Indlela okhulisa ngayo ingane yakho ingamsiza ukuba enze ukukhetha okuhlakaniphile kokuthenga
Lezi zinsuku, sihlale sizungezwe izikhangiso nomaphi lapho sihamba khona, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ku-intanethi noma ezweni langempela. Futhi izingane ikakhulukazi zisengozini emikhankaso yokukhangisa ngokuhlelekile-eyenzelwe ukubamba isithakazelo nesithakazelo.
Izifundo zibonise ukuthi izikhangiso zokudla okungenamsoco ku-TV, ku-intanethi nakwezwe langempela zingandisa inani lokudla okungenampilo izingane zikhetha ukudla kungakapheli imizuzu engu-30 ngemva kokubona izikhangiso.
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi izikhangiso zokudla okungenamsoco ezibhekene nezingane zibalandela ku-intanethi nokuthi izingane ziya ngokuya zikhangiswa nezikhangiso ze-digital media ezikhuthaza ukudla okungenampilo okuphezulu ushukela, amafutha, nosawoti uma kudivayisi efana nethebhulethi, ikhompyutha, i-smartphone, noma nezinye izinto zobuchwepheshe.
Njengoba kunikezwe ukuthi izingane zethu zivame kangakanani ukukhangisa izikhangiso, abazali kufanele baqaphele izindlela zokunciphisa umthelela wale milayezo. Abazali bangadlala indima ebalulekile ekusizeni izingane zifunde ukuzivikela ngokumelene nalezi zikhangiso ezinamandla nezikhulisayo futhi zikhule zibe abathengi abahlakaniphile.
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi isitayela esisodwa sokubeletha- ukubeletha okugunyazayo- kungcono uma kuziwa ekufundiseni izingane ukuthi bangabasebenzisi abathengi. Abacwaningi eYunivesithi yaseNebraska bahlaziya izifundo ezingamazwe ezingu-73 ezihlola izitayela zabazali nemiphumela-kubandakanya izinkomba zezempilo nezokuthuthukiswa ezihlobene nomthengi ezifana nesisindo sezingane noma ukuqonda ukuthi izikhangiso zizama ukuthengisa kanjani okuthile-phakathi kwabangu-200 000 abantwana.
Ukutadisha, okwakushicilelwa kuyi-intanethi kumagazini ka-Okthoba 2016 we- Journal of Consumer Psychology , wathola ukuthi ukubeletha okugunyazayo kwaholela emiphumeleni engcono kakhulu yezempilo kanye nentuthuko yezingane, ngokusho kombhali-co-auteurs Les Carlson, Ph.D., uprofesa wokuthengisa eNyuvesi yaseNebraska-Lincoln.
Izitayela zokuzali
Abacwaningi babheka amathrendi kanye nokuhambisana kwezindlela ezine zokuqala zokubeletha:
- Ukubelethwa Okugunyazayo
Abazali abanohloniphekile bathambekele ekubekeni imingcele futhi bachaze ukuthi kungani bebona isiyalo njengokufundisa izingane ukuthi bangaba kanjani abavuthiwe futhi balandele imithetho futhi benze izinqumo ezinhle kunokuba bajeziswe . Banika izingane ukuzimela kodwa qinisekisa ukuthi okulindelekile mayelana nokuziphatha kucacile futhi balindele ukuba balandelwe. Lolu hlobo lokubeletha olukhungathekile kodwa olufudumele luholela ekukhulumisaneni okungcono kakhulu komzali nengane kanye nobuhlobo futhi buhlotshaniswe nemiphumela emihle yezingane. - Ubuzali Bokugunyaza
Abazali bezigunyazo babeka imithetho kodwa bavame ukufudumala kakhulu ekusebenzelaneni kwabo nezingane zabo. Kungenzeka ukuthi bangabeka umthetho kodwa banganiki izingane iziqondiso noma incazelo, futhi balindele ukuthi izingane zabo zilandele imithetho ngaphandle kokubuza noma yimiphi imibuzo. - Ukukhulisa Abazali Ngokuzikhukhumeza
Ukuzikhukhumeza (ngezinye izikhathi kubhekwa ngokuthi "ukuvumela" abazali) banesizotha futhi bahluleka ukubeka imingcele [ukuxhumanisa] noma ukunikeza imiphumela yezingane ekuziphatheni okubi . Abanikeli imithwalo yemfanelo yezingane futhi bazinikela kulokho izingane ezifunayo, ukubeka isiteji sezingane ukuba zibe yizintambo. - Ukubeletha Okungaqinisekisiwe
Abazali abanganaki, noma abangenakuvulwa, abagcini umkhondo wendawo lapho izingane zabo zikhona noma ukuthi zenzani. Ngalesi sitayela sokubeletha, kukhona ukufudumala, ukukhulumisana, noma ukuzibandakanya ezinganeni zezingane, futhi kukhona ukuqeqeshwa noma ukuphathwa okunganele. Lesi sitayela sokubeletha sivame ukuholela emiphumeleni emibi kakhulu yezingane.
Ucwaningo lweYunivesithi yaseNebraska lithole ukuthi izingane zabazali abagunyazayo kungenzeka ukuthi zidle ukudla okunempilo ezinjengezithelo nemifino futhi zenze izinqumo ezanciphisa ingozi yokulimala, njengokugqoka izigqoko zebhayisikili. Abacwaningi bathole nokuthi izifundo eziningi zibonise ukuthi izingane ezibazali abavimbelayo bezingenakwenzeka ukuba zibandakanyeke ekuziphatheni okubi njenge-cyberbullying, ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa, ukuchithwa kwempahla, nokweba, futhi kwakuncane amathuba okuba nomfanekiso ompofu womzimba-izici zokutadisha abalobi babizwa ngokuthi "imiphumela emibi yokuthengiswa komthengi."
Lokho Abazali Abangakwenza Ukusiza Izingane Zibe Abasebenzisi Abahlakaniphile
Kunezinto ezithile ezincane kodwa ezibalulekile abazali abangenza nsuku zonke ukusiza izingane zifunde ukuhlunga zonke lezo zikhangiso ezihlale zidalulwe kuzo futhi zizisize zikhule zilahle imilayezo emibi nemikhiqizo ibe ngabathengi abanempilo futhi abahlakaniphile.
- Thatha izingane ukuthenga nawe. Khombisa izingane emakethe ngaphansi kwesiqondiso sakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyithengi yakho yokuthenga ngeviki noma ukuthenga okuthile ekhaya lakho noma wena. Bavumele bakubone uqhathanisa amanani, ukhethe izinto ezinempilo emndenini wakho, noma kangcono imvelo.
- Buka i-TV nabo. Bheka ukuthi izingane zakho zibonani uma zibuka imibukiso yazo eyintandokazi ku-TV noma amanye amadivayisi. Yiya kumawebhusayithi abawavakashelayo futhi aqaphele lokho abakubona kwamanye amadivaysi kagesi.
- Setha imingcele ngesikhathi sesikrini. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokunciphisa ukuvezwa kwezingane ezikhangisweni ukusetha ama-caps isikhathi esingawasebenzisa kuzo izikrini . Isikhathi esilinganiselwe esichithwa ezikrinini sineminye imihlomulo eminingi, kuhlanganise nengcono
- Khuluma ngemilayezo emibi. Uma uhlangabezana nombukiso, i-movie, noma ukuhweba okubonisa abesifazane noma amaqembu amasiko ngendlela enobandlululo, ngokobulili noma engafanele, khuluma nengane yakho ngokuthi kungani lokho kuyingozi. Khuluma ngokuthi izikhangiso ezithile zingase zibe nokudukisa kanjani ulwazi futhi zifundise izingane ukuthi zingabuka kanjani ngale milayezo futhi zifinyelele ezansi zalokho abazama ukuzenza futhi zisho.