Ukuqaphela nokusekela phakathi kwalabo abakwa-Introvert
Uma i-kati yakho ithanda ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi yedwa, ungase uzibuze ukuthi kukhona okungalungile yini. Uma nje ingane yakho inomngane oseduze noma amabili, amathuba akho konke. Ingaphakathi lakho mhlawumbe nje liyi-introvert.
Yini i-Introvert?
Ingxenye eyodwa esemqoka yobuntu ukufakazela / ukukhipha. Ungacabanga ngalesi sigaba njengomugqa owehliswayo kusuka ekuqedeni okugcwele ekugcineni kokufika kokugcwele kokungeniswa komunye umkhawulo.
Iningi lezinkulungwane ezingu-12 liwela endaweni ethile eduze nendawo, kodwa lithembele ngenye indlela noma enye. Cishe amaphesenti angama-75 e-American tweens asekelwe ekukhunjweni. Lokhu kuphazamiseka kubangela umphakathi wethu ukuba ucabange ngokuchithwa njengokuthi "okuvamile" nokwethulwa "njengenkinga." Ngokuphambene nalokho okushiwo yizinkolelo ezivame ukwedlula, ukungena ngokweqile akusho ukuthi umuntu "unesizungu," "akuyona into engavamile" noma kunoma iyiphi indlela engavamile. I-Introversion ayifani ngokufanayo namahloni. Eqinisweni, izethulo zifana nezomphakathi njengontanga yabo. Banezindlela ezahlukene zokukhetha ukuxhumana nezwe elizungezile.
Ukwahlukana Phakathi Kwama-Introverts kanye Nokuqothula
Kukhona umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwezingqungquthela kanye nezimpikiswano. Okokuqala ukukhathazeka ngokuthi i-earnings ephakathi noma idonsa amandla. Ukuvota kufinyelela ukuzwa ukukhuthazwa ngokuba ngamaqembu abantu futhi uzizwe ukhathele isikhathi eside esichithwa yedwa. Ngokuphambene nalokho, i-introvert ivuselela isikhathi esisodwa futhi ilahle amandla kumasethingi amakhulu omphakathi.
Enye umehluko omkhulu ukuhlelwa kokukhuluma nokucabanga: ukuxoshwa kuvame ukucabanga njengoba bekhuluma ngenkathi izethulo zivame ukucabanga ngaphambi kokuba zikhulume. Lokhu kwenza ama-introverts abonakale engatholakali kunokwedlula ama-extraverts ngoba asebenza izimpendulo zawo kumbuzo ngaphambi kokuwasho. Okokugcina, uma kunikezwa ukuzikhethela kokuxhumana komphakathi, i-introvert ifuna ukuba nezingxoxo ezijulile nomuntu oyedwa noma ababili ngesikhathi esisodwa ngenkathi i-extraverts ikhetha ingxoxo ehamba ngamahhala namaqembu amakhulu abantu.
Indlela Ongayisekela Ngayo Izindlela Zakho Zokungena Kwe-Tween
Njengoba sesibonile, ukungena kwethu konke kuyinto enempilo njengokwedlulele. Kungaba nzima ukufaka isingeniso emphakathini obuswa yi-extravert, noma kunjalo, ikakhulukazi phakathi neminyaka ephakathi. AmaTween athembele kakhulu ekuqhathaniseni komphakathi njengoba ehlakulela ukuzethemba , okuyinto engayithinta inhlalakahle yabo jikelele. Ukuzwa umehluko phakathi neminyaka ephakathi kungabangela ukucindezeleka okukhulu. Into eyodwa ongayenza ukusekela phakathi kwakho okuhlangenwe nakho ukuzisiza ukuthi baqonde ukuthi yikuphi ukuzethula. Ngokwabelana ngamasayithi e-inthanethi kanye / noma izincwadi mayelana nokufakazela, ungabasiza baqonde ukuthi uhlobo lwabo lobuntu luvamile futhi luphilile. Njengoba nje abanye abantu banamehlo amnyama ngenkathi abanye benamehlo ahle, okuphathelene nezwe ngezindlela ezahlukene akuwenzi umuntu oyedwa abe ngcono kunomunye. Noma yini oyenzayo, ungazami ukuphoqelela phakathi kwakho ukuba "ube yisiqephu" ngokumenza abe khona emhlanganweni omkhulu wezenhlalakahle noma amkhuthaze ukuba akhulume ngaso sonke isikhathi. Uma kukhona, lokhu kuzomenza abe nomuzwa wokuthi ungeyinto engavamile ngoba izenzo zakhe eziphoqelelwe ngeke zifanisane nalokho azizwayo. Ukusekela ukuthambekela kwemvelo yengane yakho kuzomenza azizwe ekhululekile kakhulu ngaye.
Izimpawu zokuxwayisa
Nakuba ukungeniswa kwemvelo kuyinto evamile, kunezibonakaliso ezixwayisa ezingase zibonise inkinga ehamba ngaphezu kokuhlukahluka kwemvelo kohlobo lomuntu. Uma i-kati yakho ingenabo abangane abasondelene naphezu kokuya esikoleni esifanayo izinyanga, kungenzeka ukuthi unenkinga ngamakhono omphakathi noma olunye uhlobo lokukhathazeka ngokomzwelo. Kulesi simo, ingxoxo nengane yakho nodokotela wengane ingahle ibe khona. Uma uhlangothi lwakho lubonakala lucindezelekile kakhulu, luqala ukuqeda konke ukuxhumana nomphakathi, futhi / noma kwenza imibono mayelana nokufuna ukuzilimaza yena noma abanye, kungenzeka ukuthi ubhekane nento engathà sina nakakhulu, njengenkinga yesimo sengqondo .
Xhumana nodokotela wengane yakho ngokushesha.
Konke kuzo zonke, umehluko ezinhlotsheni zobuntu kungase kube nzima kubantu abangu-13 abangabamncane njengama-introverts. Ngenkxaso kanye nokuqonda, noma kunjalo, bangabazisa futhi bajabulele izici zabo zobuntu.
Umthombo:
I-Rathus, i-PhD, i-Spencer. I-Psychology: Imiqondo nokuxhumeka, i-Brief Version. Umagazini we-8. 2007. Belmont, CA: Thomson, Wadsworth.