Amathiphu wokuphila okungcono kocansi uma usebenzisana nokungenzi lutho
Ukuzama ukukhulelwa ocansini kungaba mnandi futhi kujabulise ... ekuqaleni. Kodwa njengoba izinyanga noma iminyaka ihamba, ubulili bungaba umthombo wokukhungatheka nokucindezeleka. Ucwaningo luye lwabona ukuthi imibhangqwana eminingi ilwa nobulili nokungabi namandla .
Ungayithuthukisa kanjani impilo yakho yobulili uma uzama ukukhulelwa?
Azikho izimpendulo ezilula. Ungase uzizwe ukhungathekile uma ufunda izinhlamvu zokuhlakanipha ezinjengokuthi "hamba izinsuku eziningi ndawonye" noma "uphazamise ubulili namanye amakhandlela."
Yebo, kunendawo yalezi zindlela. Nokho, akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ubuhlungu bokungakhulelwa kungaba bujulile. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuthola nje amandla noma ukuzimisela ukuzama izinto ezintsha kunzima.
Njengoba ufunda ngalezi zeluleko, gcina konke lokhu engqondweni. Lesi seluleko asihloswanga ukugxila ukuthi kunzima kanjani lesi sikhathi kuwe, umlingani wakho, kanye nobuhlobo bakho bocansi .
Khuluma Nomunye Nomunye
Imibhangqwana eminingi ezama ukuzwakalisa ukukhulelwa ...
- nemizwa ye-libido ephansi
- izinkinga zokuvuswa ngesikhathi socansi
- inkinga yokufinyelela i-orgasm
Abanye bangase baqale ukucasula ubulili. Ungabaza ukuthi ngabe umlingani wakho uzoba nesithakazelo yini "ekamelweni lokulala" uma induku ye-ovulation yayingabonisi ukuthi isikhathi siphelile.
Ngenkathi abantu abaningi bezwa lezi zinto, abaningi abakhulumi ngabo.
Kunalokho, bayigcina yonke ibhodlela ngaphakathi. Lokhu kuqinisa imizwa yokuzihlukanisa, ukuhlazeka nokucasuka.
Akulula, kodwa kubalulekile ukukhulumisana.
Khuluma ngokuthi uzizwa kanjani ngocansi, yini ehamba ngayo engqondweni yakho, nokuthi yini ekubangela inkathazo.
Mhlawumbe kunzima nakakhulu, udinga ukulalela.
Uma umlingani wakho ekutshela ukuthi ubulili bube yindlala noma umthwalo, yizwa lokho abakushoyo. Ungacabangi ngokuzenzakalelayo ukuthi ukuhlaselwa kwakho.
Ulapha kulokhu ndawonye.
Kuphela kuphela ongathola indlela yokubhekana nayo.
Sula ukuhlambalaza
Ukungenzi lutho kungaveza imizwa yokuhlazola amadoda nabesifazane. Kuvame ukuxilongwa ukushiya owesifazane ezwa "ewonakele" noma "njengowesifazane ongaphansi." Amadoda angenalutho angase abike ukuthi uzizwa "ungaphansi komuntu."
Ngisho noma ngabe wake wazizwa unomusa futhi ukhangayo esikhathini esidlule, ukungabi namandla kungashintsha indlela ozibona ngayo.
Ukuhlolwa nokwelashwa kokungazalwa kungabangela nemizwa yokuhlazeka. Ungase uqale ukuzizwa njengeqoqo lezingxenye, ezinye zisebenza futhi ezinye zingekho, konke kuxhomeke ekuhlolweni.
Enye yezindlela ezinhle zokulwa namahloni ukuletha imizwa yakho yokungafaneleki.
Inhloni ifana nokubunjwa. Yigcine endaweni emnyama futhi izokhula. Thatha ilanga nomoya omusha, futhi ngeke ukhule ngokushesha.
Ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho ehlazo kuyosiza. Qinisekisa ukukhetha othile ocabanga ukuthi angakunika ngendlebe enomusa. (Lokho akusho ukuthi kumele babone ukungabi nabantwana.)
Khuluma nomngani. Khuluma nomtholampilo. Khuluma nomlingani wakho.
Ukumemezela ngokuzwakalayo ukuthi uzizwa ungathandeki noma uveza ukukhathazeka kwakho ukuthi umlingani wakho uzokushiya "indoda yangempela" noma "owesifazane wangempela" kungesabeka. Kodwa ukuthatha ihlazo ekuvuleleni kuyindlela engcono yokuyibulala.
Pice Izinto Up
Cha, ukukhanyisa amanye amakhandlela nokudlala umculo osheshayo akuyikugeza konke ukungabi nobuhlungu obubuhlungu obulethele empilweni yakho. Nokho, kungasiza. Kancane.
Kufana nokwenza uzomomotheka uma uzizwa ungalungile. Uqinisekile ukuthi ngeke kusize nhlobo. Kodwa uma uzama, uyamangala ukuthi uzizwa kangcono kangakanani.
Ikakhulukazi uma udokotela wakho "enikeze" ucansi ngezinsuku ezithile, ukuphenya izinto kungaba yindlela engcono kakhulu yokulwa nezinkinga zokuvusa.
Kungase kukhulise amathuba akho ekuphumeleleni ukukhulelwa.
Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi amadoda akhiqiza isidoda esiningi emva kokubuka izithombe ezithandwayo futhi uma ezwa ukuthi ivuliwe.
Abesifazane abavuswa ngokocansi banamathuba amaningi okuba namanzi amaningi omlomo wesibeletho , okuzosiza ukuthutha isibhamu endaweni efanele.
Kukhona ngisho nokucwaninga ukusho ukuthi i- orgasm yesifazane ingasiza ekukhulelwe .
Sebenzisa i-Fertility-Amakhemikhali Ahlelekile
Ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kocansi ukukhulelwa kungaphazamisa ukuvusa. Kulaba besifazane, lokhu kungase kusho ukungazizwa "kumanzi" noma ukungabi namanzi okuphuza ngesikhathi socansi. Lokhu kungenza ubulili bubuhlungu .
Amafutha okujwayelekile emakethe akulungile ukuzama ukukhulelwa. Eziningi zazo zibulala noma zivimbela ukuhamba kwesidoda , ngisho nangaphandle kokungezwa kwesibindi.
Nokho, lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele uhlupheke ngocansi olubuhlungu.
Kukhona amakhemikhali ambalwa avumela ukutholakala atholakalayo.
Uma uvame ukukhathazeka ngokuphuma kwamanzi, khuluma nodokotela wakho. Kungaba uphawu lwekungalingani kwe-hormonal. Ulwazi lungamsiza ukuthi aphathe ukungasebenzi kwakho.
Udokotela wakho angase futhi akwazi ukunikeza i-estrogen. Lokhu kungasiza ukwandisa uketshezi komlomo wesibeletho .
Yehlisa ukugxila ekuvuthweni nasekupheleni kwesikhathi
Uma nje ungekho phakathi kokwelashwa , futhi udokotela wakho akakunikanga ukuthi ulale ocansini ngosuku oluthile, kungase kube ngcono ukuyeka ukubikezelwa kwe- ovulation okwesikhashana.
Ukuzama ukwenza ucansi ezinsukwini ezivundile kakhulu kuyindlela enhle yokukhulelwa ngokushesha . Kodwa uma kubulala ubuhlobo bakho bobulili, akufanelekile.
Esikhundleni salokho, zama ukulala ocansini kabili kuya kathathu ngesonto, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usuku lwakho lwe- ovulation . Uma ufuna ukuba ngaphezulu "ephephile," ube nobulili okungenani kathathu ngesonto, mhlawumbe izikhathi ezine.
U-u-ure ufanele ulale ocansini kwenye yezinsuku zakho ezivundile, ngisho noma kungewona usuku lwakho oluvundile kakhulu.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukulala ocansini kaningi kungakhuphula amathuba akho. I-sperm iphilile lapho ucansi lwenzeka njalo.
Enye ibhonasi, uma ubulili obukhipha isikhathi sokukhulelwa bukuvimbela futhi kukucindezele, ungase ujabulele ubulili uma kungakalungiselelwa kuphela ukwenziwa kwezingane.
Hlola Ukuthinta Ngokwecansi Ngaphandle Kokulala Ngokwemvelo
Ukuzama ukukhulelwa kungasenza sikhohlwe ukuthi ubulili bungaphezu kokuya ocansini.
Ngokuqinisekile, udinga ukulala ngokomzimba ukuze ukhulelwe. (Ukucabanga ukuthi awunayo ukwelashwa kwe- IUI noma i- IVF , noma uzama ukusabalalisa ekhaya ) Kodwa kunezinye izindlela eziseduze zokubonisa uthando nokuthandana.
Ukuthatha isikhathi sokujabulela ukuthinta okungakwazi ukuholela ekukhulelweni kunganikeza i-outlet yokuzijabulisa ngokocansi engahlanganiswa ngqo nokwenza izingane.
Ukuya ocansini uma ungakwazi ukukhulelwa
Enye indlela yokubuyisela ugqozi nokuzijabulisa ukuhlosa ngokocansi uma ungenayo i- ovulating .
Ngesikhathi sakho seviki ezimbili ulinda , noma ngaphambi kwezinsuku zakho ezivundile ekuqaleni komjikelezo wakho, ungazi ukuthi ubulili ngeke buholele emntwaneni. Kukhona ukucindezeleka okuncane futhi uzibuza ukuthi "lokhu kuzoba okusebenzayo."
Kungaphinda kuphulukise imizwa phakathi kozakwethu uma umuntu ebuza ukuthi acela kuphela ucansi ukuze afeze ukukhulelwa.
Bheka oTherapist
Awudingi ukuhamba ngalokhu kuphela. Kukhona abeluleki abaqeqeshwe ngokuqondile ukukusiza ukuba ubhekane nokucindezeleka kokungabikho . Bangakusiza wena nomlingani wakho ukuthi nithole lesi sikhathi esinzima.
Kukhona futhi abathintekayo kwezocansi, abantu abaqeqeshwe ukukusiza ngobuhlobo bakho bocansi. Zama ukuthola umuntu onokuhlangenwe nakho esebenza nemibhangqwana enenzalo, ngakho-ke awutholi ngengozi umuntu ekunika imibono yamanga.
(Uma bakutshela ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho bocansi buyimbangela yokungasebenzi kwakho, isibonelo, thola omunye umuntu.)
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