bathuthukise amakhono abalulekile okubhekana nawo azobasiza kuzo zonke izimpilo zabo.
Thola Izindawo Zengane Yakho Izinkinga Esikoleni
Zama ukuthatha inothi yalokho okuthandwa yingane yakho nokungathandeki. Ezinye izifundo ziyoba izintandokazi ezicacile, futhi lokho kuyisibonakaliso esihle ukuthi ingane yakho ingase ibhekane kahle ngalezo zifundo. Noma kunjalo, izihloko ingane yakho engayithandi kungenzeka ukuthi yizo ezokuzethemba kwakhe okudinga ukusekelwa okukhulu.
Noma kunini lapho izingane zakho zibonakala zigwema izifundo ezithile, noma zize zigweme izifo ezinsukwini abanayo lezo zihloko, kufanele ucabange ukuthi kungenxa yenkinga yokuzethemba.
Ukuzikhandla ukuya esikoleni kwengane enokukhubazeka kungabonisa nokuthi izidingo zakhe zemfundo azitholakali noma mhlawumbe indawo yokuhlala kanye nemfundo eyakhelwe ngokukhethekile ayinikezwa ngokufanelekile.
Nikeza Isiqiniseko Sengane Yakho Ngokuphawula Ngokucacile
Cishe wonke umzali uthanda ukuwageza izingane zabo ngokudumisa, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kungasiza ukuba kube okuncane kakhulu.
Izingane zilindele abazali bazo ukuba babatshele ukuthi bayizihle, bahlakaniphile futhi bayamangalisa. Indlela enhle yokusiza ingane yakho ukwakha ukuzethemba, noma kunjalo, ukuphawula ngokuqondile ezintweni lapho ingane yakho ihamba khona. Iningi lezingane lilwa nezinye izinto futhi linamakhono emvelo nabanye. Ngeshwa, izingane ezinesipho ngokuvamile aziqapheli ukuthi zinekhono kangakanani. Noma kunini lapho uqaphela ukuthi ingane yakho inhle into ethile, menze azise ngokuqondile, ukudumisa kwangempela.
Izinto ezinhle ngokubheka okucacile ukuthi ngeke nje zisize ingane yakho ukuba iqaphele amakhono akhe, kodwa ingamsiza ekwakheni ukuzethemba ngisho nalapho ebonakala engenakho ithalente. Isibonelo, uma ingane yakho inselele kakhulu ngendaba ethize noma umsebenzi othile, kodwa ukubhekana kahle, ungase ufise ukuphawula ngokukwazi kwakhe ukunamathela kumsebenzi onzima noma ukuhlala uphile ngisho nalapho ucindezelekile. Eqinisweni, enye yezinto ezisekelayo kakhulu ongayenza njengomzali ukudumisa hhayi nje umsebenzi wesikole ingane yakho ihamba phambili, kodwa isimo sengqondo nesimo sengqondo njengoba asebenza kulezo zenzo.
Ukulalela Ingane Yakho
Izingane ziyakuthanda uma uzibala-njengabantu abadala. Uma ingane yakho ikutshela okuthize okwenzekile, yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukumnaka futhi ulalele ngokugcwele.
Ukulalela ngokuqinile kuhlukile kunokulalela ngokucophelela.
Izingane zihlakaniphe kakhulu ekuqapheliseni lapho ulalele ngempela futhi uma uzwa nje bekhuluma. Bheka ubuso bakho nengane yakho, ubuze imibuzo ebonisa isithakazelo sakho, futhi uqiniseke ukuthi ulimi lwakho lomzimba lunikeza lokho okulalelayo nakho.
Zama ukusabela ngokuzenzekelayo futhi ugweme ukulahla nokwenza izimpendulo ezingacacile, ezijwayelekile njenge "othandekayo othandekayo." Uma ungayilaleli ngokugcwele, ingane yakho izothola umlayezo wokuthi noma yini ayishoyo ayibalulekile ngokwanele ukuze uthole ukunakwa kwakho ngokugcwele. Uma uzibamba ukuthi awulaleli-uma uqaphela ukuthi ulalele kepha ungazange uzwe lokho ingane yakho okushoyo-cela ingane yakho ukuba iphinde iphinde ixolise ngokuphazamiseka.
Njengoba ubheka imibono ekudumiseni ingane yakho, thatha isikhashana ukuqhuba amakhono akho okulalela. (Sonke sifuna ukufundisa izingane zethu imikhuba emihle nemikhuba emihle , njengabalaleli abakhuthele, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi bakhohlwe ukuthi ukuziphatha kwethu ngumfundisi wabo omkhulu kunazo zonke.)
Thatha izingqungquthela zabaSaba Ngaphandle Kwamazali
Abazali bangakwazi ukubeka izingcindezi eziningi ezinganeni zabo, futhi lapho umhlangano wabazali bezungeza kungaba yisikhathi esesabekayo. Uma ubuya enkomfeni yomzali, gwema isilingo sokutshela izingane zakho ukuthi zenzani okungalungile futhi esikhundleni salokhu zigxile ezimpilweni.
Ukutshela izingane zakho ngobuthakathaka babo akuyona into eyakhayo. Esikhundleni salokho, cabangela ingxoxo nabafundisi babo mayelana nokuthi ungasiza kanjani ingane yakho ithuthukise kulabo buthakathaka. Dala uhlelo bese usebenza kuso. Nokho, qiniseka ukuthi awuwenzi lezi zingxoxo zisho ukuthi ingane yakho inobuthakathaka, futhi ayikho ukukhula okumele ihileleke ezingxoxweni.
Uma ufisa ukusekela ingane yakho kunoma yikuphi izindawo eziyinkinga, khuluma nalezi zinkinga njengento okuthi wena nomntanakho uhlele ukubhekana ndawonye. Ngalendlela, ingane yakho, esikhundleni sokuzizwa ilungile, izomuzwa ukuthi unembuyiselo yakhe futhi liyiqembu lapho ekhuluma nobuthakathaka bakhe.
Ukusiza Ngaphandle Kwesikole
Imisebenzi engaphezulu ye-curricular ayiyona into embi, ngakho-ke nika ingane yakho zonke izikhuthazo (ngaphandle kokucindezela) ukuzama izinto ezintsha. Amakilabhu namaqembu kuyithuba elihle lokuthi izingane zakho zijwayele ukuzijabulisa nabangane abasha futhi, ngaphandle kokucindezelwa esikoleni, lokhu kungasiza kakhulu ngokungaqiniseki futhi kusize ukwakha ukuzethemba. Uma ingane yakho ihamba phambili kunoma iyiphi yalezi zindawo, qiniseka ukuthi awukhiphi ukukhanya. Isibonelo, qinisekisa ukuthi ukunakekelwa okuhle kuqondiswa ingane yakho, kunokuba usho ukuthi uhlanganyele emsebenzini othile.
Ukuba Ovulekile Kubantwana Bakho
Leli thiphu elula, kodwa okumele liphile. Hlala ukhula futhi uthanda, kodwa futhi ukhulume nengane yakho ngemfundo yakhe. Mtshele ukuthi uma enenkinga esikoleni angakhuluma nawe. Kubonakala kusobala, kodwa kumntanakho, kungenzeka ukuthi akunjalo, ngakho nje ukwazi ukuthi wena ukhona kungenza izinto ezinesabekayo zibe yinto encane kakhulu. Njengoba kuphawuliwe ekuqaleni, qiniseka ukuthi ingane yakho iyaqaphela ukuthi usekhotho yakhe futhi iyingxenye yeqembu lakhe lapho ibhekana nobunzima. Izwe alincane kakhulu ukwethuka kwengane ezwa ukuthi akayedwa.
Imithombo:
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