Abazali abaningi banomuzwa wokuthi izingane zabo zingenakulawulwa ngezikhathi ezithile. Kodwa ngokuvamile, lowo mzwa uhamba ngokushesha. Kwabazali abathile, noma kunjalo, abahlukumezi izingane baye baba yinto evamile. Izingane zabo zenqaba ukulalela, ziphula imithetho, futhi azikwazi ukukhathalela kancane ngemiphumela.
Uma uzizwa sengathi izingane zakho ziphelile, thatha izinyathelo zokuthola amandla akho.
Ukugcina igunya lakho kubalulekile empilweni yakho yengane-futhi kubalulekile impilo yakho engokomzwelo futhi.
Ukusungula Imithetho Kuyisisekelo
Kholwa noma cha, izingane zithanda imithetho nemingcele. Izingane zizwa ziphephile uma zithemba abazali bazo ziyiziqondiso ezinhle ezingahle zibeke futhi ziphoqele imithetho. Lapho izingane zingathembi ukuthi abazali bazo bangakwazi ukugcina ukuhleleka, bahlangabezana nokucindezeleka okukhulu. Futhi ukucindezeleka kungaholela ezinkingeni eziningi zokuziphatha.
Izindlela Zokuthola Izingane Zakho Ukulalela
Uma unzima ukuthola izingane zakho zilalele, lezi zindlela zingasiza:
- Misa imithetho yasekhaya . Nciphisa ukuphikisana ngokudala uhlu olucacile lwemithetho. Gxila emithethweni eyisisekelo njengokuthi "Sebenzisa amagama anomusa," futhi "Buza ngaphambi kokuboleka izinto." Imithetho ingacindezelwa kalula uma ibhalwa phansi futhi ixoxwa njengomndeni.
- Yakha isakhiwo ngosuku lwezingane zakho . Thola umndeni ngesimiso ngokusungula isakhiwo esengeziwe ngosuku lwengane yakho. Yakha isikhathi somsebenzi wesikole, imisebenzi yasekhaya, isidlo sakusihlwa, imisebenzi yomndeni, nokudlala. Bese uzama ukunamathela esimisweni ngangokunokwenzeka ezinsukwini zamasonto.
- Nika imisebenzi . Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izingane zakho zineminyaka engu-4 noma engu-14, kubalulekile ukwabela imisebenzi ejwayelekile yobudala. Thola izingane zakho zisetshenziselwe ukungena ngaphakathi ukuze zikwazi ukujwayela ukuba amalungu omthwalo wemindeni.
- Sebenzisa ukubaluleka kukagogo wesiyalo . Gxila kulokho abantwana bakho abangakwenza , kunalokho abangakwazi . Ngakho esikhundleni sokuthi, "Awukho i-TV kuze kube yilapho uhlanza ikamelo lakho," uthi, "Ungabuka i-TV ngokushesha lapho igumbi lakho lihlanzekile." Nika izinqumo ezinhle ezizokunika ingane yakho ukulawula okuncane.
- Nikeza imiyalo ephumelelayo . Indlela enikeza ngayo izikhombandlela izindaba. Qiniseka futhi uqondise futhi unikeze imfundo eyodwa ngesikhathi esisodwa. Sebenzisa izwi elizolile futhi uqinisekise ukuthi unake ingane yakho ngaphambi kokukhuluma.
Nikeza Imiphumela Yokuziphatha Okungalungile
Yakha imiphumela ecacile yokuphula imithetho. Kubalulekile ukuhambisana nemiphumela. Uma izingane zakho ziyazi ukwephulwa komthetho ngamunye kuzoholela ekulandeleni okusheshayo, ngeke zenzeke kabi.
Cabanga ngokucophelela ukuthi yiyiphi yalezi ziphumo ezingase ziphumelele kumntwana ngamunye:
- Isikhathi sokuphuma : Isikhathi sokuphuma sisebenza kahle kakhulu ezinganeni ezingaphansi kweminyaka engu-8. Uma ingane yakho yenqaba ukuya ekuphumeni, noma ngeke ihlale isikhathi sokuphuma, ungamcindezeli. Kunalokho, thatha ilungelo.
- Thatha ilungelo : Thatha ama-electronics, ithoyizi eliyintandokazi, noma umsebenzi ovela kumntanakho. Vele uqiniseke ukuthi awusithathi lawo ma lungelo isikhathi eside kakhulu. Umntanakho angase alahle noma angase enze okubi nakakhulu uma uthatha amalungelo amaningi noma uyasusa izinsuku noma amasonto ngesikhathi.
- Ukubuyisela kabusha : Uma ukuziphatha okubi komntanakho kuthinta omunye umuntu, ukubuyisela kungenzeka kube kuhle. Mtshele ukuthi enze umsebenti othile kumuntu omlimazile noma ambolekise ithoyizi lakhe eliyintandokazi kumuntu ohlukumezekile.
- Imiphumela emihle : Nikeza ingane yakho ithuba lokuzibophezela ngokuziphatha kwayo. Uma ebala emasongweni, yenza ukuthi ahlanze. Uma ephule okuthile, menze akhokhe ukuze alungise.
Ungadangali uma ukuziphatha kwengane yakho kubonakala sengathi kuhamba kancane ngaphambi kokuthi kube ngcono. Uma uqala ukunikeza imiphumela, ingane engaphumelelanga izodonsela emuva. Uma ebona ukuthi uzimisele kakhulu ngokubhekana nemiphumela, ukuziphatha kwakhe kungase kube nokuthula.
Nikeza izingane zakho izinzuzo zokukwenza kangcono
Uma ingane yakho ingashukunyiswa ukuba ilandele imithetho, ingase idinge ezinye izikhuthazo ezengeziwe ukuze umgcine ethrekhi.
Sebenzisa ukuqiniswa okuhle ukumkhuthaza ukuba alandele imithetho.
Nazi ezinye izikhuthazo ezingase zithuthukise ukuziphatha kwengane yakho:
- Ukudumisa : Thatha ingane yakho ibe yinto enhle. Yisho izinto ezinjengalezi, "Ngiyabonga ukuthi ubeka isidlo sakho esikebheni," noma "Siyabonga ngokudlala ngokuthula ngenkathi ngisefonini." Ukunakekelwa okuhle kungadlulela ekukhuliseni izingane ukuqhubeka nomsebenzi omuhle.
- Ukuvuza ukuziphatha okuhle : Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi udala ishadi lesitika elibhekise ekuziphatheni okukodwa noma wenza ishadi lokuziphatha eligcina umkhondo wokuziphatha okuningi phakathi nesonto, imivuzo ebonakalayo ingabangela ushintsho lokuziphatha. Khumbula ukuthi kunezinzuzo eziningi zamahhala nezindleko eziphansi ezisebenza njengezikhuthazi ezinhle. Omunye umbono omuhle kakhulu ukuya esitolo sakho sase dollar sendawo bese ulayisha izinto ezinganeni yakho ozikhethela kuzo.
- Yakha uhlelo lwezomnotho lwe-token : Bonisa ingane yakho ukuthi amalungelo, njengokudlala imidlalo yevidiyo noma ukuya epaki, kufanele athole. Yakha uhlelo lwezomnotho lwe-token oluvumela ingane yakho ukuba ikhokhelwe kumathokheni akhe ngamalungelo.
Funa usizo lobuchwepheshe
Uma amasu akho wokuziphatha engasebenzi, funa usizo lochwepheshe . Qala ngokukhuluma nodokotela wezingane wengane yakho mayelana nokukhathazeka kwakho. Udokotela angakwazi ukukudlulisela ochwepheshe bezinsizakalo ezifanele emphakathini wakho.
Uchwepheshe angakwazi ukunikeza wena nabantwana bakho ukungenelela, amakhono nokusekela okuzokusiza ukuthi uphinde ulawule umndeni. Abaqeqeshi bomzali kanye namaqembu okusekela abazali angabuye abe yimithombo ebalulekile.
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