Kunezici eziningi ezingabangela ingane ukuba ithukuthele futhi inenzondo. Imizwa engaphenduliwe, njengokudabuka okuhlobene nesehlukaniso noma ukulahlekelwa othandekayo kungabangela impikiswano. Umlando wokuhlukumezeka ungaholela ekuthukutheleni okujulile futhi.
Izinkinga zempilo yengqondo nazo zingaxhunyaniswa nokuthukuthela okuthukuthele. Izingane ezinenkinga yokucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, Ukuhlukunyezwa Okuphikisana Nezimpikiswano , noma Ukukhathazeka Kokukhubazeka Kwengqondo Ukulawula Ukucindezeleka Ukucindezeleka Ukulawula imizwelo yabo.
Akukhona ngaso sonke isikhathi inkinga yemvelo ecacile noma inkinga yempilo yengqondo ngemuva kokuziphatha kwengane evuthayo. Izingane ezithile zinokubekezelelana okuphansi kokucindezeleka kunabanye.
Ezinye izingane zibonakala zizalwa ngefriji emfushane. Abangapheli, abanokubekezela, nabanobudlova obukhulu lapho bengathokozi.
Ngaphansi kwemizuzwana, umcimbi obonakala sengathi uyingane ungabangela ingane evuthayo ukuba iphele ngokuphelele. Ukubhekana nokuziphatha okunjalo okungenakuqapheleka kungabangela ukucindezeleka kuwo wonke umndeni.
Nakuba kufanelekile ukuba izinsana zithukuthele, futhi izingane zasenkulisa zixoshe ngezikhathi ezithile, kubalulekile ukugcina iso ngaphandle kokuziphatha okuhamba ngenhla nangaphezulu kokuziphatha komntwana okujwayelekile .
Nazi ezinye izimpawu zokuxwayisa ezingase zibonise ukuthi kufanele ucabangele ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe kumntwana othukuthele:
1. Ukuthukuthela okudabukisayo kubhekana nobudlelwane
Ukushaya ingane noma ukubiza umuntu igama ngezinye izikhathi kuvamile ezinganeni ezincane.
Kodwa-ke, uma ukucasula kwengane yakho kumvimbela ukuba agcine ubungane noma isimo sakhe sengqondo siphazamisa ikhono lakhe lokuthuthukisa ubudlelwane obuhle namalungu omndeni, ukuxazulula inkinga ngokushesha. Ngaphandle kwalokho, angase abe nezinkinga eziqhubekayo nobuhlobo besikhathi eside.
Ukuphila komndeni wakho kuphazanyiswa ukuziphatha kwengane yakho.
Akufanele uhambe ngezinyawo zama-eggshell ekhaya lakho.
Uma imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke iphazanyiswa ngenxa yentukuthelo yengane yakho, ayinempilo kunoma ubani emndenini.
Ukwehla ukuphuma noma ukunikeza ingane yakho ukugwema ukuqubuka, yizixazululo zesikhashana ezizoholela ezinkingeni zesikhathi eside. Inzondo yengane yakho ingase ikhule kakhulu.
Okubi nakakhulu, amanye amalunga omndeni angakhula enentukuthelo. Uma ulahlekelwa ngemisebenzi ejabulisayo, noma isikhathi sakho somunye nomunye ingane siphazamiseka, ukuziphatha kwengane yakho evuthayo kuyinkinga edinga ukubhekwa.
3. Ingane Yakho isebenzisa Ukuhlukunyezwa NjengeThuluzi
Ukuhlukunyezwa kufanele kube yinto yokugcina. Kodwa izingane ezinenkinga yentukuthelo, ukuphuma ngokuvamile kuba yindlela yokuqala yokuzivikela.
Uma ingane yakho ihlukumeza ukuxazulula izinkinga , ukuxazulula izingxabano , noma ukucela usizo, kungenzeka ukuthi usebenzisa ukuhlukunyezwa njengendlela yokuthola izidingo zakhe zihlangane. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukufundisa amakhono amasha kungasiza ingane ukuba ifunde ukuthi ukuziphatha okunonya akudingekile.
4. Ama-Meltdowns nama-Temper Tantrums awafani neze-Age.
Nakuba kuvamile ukuba oneminyaka engu-2 ubudala aziphonsa phansi bese ekhahlela izinyawo lapho ehlanya, akuyona into evamile kumuntu oneminyaka engu-8 ubudala. Ama-meltdown kufanele anciphise ngokuvama nokuqina njengoba ingane yakho ikhula.
Uma ubhekene nentukuthelo yengane yakho ibonakala iyanda , kuyisixwayiso sokuthi unenkinga yokulawula imizwelo yakhe.
Kungenzeka ukuthi udinga ukuqeqesha nokuqeqeshwa ukuze amsize ukuveza imizwa yakhe ngendlela efanele.
5. Ingane Yakho Inokubekezela Okuphansi Ukukhungatheka.
Njengoba izingane zivuthiwe, kufanele zithuthukise ikhono elikhudlwana lokubekezelela imisebenzi ephazamisayo. Uma unyaka wakho oneminyaka engu-7 ephonsa amathoyizi akhe wokwakha lapho indalo yakhe iguqulwa, noma izinyunyana ezineminyaka engu-9 ubudala ziphakamisa amaphepha akhe njalo lapho enza iphutha emsebenzini wakhe wesikole, angase adinge usizo lokukwakha ukukhathazeka ukubekezelelana.
Funa usizo lobuchwepheshe
Uma unzima ukufundisa amasu akho wokuphatha intukuthelo yengane, funa usizo lochwepheshe. Qala ngokukhuluma nodokotela wezingane wengane yakho mayelana nokukhathazeka kwakho.
Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuhanjiswa kumchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo kungasiza. Ukwelashwa kungabandakanya ukubhekana nezinkinga ezingaphansi, ukufundisa amakhono amasha, noma ukukusiza ukuthola amasu okuqeqesha ingane yakho.