Umhlahlandlela wabazali ku-Special-Education Players
Ucabanga ngani uma uzwa igama elithi "ithimba"? Ingabe leli gama liveza izithombe zabantu abasebenza kanzima ekubhekaneni nomgomo wokuhlanganyela? Ingabe ucabanga ngokuhleleka kokuhlelekile, ama-huddles aqinile, ukuhlakulela okukhuthazayo ngemuva, wabelane ngemizwa yokunqoba emsebenzini okwenziwe kahle?
Noma ingabe "ithimba" lenza ukuba ucabange ngokudlala umdlalo nokuncintisana? Ukuzikhethela isikhundla nokuhlomula, ukuchitha udoti ukukhuluma, ukuphikisana nokuhola kanye nokudlala isikhathi?
Ukusebenzelana kwakho ne "ithimba" elungiselela i-IEP (i-Individualized Education Program) yengane yakho kungabonakalisa kokubili le mibono, futhi kungase kube nezikhathi lapho ufisa ufisa ukulayisha phezu kokuzivikela kokuzivikela ngaphambi kokungena ukuze uphinde uhlangane. Ngezinye izikhathi, ungase uzwe ukuthi wena kanye nabalingani bakho ohlangothini nabo empeleni nihlangothini olufanayo, nizama ukushaya amaphuzu egameni lomntwana wenu hhayi ngokumelene nomunye.
Ngaphambi kokuba uhlangane nalezi zinkampani / abaphikisana enkundleni yempi, kusiza ukwazi ukuthi bangobani, ukuthi benzani, nokuthi bavelaphi. Umhlahlandlela walo mdlali uzokusiza nge:
- Ukubona lezo zindlela eziningi ezibheke ngokuzungezile etafuleni lokuhlela i-IEP
- Ukuthola ukuthi yilowo nalowo kulabo bantu abasabisayo obhekene nakho
- Ukuqaphela ukuthi yiliphi ilungu lethimba elibaluleke kakhulu (Iqhinga: Yilokho okungakhokhwa ukuba kube khona)
Amalungu eQembu leCore
Ngenkathi kunezinhlobo eziningi zabantu abangeke bahambe futhi baqede insimu ye-IEP, abadlali abathathu cishe bazokwenza inani elikhulu lokuthwala ibhola labafundi abanezidingo ezikhethekile.
Yilabo ozothola emahhovisi amancane amancane agcwele amafayela. Yilabo abazokuthumelela izincwadi ezimemezela imihlangano ehleliwe, nalabo abazokunika amakhophi angu-5 000 wamabhulogi ngokwazi amalungelo akho. Bayoba nesibopho sokuhlola ingane yakho lapho ifika ohlelweni futhi ngezikhathi ezithile emva kwalokho.
Omunye walaba bantu uzobe wabelwe njengomphathi wamacala wezingane zakho.
Laba bantu uzobona kuphela emihlanganweni emikhulu ebesabekayo ngaphandle kokuba wenze umzamo wokubawazi ezincane, ezincane kakhulu. Ngaphandle kwemithwalo yabo yokuhlola nokuhlela uhlelo, bangase bakwazi ukukunikeza ulwazi kanye nezeluleko mayelana nezimo ezivela ngonyaka wesikole - okungukuthi, uma bephuma emihlanganweni isikhathi eside ukuphendula ifoni .
Isazi sezengqondo seSikole: Isazi sezengqondo ngumuntu ozokwenza ukuhlolwa kwezingane zakho ze-IQ kanye nokuhlola okunye kwengqondo njengengxenye yengxenye yokuhlola yokuhlela kwe-IEP. Uma ingane yakho inezinselele zempilo yengqondo, kungenzeka ukuthi ube nomphathi wezinkinga zokusebenza kwengqondo, kodwa lokho kuhluka nezifunda zesikole nokulayisha umsebenzi. Isazi sengqondo singenza ukubuka phakathi nomhlangano mayelana nesimo sengqondo yengane yakho noma ukukhathazeka. Uma ingane yakho inenkinga phakathi nonyaka wesikole odinga ukululekwa, lo mqondo wezokwelapha angakwazi ukusiza, noma kungenzeka kube nesinye isazi sezengqondo esikoleni esiphatha ukwelulekwa kwabafundi.
I-Specialist Yokufunda: Uchwepheshe wezokufunda ngumuntu ozokwenza ukuhlolwa kwengane yakho ehlolisise izinga lemfundo kanye nekhono lemfundo.
Uma ingane yakho inokukhubazeka ekufundeni, kungenzeka ukuthi ube nomxhumanisi wokufunda njengomphathi wakho wezinkinga, kodwa lokho kuhluka nezifunda zesikole nokulayisha umsebenzi. Isazi sokufunda singenza ukubonaka phakathi komhlangano mayelana nokubekwa kwezemfundo okufanele ingane yakho. Uma ingane yakho idinga amasu okufunda akhethekile, ukuguqulwa, nokuhlala endlini yokufundela, umxhumanisi wokufunda angakwazi ukuhlela labo abanakho kanye nothisha nokusiza ukuqapha intuthuko.
Umsebenzi Wezenhlalakahle: Usonhlalakahle ngumuntu ozokwehlisa umlando womndeni phakathi nenqubo yokuhlola.
Uma ingane yakho inenkinga yokuziphatha noma izinkinga zomuntu siqu esikoleni, kungenzeka ukuthi ube nesisebenzi senhlalakahle njengomphathi wakho wezinsizakalo, kodwa lokho kuhluka nezifunda zesikole nokulayisha umsebenzi. Isisebenzi sezenhlalakahle singenza ukubuka ngesikhathi somhlangano mayelana nobuhlobo bomntanakho nabanye abafundi kanye nokubamba iqhaza jikelele esikoleni. Uma ingane yakho idinga usizo oluthile ngokusebenzelana kontanga nokuphikisana, isisebenzi senhlalakahle singakwazi ukuhlela izinhlelo ezifanele.
Kubo bonke abantu ozosebenza nabo ekuhleleni i-IEP yengane yakho, lawa malungu weqembu eliyisisekelo yizona ezilula ukuzihlukanisa ngokuthi "isitha" - azisebenzi nomntanakho ngosuku nosuku, "Baxoshwa ngokwenza izinqubomgomo zesifunda, futhi bangase babonakale benzima kakhulu endleleni abaqhuba imihlangano futhi benze izinqumo.
Kodwa-ke, hlolisisa futhi ungathola abantu abalungile abasebenza ngokweqile futhi bengathokozisiwe, bezwa ukucindezelwa kokubili abaphathi babo kanye nabantu abakhonza. Futhi, ngokuqinisekile, uzothola abantu abangokwemvelo ababheke ukukhathazeka ezintweni ezenza imisebenzi yabo ibe nzima. Uma ungenza okuthile okwenza imisebenzi yabo ibe lula, lokho kungase kuhambe ngendlela ende ukunciphisa ukungezwani nokugqugquzela ukusebenzisana.
Okokuqala, uma njalo unikezela ngolwazi ngolwazi mayelana nokukhubazeka kwengane yakho, nikeza ikhophi kumphathi wecala, futhi. Isazi sezengqondo esikoleni, uchwepheshe wezokufunda kanye nesisebenzi sezenhlalakahle angeke sibe yizazi kukho konke ukukhubazeka kanye nocwaningo olusha olusha, noma ekunikezeni isizinda uzokwenza umsebenzi wabo ube lula manje, futhi emva kwesikhathi umsebenzi wakho ube lula uma ungenayo ukuchaza lokhu njalo.
Kusukela esikoleni, akekho owazi ingane yakho kangcono kunomfundisi. Ngakho kungokwemvelo uthisha ukuba ahileleke ekuhleleni i-IEP. Kungenakwenzeka, mhlawumbe, njengoba ithola uthisha ngaphandle kweklasini noma ukuphoqelela imihlangano emingceleni yesikhathi sokuphumula kothisha, kodwa kungokwemvelo. Lezi zindaba ezinhle kuwe uma wakhe ubuhlobo nomfundisi, noma ngabe uthisha unomuzwa omuhle kakhulu ngamakhono kanye nezidingo zomntanakho. Uma ngabe ukuvumelanisa okungafani kakhulu? Utitjhere angaba yinhlanzi enhle emafutheni akho.
Uma ingane yakho inabafundisi abaningi phakathi nosuku lwesikole, ngeke bonke bahlangane nomhlangano. Enye yalezi zinhlobo zothisha izomakwe ukuze zihlanganyele, futhi mhlawumbe zizoboniswa, futhi.
UMfundisi Wezemfundo Ekhethekile: Uthisha wezemfundo ekhethekile wengane yakho - noma omunye wabo, noma kunjalo, uma ingane yakho ikhona emakilasini ahlukahlukene - cishe kuyokwenza njalo kumhlangano we-IEP. Lo titshala uzokhokhiswa ngokuchaza inqubekelaphambili yezemfundo yengane yakho nokubikezelwa kwe-IEP, nokuqoqa imibono kubo bonke abanye othisha njengoba kufanelekile. Okuzwayo kumfundisi emhlanganweni kufanele kuhambisane nalokho owake wakuzwa unyaka wonke. Uma kungenjalo, cela ukuthi kungani. Uma ungakhulumi nothisha unyaka wonke ... kahle, khona-ke ngizobuza, ngani? Ungabi mfokazi.
Umfundisi Wemfundo Ovamile: Othisha abafundisa njalo kumele babe emihlanganweni ye-IEP. Ukuba khona kwabo kwangempela? I-Spotty. Ukukhetha izici kungase kubandakanye isikhathi esingakanani ingane yakho ehlala kuzo ekilasini kathisha, ukuthi uthisha usebenza kanjani ngqo nomntanakho, ukuthi uthisha unika kangakanani abafundi mayelana nezifundo ezikhethekile, ukuthi ngabe umphathi wecala uthola kangakanani, nokuthi ngabe yini enye ebambelela uthisha ngalolosuku. Uma kubalulekile kuwe ukuthi ube nomfundisi wezemfundo ejwayelekile lapho, thintana naye futhi umxube ukuba angakhohlwa.
Ukufunda isikole
Uthisha wengane yakho ingaba ngumlingani onamandla eqenjini le-IEP noma isitha esinamandla. Kunezinhlobo ezimbalwa zezindlela zokuguqula izinkinga kumuntu wangaphambili:
- Nika uthisha ulwazi oluningi mayelana nokukhubazeka kwengane yakho. Ungenze uthisha enze ucwaningo, noma acabange; unikeze ukwaziswa okuningi okuwusizo, nge-spin yakho siqu.
- Hlangana nomfundisi njalo. Yakha ubudlelwane, futhi uvumele uthisha ukuthi uhlale uthola izinkomfa, izingcingo, noma amasu okuhlela.
- Ikakhulu ukuhlangana nothisha ngaphambi komhlangano we-IEP, ukuzulazula izinkinga ezingase zibalwe, ubonise iphuzu lakho lokubuka, futhi uthole ukuphendula. Ukusebenza ngokuzikhethela phakathi kwakho nobabili kuzosebenza kangcono kunokuba uzame ukukwenza endaweni encane yezinzondo.
- Uma omunye uthisha womntanakho "emthola" ngaphezu kwakhe kwabanye, cela uthisha ukuba eze emhlanganweni, noma ngabe uthisha ohlukile usebekiwe.
Ukuthola Indaba Eqondile
Kuhle ukuthi uhlale uthintana njalo nothisha wengane yakho. Ngeshwa, kungenzeka ukuthi akusikho njalo okukukhomba kulokho ozokuzwa emhlanganweni we-IEP. Ngonyaka owodwa, indodakazi yami ibonakala sengathi ihamba kahle ekilasini lakhe elizimele: amanani amabizo-amakhadi amnandi, imibono emihle emibikweni yokuqhubekayo, nokubikezela okujabulisayo njalo lapho ngikhuluma nothisha.
"Uvuka!" Ngatshelwa. "Uhamba!" Yebo, hooray ngalokho! Ngakho-ke ngicabanga ukuthi ngimangala kangakanani lapho emhlanganweni wakhe we-IEP, uthisha ofanayo ebika ukuthi le ntombazane ayihlangabezane neminye yemigomo yakhe, ayiqondi kahle kakhulu, futhi yayingeke ibe khona. Um, ukuphakama? Ukuhamba ngezindiza? Isondelene nelanga, mhlawumbe, ukuza ukushaywa phansi kangaka phansi?
Akuyona into enkulu yokumnandi ukuba othisha bakunike izindaba ezimbi unyaka wonke, noma kunjalo, kodwa ufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uthola isithombe esiphelele nesiphelile. Vumela uthisha ukuthi uyawuthatha. Futhi ubhale phansi lokho okushiwo ngakho uma beqhathanisa nalokho ozwa emhlanganweni, ungafaka imininingwane engalungile.
Ukwelapha kuvame ukuyingxenye enkulu ye-IEP - uhlobo luni lomntanakho olutholayo, kungakanani, kangakanani, nangomphumela omuhle. Abacwaningi kumele bahambise imigomo ecacile futhi elinganiswayo yokuphendula isikhathi esichitha nengane yakho, futhi kufanele abe emhlanganweni we-IEP ukuze baxoxisane futhi baphendule ngalokho. Lokhu kungaba yinto ekhohlisayo, uma isikhathi sesiphakamiso sihlukaniswa phakathi kwezikole ezihlukene, noma ngabe lo mhlengikazi uyisisebenzi se-ejensi yangaphandle enezikhathi ezithile. Noma uma, uyazi ukuthi lo mhlengikazi kufanele asebenze nomunye umzali womzali ngaleso sikhathi.
Abacwaningi ababuzwayo abathinteki isimo somqondo wengane yakho - ukuthi kungaba yinkambu yengqondo yesikhungo senzondo, futhi mhlawumbe umeluleki wesikole. Laba baphilisi bakhathazeke kakhulu ngokuthi ingane yakho ikhuluma kanjani, iyaqonda futhi iyahamba. Futhi ngokuyisisekelo, bangakwazi ukukhathazeka kuphela ngalezo zinto ngoba zithinta umsebenzi wesikole. Kuzo zonke izisebenzi ozothola ukuhlangabezana nazo, laba kungaba yibo abadlala kakhulu imidlalo nabantwana bakho futhi kuncane kakhulu kuwe.
Therapist Speech: Uchwepheshe wezinkulumo usebenza nengane yakho ngolimi olwamukelekayo nolwazile ukukhuluma. Ngolunye ulimi olucacile, lokho kusho ukuthini ukuthi ingane yakho iyayiqonda lokho abantu abakutshelayo, ukuthi uyakwazi kanjani ukwenza lokho kuqondakala kucace, nokuthi uyakwazi kanjani ukuziqonda konke kungaphakathi kwendawo yomthandi wezinkulumo. Lokhu kuhlanganisa kokubili izinhlobo zokukhuluma - ukukhiqizwa okufanele kwemisindo yokukhuluma, nokuhlelwa kahle kwemicabango ngamazwi. Qinisekisa ukuthi zonke izinto ozikhathazayo ngokusetshenziswa kolwazi lomntanakho nokuqonda zibhekwa, hhayi nje ikhono lakhe lokuhambisa izindebe nolimi ngokufanele.
I-Therapist Therapist (PT): Umhlinzeki wezinto ezibonakalayo usebenza emakhono amakhono omntanakho - cha, hhayi ikhono lokugubha ngokuphambene noma ukuphalaza egumbini lonke, kodwa ukuhamba kwamaqembu amakhulu ama-muscle ukwenza ukunyakaza okukhulu njengokuhamba, ukugijima, ukubamba ibhola noma ukukhahlela. Uma ingane yakho isesikoleni, kungase kube nokugcizelela okukhethekile kumakhono akwazi umfundi ukuba akwazi ukuyiqeda ngosuku lwezikole, njengokuhamba ngaphandle kokuqhafaza noma ukubhala, ukuhlanganyela ekilasini lokuzivocavoca, noma ukuthwala isitimela sasemini noma isithinteli. Kufanele ulalele imigomo ebekwe yi-PT futhi uqiniseke ukuthi inenjongo empilweni yengane yakho nezinto ezibalulekile.
I-Occupational Therapist (OT): Njengoba i-PT ibheka imoto eyinhloko, i- OT ihambisana namakhono amancane omoto , lezo zintuthuko ezincane sonke esizithatha kalula futhi izingane zethu azikwazi ukuzenza uma uzikhokhela. Izinto ezifana nokunyathelisa nokubhala ngesandla ngokucacile. Ukuhlanganisa izicathulo. Umbala emigqeni. Ivula ukukhiya inhlanganisela. Ngikhulume ngokuphrinta nokubhala ngesandla ngokucacile? Uchwepheshe wezokwelapha uzokwenza, futhi ukubhala kungenzeka kube yinye yezinto ezizovela emigomweni ye-OT. Uma ngabe uthisha wakho wesikole kwenzeka ukuba aqeqeshwe ekwelapheni kokuhlanganiswa kwezinzwa, ungase ukwazi ukuba nokunye ukutholisa, ukuhlela umsebenzi obhalwe phansi ohlelweni lomntanakho. Kuzodingeka kwenziwe ngendlela eyenza kubaluleke kakhulu esikoleni, noma kunjalo. (Njengokwazi ukuhlala phansi , noma ukugcina ukuphazamisa ekilasini.)
Ukusebenza Ngaphandle Nezazi
Ukuhlala oxhumana nabo abasondelene nabantwana bakho kungaba nazo zonke izinhlobo zezinzuzo. Bangakunika iziphakamiso zezindlela zokusebenza nengane yakho ekhaya. Bangadlulisa izinto nezinto ezikwazi ukusiza ekuhleleni iziphakamiso zakho ze-IEP. Futhi bangakutshela izindaba ezinhle kakhulu ngezingane zakho.
Ukuthi abahlengikazi ngokuvamile abaqashiwe yisifunda kodwa izinhlangano zangasese zisho ukuthi zingase zingatholakali izinto ezinjengemihlangano, kodwa nazo zingaphansi kokuzibophezela kwezombangazwe nezombusazwe zesifunda. Yakha ubuhlobo obuhle, futhi ungase uthole ukuhleka okuhle.
Izisebenzi ezikhulunywe ngazo ngaphambili ziyohlale zimenywa futhi zihileleke emhlanganweni we- IEP . Kodwa kunezinye izinto eziningi ongazithola uzungeze itafula, futhi ezimbalwa ongazithola nawe, nazo. Ngesinye isikhathi, ungase ukhohlwe ukuthi usanda kudonsela kubantu abangahleliwe ukusuka emgodini ukuze ubonise phambili okwesabekayo. Uma benza konke benemisebenzi, noma kunjalo, yilokho okungenzeka babe khona.
Eceleni Kwesikole
Umeluleki Wesikhombisi: Umeluleki wengane wakho angasuswa ukuze afakazele izinkinga, aqondise izinketho zamakilasi, noma angene ngemvume ohlelweni. Uma usuvele uhlangane futhi ukhulume nomeluleki njalo, lokhu akufanele kube yinkinga, ngaphandle uma uxabana. Ngisho noma kunjalo, uzokwazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela.
Umxhumanisi Wokuguquka: Uma ingane yakho isuka esikoleni esisodwa kuya kwesinye, ummeleli wesikole angase afune ukuba emhlanganweni wokuhlela. Ungase ufune ukuhlela lokhu. Ungase ufune ukukhuluma nalomuntu kusengaphambili.
I-paraprofessional: Ingxenye enhle - Ukuba nomsizi wengane yakho emhlanganweni kunganikeza omunye umthombo wokuthola ulwazi kumuntu okungenzeka ukuthi unentshisekelo yengane yakho enhliziyweni. Ingxenye embi - Uma usizo lomntanakho usemhlanganweni, usizo lomntanakho alukho nengane yakho. Futhi ngubani, ncamashi?
I-Muckety-Mucks yesifunda: Lokhu kusho ukuthi usenkingeni, wena ungumzali, kanti omunye umuntu uvela ehhovisi lasekhaya ukusebenzisa i-smackdown. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lo muntu unolwazi oluthile lomntwana wakho kanye nezidingo zakhe kungenye indaba.
Ngasohlangothini lwakho
Umngane wakho womshado: Ukuletha phambili ngobunye njengoba abazali bakho bantfwana bakhombisa ukuthi uhilelekile, uthintekayo, futhi ubambe iqhaza. Kodwa uma ungenalo uhlangothi olunjalo, ukungabaza komlingani wakho, izitatimende, ngisho nokukhuluma komzimba kunganciphisa uhlelo lwakho lomdlalo.
Ingane Yakho: Lo ngumuntu okwenzelwe ukuthi, ngemuva kwakho konke, futhi ukuthi abe naye njengethuba lokuphefumulela okuphilayo futhi hhayi njengeluhlu lokulahlekelwa kungalondoloza wonke umuntu ekulandeleni, ungasho ukuthi unike ingane yakho isingeniso ukuzimela. Noma kunjalo, ungathanda ukuhlala kulelo gumbi, njengengane, nabantu bekhuluma ngawe? Ikhulula abanye abantwana ngaphandle. Ikhupha abanye abantu abadala, futhi.
Umngane wakho: Ukuba nomngane onesihawu kungenza uzizwe ungenalo ukuhlukumeza, futhi ungasebenza njengomqondo wesibili ukukhumbula ukuthi kwenzekani futhi uqinisekise ukuphathwa kabi. Ungafaki umuntu owengeziwe eqenjini, noma kunjalo; bazise kusengaphambili ukuthi uzoza nomhlangano.
Ummeli wakho okhokhelwayo: Isibhamu esiqashiwe owazi umthetho kangcono kunakho futhi asesabi ukubiza i-bluff yendlu kungakufaka endaweni enamandla. Kungase kube nezikhathi lapho izigxobo ziphakeme kangangokuthi kuzodingeka uhambe kulo mzila. Uma ungasekho, noma kunjalo, ukuba khona kommeli kungabonakala njengesibonakaliso sokholo olubi nosongo, futhi uvale umnyango wokubambisana.
Futhi manje, inkanyezi yethimba, inombolo ye-MVP eyodwa.
Wena .
Yebo, wena, umzali. Wena ilungu elibaluleke kakhulu eqenjini le-IEP yengane yakho, kude nakude. Ungavumeli ukuthi lezi zindwangu zikuqinisekise ngokuhlukile. Unguchwepheshe kumntanakho, futhi ingane yakho yimbangela yokuthi bonke labo bantu bahlezi lapho. Nguwe kuphela owake wabona ingane yakho kuzilungiselelo eziningi, eminyakeni eminingi yesikole, ezinemizwa eminingi. Nguwe kuphela oye wakhuluma nodokotela kanye nochwepheshe. Nguwe kuphela olandele ukuthuthukiswa kwengane yakho kusukela ezinsukwini zakuqala kuze kube manje. Futhi nguwe kuphela ozobe esehilelekile eminyakeni yokunakekelwa kwengane yakho kusukela manje lapho izinqumo ezenziwe kuleli tafula zizoveza izithelo.
Ngakho uma u-kahuna omkhulu kangaka, kungani abachwepheshe bebuthe ukuphatha njengomunye umuntu ongena ngemvume ukuze asayine amaphepha futhi athule? Kukhona noma yiliphi inombolo yezizathu. Mhlawumbe bakholelwa ngobuqotho ukuthi bayazi kangcono, futhi bafuna ingane yakho kanye nawe ukuba uzuze ubuchwepheshe babo. Mhlawumbe baye babhekana nabazali abaningi abangokomzwelo nabangaphili kahle ababenze besaba ukubamba iqhaza komzali ngokungathandeki. Mhlawumbe banemiyalo yokuhamba esuka phezulu futhi kudingeka ukuthi izinto zidlule ngendlela yazo noma kungenjalo. Noma mhlawumbe, mhlawumbe, ubavumele. Kusukela leyo yokugcina yinto ewukuphela kokuphatha ngayo, cabanga ngale mibuzo emithathu:
Ingabe ugqoka le ngxenye? Uma ubonisa phezulu emihlanganweni e-jeans, i-t-shirt, nama-sneakers ngenkathi wonke umuntu ephethe izikhwama zebhizinisi nezicathulo ezikhanyayo, uqinisekile ukuthi unikeza "lapha nje ukuze usayine, maam" vibe. Akudingeki ulahle umholo wenyanga ku-Brooks Brothers noma noma yini, kodwa izingubo ezikhulile ngeke zilimaze.
Ingabe wenza isethulo sochwepheshe? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini oyilindele kubasebenzi besikole etafuleni, lindele okufanayo kuwe. Uma ulindele ukuba babhale imibono yabo nezincomo, bhala umbhalo wakho. Uma ulindele ukuba babike kusuka kumarekhodi kunokuba imemori, balethe amarekhodi akho. Uma ulindele ukuba babhekane ngokuqondile namaqiniso kunokuba babe nezifiso nezindlela zangaphambili, qaphela lokho okushoyo, futhi.
Ingabe wenza noma yini kodwa uya emihlanganweni futhi usayine amaphepha? Cabanga ngendlela okufutheka ngayo lapho omunye ophezulu wesifunda engakaze ahlangane nomntanakho wehla emhlanganweni futhi, ngesisekelo sokuskena okukhanyayo kwefayela lomntanakho, uqala ukubeka inqubomgomo nemigomo kanye nokulindela. Bese ucabanga ngalokho othisha nabaphathi okumelwe bazizwe ngabazali abangaxhumana nhlobo phakathi nonyaka wesikole, bese behla emhlanganweni ukuphonsa imibuzo kanye nezigwebo kanye nemigomo nxazonke? Ukugcina ingxoxo eqhubekayo kulo lonke unyaka wesikole ngeke kuphephe zonke izinkinga, kodwa kuzokwenqabela izingane ezinesiphukuphuku ezihamba ngenxa yokuntuleka kokuxhumana nokuxhumana.
Ukukhathazeka kobuholi
Futhi ngezinye izikhathi, kuvele nje kulokhu: Ingabe ngempela ukwesaba ukukhuphuka?
Uma kunjalo, ungazizwa uzibi. Kulukhuni. Kuyingozi. Kukhona okududuzayo ekukholweni ukuthi izikhulu zezikole ziyakwazi ukuthi zenzani futhi zenzele intandokazi enhliziyweni yakho, futhi labo ochwepheshe bazobeka wonke amakhono abo amaningi ekuqinisekiseni lokho.
Ukuqothulwa kule ndawo yokududuza kusho iminyaka neminyaka yokuqapha nokucwaninga nokuphikisana nokukhuthaza nokuzifundisa wena nabanye abantu. Kusho ukuthi abantu abakuthandi kakhulu, isikhathi esiningi. Kusho ukuya emihlanganweni eyokushiya ukuthuthumela nokuxubha nokuxuba nokuthukuthela futhi ungathukuthela. Akuyona into ejabulisayo, futhi ingxenye engcono kakhulu yileli gama elincane ngemuva kwekhanda lakho elihlehlisayo, "Kodwa kuthiwani uma beqinisile futhi ungalungile?"
Kodwa ngempela, ngobuqotho, phakathi kwethu? Kufanele uphakanyise noma kunjalo. Kufanele ukhulume ngomntanakho. Izingane ezingakhulumi ngazo azizuzi. Akujabulisi, lezi zinto zokubeletha. Vital, noma kunjalo.
Okubalulekile ukuthi, uma ufuna ukuba yilungu leqembu, bese wenza njengelungu lethimba. Uma ufuna ukwamukelwa njenge-MVP, khona-ke yibalulekile. Ngena emdlalweni. Ingane yakho izothola umqobi.