Kungani intsha isetshenziselwa ukuhlambalaza inthanethi ukuhlaselwa izisulu okwesibili
Njalo ngemizuzwana engu-98, othile e-United States uhlaselwa ngokocansi. Futhi kaningi kunalokho, leso sisulu singumfana osemusha. Eqinisweni, abesifazane abaphakathi kweminyaka engu-16 no-19 banamathuba amane okuba izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi kunanoma ubani omunye emphakathini.
Ukwenza izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu, kukhona umkhuba okhulayo phakathi kwentsha abese ehlazeka amantombazane enkundleni ngemva kokuhlaselwa, ngezinye izikhathi besebenzisa amavidiyo ehlaselwa kanye nokuhlukunyezwa amagama nokuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi .
Kumantombazane amaningi, ukuhlazeka kwenhlamba nokuhlazeka komphakathi kufana nokuhlaselwa okwesibili. Iningi lamantombazane libika ukuthi empeleni libuhlungu kakhulu ukubhekana nalokhu kunokuhlasela okuqala. Futhi ekugcineni, abanye besifazane abasha bazithathela impilo yabo ngenxa yalokho.
Amacala amabili evelele okubandakanya ukuhlaselwa ngokocansi nokuhlambalaza kwe-inthanethi kuhilela isizwe saseCalifornia, i-Audrie Potts, neCanada, iRehtaeh Parsons. Kuzo zombili izimo, amantombazane amancane aya emcimbini, aphuze kakhulu, futhi adlwengulwa ngenkathi engaphenduli. Izithombe zokuhlaselwa kamuva zithunyelwe ku-intanethi kanye namazwana anokulimaza nama-innuendos. Babuye bathola imiyalezo enonya futhi bamemezela ubulili ngenkathi behlukaniswa futhi belahliwe abangane babo nabangane babo. Ukuhlazeka kanye nobuhlungu ababazwa ngemva kokuhlaselwa ngokocansi kwaqiniswa ukuhlazeka nokusola okwenzekile. Ekugcineni, omabili amantombazane ayengasakwazi ukuthatha ubuhlungu futhi azibulale .
Kungani Izisulu Zokuhlaselwa Ngokweqile Zokuhlukunyezwa Ngokwezingane Zisencane?
Bambalwa kakhulu, uma kunjalo, ontanga bayomela isisulu sokuhlaselwa ngocansi. Esikhundleni salokho, bavame ukuzibandakanya ukuhlambalaza umphakathi nokuhlukunyezwa kwesisulu . Nakuba kunezici ezimbalwa ezidlala kule ndlela yokuziphatha kufaka phakathi ukucindezela kontanga , ama-cliques , nesifiso esiqinekayo sokuhlangana, ukuhlazeka okwenzekayo kuphazamisa abantu abadala.
Kodwa abanye abacwaningi bakhombise ukuthi imbangela yalesi sigameko-ukusola ukuthi abamekeli nabafakazi abafuni ukuzizwa bengalawuli. Futhi ukuqaphela ukuthi noma ubani angaba yisisulu kubonisa ukuthi akuwona konke okusemandleni abo. Ngenxa yalokho, kuvamise kulula ukusola isisulu kunokubona ukuthi ukuhlaselwa ngokocansi kungenzeka kunoma ubani. Kulula ukubuza ukuthi wenzeni ukukwenza noma ukucabanga ukuthi ulethile kuye kunokuba aqaphele iqiniso lokuthi omunye noma ngaphezulu wabafundi abakanye nawo angaphula omunye umuntu ngaleyo ndlela.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, abantu abaningi bakuthola kulula ukuzwelana nabafana abenza ukuhlaselwa futhi bazame ukuwavikela ekujezisweni kunokuthola ubulungiswa kumantombazane. Esikhundleni sabantu abakhuluma ngokumelene nokuhlaselwa, bayazibuza ukuthi "wenzeni ukuze akwenze?" Noma "ngabe kufanele azi kangcono kunokuphuza okuningi."
Esinye isenzakalo esisebenza ngokuhlambalaza ku-intanethi yisibindi, futhi ngezinye izikhathi singaziwa, ukuthi abantu abasha bahlangabezana nakho uma bebhekene neskrini sekhompyutheni. Ngokuvamile, kulula kakhulu ukusho izinto ezinzima ezivela enduduzo yendlu yakubo kunokuba kungasho ukuthi lezizinto ezifanayo emphakathini. Kodwa yiziphi izingane ezivame ukukhohlwa ukuthi ukuthumela imibono kumithombo yezokuxhumana kuyisenzo esidlangalaleni kakhulu.
Kufana nokumemeza imicabango yabo phakathi kwendawo yesikwele. Abantu abaningi bafunda lokho abakulolayo futhi bayathinteka yilo, okufana nokuthi bayamemeza.
Isihluthulelo sokuvimbela lolu hlobo lokuhlaselwa kwe-inthanethi ngabafundi ukuwenza bazwele ngesisulu . Futhi kuyasiza uma bebona umonakalo wamazwi abo ahlukumezayo, izahlulelo, kanye namazwana asesiswini. Ukubenza baqaphele ukuthi lokho okushiwo yisisulu kubuhlungu kakhulu kuhamba phambili ekusizeni ukuvimbela ukuhlambalaza kwe-intanethi.
I-Online Shaming Yenzani Izisulu Zokuhlaselwa Ngcansi?
Uma othile ehlaselwa ngokocansi, akuyona into engavamile ukuba bazibeke icala ngokwenzekayo.
Bazigxeka ngaphakathi ngenxa yokungakwazi ukuyeka ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi ukuthi kwenzeke noma ukungenzi okuthile ngokuhlukile. Kuyinto evamile ukuthi izisulu zokuhlaselwa zizwe zihlazo kakhulu ngalokho okwenzekile kubo.
Ukuphulukisa kulokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okudabukisayo, ukuthi yini abayidingayo ngempela ukuzwa kubantu ukuthi abafanelwe ukuhlaselwa, ukuthi abazange bayibangele, nokuthi akusoze balahlwe. Kodwa lokhu akukona okwenzekayo lapho behlazekile ku-intanethi ngenxa ye-trauma abakhuthazele. Esikhundleni salokho, ziyizihlukumezi zokubiza amagama, ukuhlambalaza , ukuxhaphazwa kwe-cyberbullying, konke okuqinisa ihlazo abazizwayo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuhlazeka okusesidlangalaleni kungaba nomthelela omubi ekubuyiseni kwawo. Eqinisweni, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi lapho amantombazane amancane esolwa ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, abika ukucindezeleka okukhulu, ukucindezeleka okukhulu, nokucabanga okuningi ngokuzibulala. Ukuhlukunyezwa-kungabangela ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka okuphazamiseka ngemuva kokudabuka . Zonke lezi zinto zime endleleni yokubuyiselwa.
Izisulu nazo zingase zithembeke, zodwa futhi zodwa, ikakhulukazi uma abangane babo bebonakala banyamalala futhi akekho omelela kubo. Ekugcineni, lokhu kuthulisa okuyingxenye yabangane okuthiwa abangani kanye nokuhlambalaza nokuhlukunyezwa kubangela isiko lokudlwengula.
Yini Eyidlwengula Isintu Ephathelene Nayo?
Isimo sokudlwengula e-United States sikhuliswa yinkolelo yokuthi isisulu ngandlela-thile sinecala lokuhlaselwa kwakhe. Ngamanye amazwi, abantu bakuthola kulula ukucabanga ukuthi isisulu sifanele ukuhlaselwa ngendlela ethile. Ngokwesibonelo, abantu bangase bamsole ngendlela azigqoka ngayo bese ethi uyayicela. Noma, bangase bacabange ukuthi ufanelwe ukudlwengulwa ngoba uzibeka esimweni esiyingozi noma aphuze kakhulu. Ukuhlambalaza i-slut kubangelwa nomqondo wokuthi amanye amantombazane afanele ukuhlonishwa kancane kunabanye futhi afanele ukudlwengulwa.
Lapho abantu behlanganyela ezinkolelweni zokuhlukunyezwa-njengalezi, bayatshela abesifazane ukuthi bayolula ubuhlungu nokuhlupheka abaye babhekana nakho. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, lezi zinkolelo azenzi lutho lokuthi umdlwenguli uzolandisa. Esikhundleni salokho, abantu bazwelana nomdlwenguli ngokulila ngokuthi "izimpilo zabo zonakalisiwe." Izibonelo ezimbili ezivelele zalolu hlobo lokucabanga zihilela icala likaDeubenville lokudlwengula kanye nomphakathi weStanford owadlwengula owesifazane ongenalwazi.
Uma isiko lokudlwengula senziwa ngalolu hlobo lokucabanga, singabangela izisulu ukuthi zihlale zithula ngokuhlasela kwazo. Lokhu kuyingozi ngoba kuyalimaza isisulu ngokudlwengula, ngakho-ke abadlwenguli bangangeni enkingeni. Eqinisweni, kubikwa kuphela isigamu sokudlwengula, kanti amaphesenti amathathu kuphela abadlwenguli bachitha okungenani usuku olulodwa etilongweni. Lo mjikelezo ononya uzoqhubeka uma nje abantu beqhubeka bekholelwa ukuthi amantombazane adlwengulwa ngenxa yento abenzile.
Yini Ongayenza Ukuze Uvimbele Ukuhlukunyezwa Ngokocansi no-Shaming Online?
Ngenxa yezisulu zamanje, kanye nezisulu ezingase zibe khona, kubalulekile ukuthi unselele uhlelo lokukholelwa ukuthi abanye abahlukunyezwa ngandlela-thile bangabekwa icala lokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi. Ukwenza kanjalo, othisha, abazali, kanye nabaholi bomphakathi kumele bathathe izinyathelo zokuvimbela izimo ezizayo zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi nokuhlambalaza kwe-intanethi. Nazi ezinye izindlela lapho lokhu kungenziwa khona.
- Chaza zonke izinhlobo zokungaziphathi kahle ngokocansi . Ngokuphindaphindiwe, uma intombazane encane ihlaselwa ngokocansi, u-defense uthi akakaze athi cha noma ukuthi izenzo zazingenwa yi-consensual. Noma, bangase bathi le nsizwa ayengazi ukuthi lokho akwenza kwakungalungile. Abazali, othisha, abaqondisi bekolishi, nabaholi bomphakathi kudingeka bafundise abafundi ngezinhlobo ezihlukahlukene zokuziphatha ngokocansi okungafanelekile kuhlanganise konke okuthunyelwe ngokuthumelelana nge- sexting nokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili ukuya ekuhlaselweni ngokocansi nokudlwengulwa. Intsha isencane futhi isanda futhi idinga ukwazi ukuthi ukuzibandakanya kulezi zinhlobo zokuziphatha kungqubuzana nomthetho. Akufanele nanini kube nombuzo wokuthi lokho abakwenzayo akulungile.
- Yakha izinqubomgomo eziqinile . Ngaphandle kwemithetho yokulwa nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, izikole eziphakeme kanye namakholeji zidinga ukubeka izinqubomgomo eziqinile ezibandakanya ukuziphatha kabi ngokobulili kuhlanganise nokuxoshwa esikoleni. Kudingeka babe nemigomo endaweni ngokuhlanganyela ngamavidiyo, ukuqhutshwa kwe-cyberbullying , nokuhlambalaza abanye abafundi ngokuhlambalaza obala. Ukukhulumisana nalezi zinqubomgomo ngokusebenzisa amaqembu abafundi, imihlangano yesikole, izincwadi zezindaba, ukufakwa kwezindaba kanye nezinye izindlela zokuthola igama. Akufanele neze kube khona ukungabaza kulokho okuzojeziswa khona ngokuhlukumeza ngokocansi umfundi bese behlambalaza emphakathini. Ngisho namahemuhemu nokuhleba kungabhekiswa enqubomgomo.
- Khuluma isikhalazo ngasinye . Uma esikoleni esiphakeme noma ekolishi ithola isikhalazo esibandakanya ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, kudingeka babe nezinqubomgomo ezikhona ukuze kulungiswe lezo zikhalo ngokushesha. Futhi akufanele baphambuke ekubambeni abenzi bokuhlukumeza ngokocansi abaphendulayo. Ukwenza kanjalo akugcini nje kuphela ukubeka indawo yokufunda ephephile kwabafundi, kodwa futhi kudala isimo lapho izisulu zizwa ziphephile ekubikeni kokubika. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, isikole sigcwalisa umthwalo wayo wokuziphatha nokuziphatha ukuhlinzeka indawo ephephile yabafundi ukuba bafunde.
- Isho okuthile. Mhlawumbe indlela ebaluleke kakhulu yokuqeda ukuhlambalaza nokudlwengula ku-intanethi ukubiza labo abazama ukuhlazeka nokuhlazisa amantombazane amancane aba nesibindi sokuza phambili nokubika ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi. Ngokwesibonelo, uma ubona ukuhlambalaza kwe-inthanethi, tshela okuthile ngakho. Futhi, nikeza ukusekela kulabo abanesibindi sokwethula iqiniso. Njengomsindisi ohlukunyezwa ngokocansi uDaisy Coleman uthi ku-documentary, u- Audrie noDaisy : "Amazwi ezitha zethu awawona amanga kakhulu njengokuthula kwabangane bethu."